Letdown77 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Let me start with before this my husband and i had a perfect marriage for 2 years. we were solid. My husband was stationed in Cuba and about 4 months in I told him I wasn't sure if I loved him. (I was pregnant and hormonal and missed him) I took it back the next day. He said it really messed with his mind. He couldn't understand why I would say that when we were so happy. He said he was confused and needed to think. Then I was assaulted. When he found out he told me he loved me...but I told him not to say that just because of what happen. He came back for 2 weeks on emergency leave but during that time I pretended I was fine I didn't need him cause I didn't want him to be with me out of pitty. Then he went back and a few days later I pushed for an answer and he asked for a divorce. A few days after that he slept with someone down there and started something with her. Then she left and he was still there. He asked for me back and I said yes. But he kept talking to her through email and text. During this time I was on a dating site talking to men. Then he came home on leave again...all that happen within a month. He came home for our sons birth. (I was pregnant during all this) then he kept texting her during this time and about half way through he said he didn't feel a connection. And still wanted a divorce. I said ok. He went back to Cuba. I found the records of the, talking while on leave. I was so mad and hurt. He lied and said it was just some girl he meet at the pool. (I found out the sex and all that later) he said he still wanted a divorce. So I got back on the dating site and he kept talking to that girl. I made out with someone and started talking to them...then he cut things off with her and asked for me back...I said yes. But he still had 5 more months. We planned to go visit and everything seemed on track...again I didn't know yet about the sex. There was a hurricane the day I was supposed to see him and I couldn't go, I ended up going to see a guy and had sex and spent the night. The next morning I got run off the road by my stalker. My husband was notified and was allowed to come home early. We got to our new duty station and now we both know everything. He says he did that with this girl because he was so hurt and angry about what I said and the distance. He couldn't get over I said I didn't love him and he didn't believe me when I took it back. He said that when he came back for the assault that I acted like I didn't need him which made it more clear he thought I didn't love him. He said he was so sad and upset he went to the first person that showed him affection and club to that. He had no one down there and now not even the love of his life. I don't know why I did what I did.....but we had a perfect marriage I mean perfect before this...so I need opinions and advice Do you believe after ready this that it was just a bad time for us. That spiraled out of control and we can get over it? That it was circumstances? hElP
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