Hey505 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Okay well me and my ex of 2 years broke up around 6 months ago. It was a pretty serious relationship but she left me for someone else and now they've been going out for around 2 months. We were still talking during that time as friends but a week ago i told her i didn't want anything to do with her anymore as i need to let her go and talking to her makes it too hard. I let her down really nicely, said I'd always be there, that i wanted nothing but the best for her and to take care. She didn't respond well to this and flipped out. She started abusing me and said she hated me hated me and that I've become a horrible person and the one time she really needs ME I'm not there... Isn't that what her new boyfriend is for? To comfort her? Not me... Anyway it's been a week of no contact and she text me last night basically saying that she's been stalking my Twitter, seen that I've been talking to girls. Called me a "pest" (Where a talk to loads of girls which i'm not btw) and said that she wishes she never met me and that i was a waste of her life. What?! What the hell is she doing? Why is she looking on my Twitter? Why is she bothered that I'm talking to other girls?! She left me for another boy what the? Why did she text that?
itsmyfault Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 hardcore GIGS. Ignore her, it will drive her CRAZY. You will probably get more abuse. Basically she is missing you like crazy and hates the fact you "seem" to be doing okay. Girls hate to see that the guy is doing better. EDIT - She is showing her true colours, Not the sort of person id be with, me and my Ex never once said we hated each other or that we wished it never happened.
Author Hey505 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 So do you think she does hate me? It still bothers me. And it doesn't make sense, why would she hate me? She's the one that left...
movingon12 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 No she doesn't really hate you. She's just absolutely furious that you've decided to move on. Basically, you've dumped her and she's mad. Don't reply. Seriously - don't. And wait for a barrage of emails ranging from 'I'm sorry' to 'hey lets be friends' to 'you're a 3@$%!' and back round again. Don't reply to any of them. It will stop. Eventually.
onavap Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I wish my ex boyfriend texted me and said he was stalking my stuff!!! You have a good opportunity there. Ignore her. She's obviously texting you because she still cares about you. If she didn't, then you wouldn't have heard from her after the breakup. Don't take her back as a friend. That has the slimmest chance of working out and you need to work on getting over her. If you honestly think that you two are over forever, then keep ignoring her. I know it's hard but it's been 6 months since the breakup, it's time to move on without her in your life. If you have any bit of hope, then keep ignoring her until you see something promising for your future together! 1
itsmyfault Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 No I didnt say she hates you, It's quite the opposite. her reaction is that of a child who didn't get there own way. She is being hurtful to you because she thinks you have been talking to other girls, Which clearly bothers her. Just Ignore her as everyone and I suggested. apologies will soon start flooding in. Also if she texts to say she wants you back, don't give in that easy. If she really wants you back she will work hard for it. If you respond to the text she knows she still has control over you. Keep control, keep composed, keep calm and most of all keep NC
Chi townD Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 She pulled on the leash and saw that the dog was off the leash trotting away from her. Dude, you were her back up plan and she was cake eatting you to death. She gets her emotional needs met from you and the physical needs met from the new boyfriend. Now, you're taking it all away from her. Plus, she wants to be with someone else, but she doesn't want to see YOU with someone else. Very selfish behavior. Just ignore her. Heal and move on. 2
Author Hey505 Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 Thanks for all those messages guys. It really helped me understand so thank you. Today i had work and we both work at the same place. She knew i worked today and decided to get overtime for the same day. Coincidence or not i don't know but at first we just ignored each other and acted like we hated each other, then eventually she came up to me and asked me if I'd blocked her number... To which i replied with "no" and she said "Oh... I was going to call you and tell you about me working today but i didn't know whether you'd blocked me or not". And that was it. I see her with her new boyfriend during my shift and looked away right after. I caught her looking at me a couple times too. What's every ones thought on this? I'm not sure what to think of it
Author Hey505 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 Hey again, Before you start reading, i know it's long but i'd really appreciate it if you gave me your thoughts on everything. Thanks guys. It feels like I've not been here for months but It's only been a few weeks... Anyway after 3 weeks of NC. She's tried texting me a couple times, I ignored all the texts. Today she text me again saying that she can't do this anymore, she's losing it and needs to talk to me, it's important. I immediately think... Is she having second thoughts? So i replied after ignoring her for 3 weeks (which KILLED by the way. I knew i was going to be back at step one if i reply. Which i am and is why I'm here again) and i said is she saying that it's important just to get me to reply? Well she said that I should know why she's losing it (her grandfather passed away around Christmas time and it makes her sad every year) and she wanted me to comfort her. I feel like she was trying to use me. Anyway i replied with this... "I know what you're going through, I've not forgotten. If it helps, things in my life have gone from bad to worse so you're not alone. I had something planned that would've helped you stay strong but I don't think it's very appropriate anymore. As much as i want to be, i can't be there for you anymore. That's what your boyfriend is for. Stay strong." And she replied with "Seriously, that's it? This is such a joke... You're the only person that knows and you don't give a ****. So stupid that i thought you'd be there" after a couple more texts to each other and me telling her i still care for her and she apologized for texting me, the last thing in the world she wants to do is argue with me and that she will now leave me alone. I thought about leaving it there but i couldn't resist and sent this next and last text. "Don't be sorry. Like I've said 100 times before, I'm here for you when you REALLY need me. I still care. Let him in; go to the crematorium together and just sit there for ages like we used to. Those times meant so much and brought me a lot closer to you and was a huge step for us. He'll be able to understand and comfort you so you won't feel like you need to come to me. I wish i could be there i really do, but i can't. I'm sorry." She replied with. "Okay i will". Blunt. Which hurt a bit i guess but what can i expect? Was my last text stupid or what? I want to leave her feeling like I'm a good person and that she gave up something great. I think she misses me. I hope she does... I miss her like mad. Also, i was thinking about sending her family a Christmas card. They sent me a birthday card a couple months back so it's not too bad right? Thanks for reading
Chi townD Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Okay, I said this in one of my other posts. She's pulling on the leash to see if the dog is still there. The next time she trys to pull something like that again. STOP!! Take a deep breath and say to yourself, " If it's really THAT important, she knows where I live." and keep going with NC. Funny thing is, they always text that it's sooooo important that they need you to contact them. But, if it involves them actually hauling their asses out of their place and showing up at the door. They rarely ever do that.
Author Hey505 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 I know you're right. I immediately regretted replying but with the text she sent, curiosity got the best of me and i guess that's what she was aiming for. I can't see her texting me anymore. Tomorrow I'm going out a some mutual friends and i have a feeling she'll be there with him. I'll probably want to die but I'm sick or torturing myself being sat in and feeling sorry for myself. What about the Christmas card? Bad idea? Sorry for all these rants. It makes me feel better
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