Vs76 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 years. 2 years into our relationship he went to jail for a year and a half and i stayed faithful...i was so in love with him. He got out we went on with our relationship. Then a year after that he got locked up again for another year. However this time 7 months into his sentence i cheated. I was lonely...i hadnt been intimate in 7 months so of course i felt i was in need. Needless to say he heard about it when he came home. He says i should have told him but i was scared, he has a bad temper. Its been almost a year and he asks me about it everyday. A few times he has slapped me. When we play fight sometimes he hits me extra hard im feeling like that's his way of taking his anger out on me. It seems like his friends are dying to help us break up they bring it up and sets him crazy then im the one who has to go home with him and be yelled and screamed at. He says if he ever finds out he will give me the beating i never had. Im sorry and im scared he is good to me other than this situation. Ive stressed so much i have lost about 30 pounds. He left me twice to go to jail over something he did. Please give me some advice somebody anybody.
Balzac Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Invest some effort to understand why you seek to involve yourself with a a users. What you describe here is a problem within yourself, he's just an accessory to the crime.
Author Vs76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 I do have some issues im dealing with. I no i can do better but i feel like i let him down when he needed me the most. So i let him treat me that way to make him feel better i guess. Maybe i deserve it. Im not a cheater i was lonely. Taking care of him in jail and myself it was just stressful. My emotional state seems to be dependent on him. I dont no how to let go cuz when he says he is going to beat me i no he is.
Balzac Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 To to a women's shelter. Seek help. Tell your story. To back to school and invest in yourself.
Author Vs76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 Thank u.....but do u think if i tell him the truth it may make things a little better? He says he mite forgive me.
Chi townD Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Look, I know you have feelings for the guy. But, don't you think that you deserve someone better than someone that's going to land himself in jail all the time? I'll let you in on a little secret, there are guys out there that have NEVER been to jail once! I think you need to be looking in that direction. This guy, obviously, has a lot of baggage to work out. What if next time, you're with him when he catches a case? Do you want to go down as an accesory to a crime?
Author Vs76 Posted November 24, 2012 Author Posted November 24, 2012 Ur rite Chi....its always looking at the good which makes it hard to out weigh the bad its frustrating ughhhhhh!
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