dark-07 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I have no problem with the N/C with ex bf. In fact, through my experiences, it is the BEST thing to do (at some point in life, they come back for you, but at that point, you've moved on with someone else & you see them as pond scum when they make their return). Sorry went off topic....However, in the process of this BU (long story), I lost my girls to chat with in person or girls to go shopping with - The GENERAL GIRL TALK. This online thing is great for chatting, but I am missing the instantaneous girl to girl interactions. Because I'm so lonely, I've resorted to setting up meets with online guys and I am not ready to get back on that swing...I only do it because I am so lonely and get to hear a voice! Not fair to my meet, but it serves my purpose well (yes a tad selfish). Is anyone else experiencing this? In this day and age of virtual living, how do people make friendships face to face?
Conscience Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I hear ya! I’m 37 year old guy with friends that are mostly married or coupled! Maybe engaging in group sport could be fun and it could help you meet new people, online dating can also be fun and somewhat entertaining but very time consuming. I know how hard it is to feel lonely!!! I’m the type of person that needs to be surrounded with people I guess there is no magic trick on making new friends but to be open to the idea of making new friends seems to facilitate social interactions with others...
Author dark-07 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 I do work out at the gym quite a bit in group classes, but I find that the women there are clicky in that they have already determined their packs and they aint lettin' anybody else in! I'm at the point in my life where I am not ready to date as I just recently broke up with my boyfriend. I also have married friends with babies. Recently I had to let go of some toxic friends, which was hard to do, but it needed to be done. For online dating, I find that from guys there is a certain level of expectation of eventually putting out...however it would be nice if I could just say "look lets just be friends okay?", lol....so frustrated....
Conscience Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I do work out at the gym quite a bit in group classes, but I find that the women there are clicky in that they have already determined their packs and they aint lettin' anybody else in! I'm at the point in my life where I am not ready to date as I just recently broke up with my boyfriend. I also have married friends with babies. Recently I had to let go of some toxic friends, which was hard to do, but it needed to be done. For online dating, I find that from guys there is a certain level of expectation of eventually putting out...however it would be nice if I could just say "look lets just be friends okay?", lol....so frustrated.... Sometimes it’s to put ourselves out there and try new things! At one point I took some dance classes hahaha it’s was funny... Ok I admit it I didn't make any friends there as the average age was 50 but it’s a simple example... I know it’s frustrating I’m in a similar situation! I'd like to make new friends but it’s not easy.... And let’s face it often we don't really care about what strangers have to say! Try to think outside the box
Own Worst Enemy Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I've often thought that the best way to use a dating site would actually be to find 2 or 3 girls you like the look of as mates and go out for drinks... You'd have fun, meet new friends, and they are bound to have brothers or friends or colleagues to introduce you to. I think it would work brilliantly. Shame it can't be implemented without looking like a weirdo, eh?! Whereabouts in the world do you live?
Author dark-07 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 Great idea! It could be called "I need a Friend.com" I live in Canada. We do have something called meetup.com, but I'm skeptical because one of their activities is euchre...really not my thing. @ conscience, I have thought of joining a dance class, but the thought of dancing close to someone who may be potentially creepy really grosses me out.
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