ascendotum Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Hey grace, did this guy stooge you on where he lived? I read were you were close to your homes, then you say you end up on the edge of town.
Author grace_76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 Hey grace, did this guy stooge you on where he lived? I read were you were close to your homes, then you say you end up on the edge of town. yes. i was on my merry way home & he said he lived on the next street so might aswell walk the same way as me. then got a cab. to somewhere else entirely. smooth.
mitchell Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 How was the sex? Did he at least make sure you were well taken care of? Maybe just chalk it up to a fun night and get on with your life.
ascendotum Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 yes. i was on my merry way home & he said he lived on the next street so might aswell walk the same way as me. then got a cab. to somewhere else entirely. smooth. I would call that a bit of a shifty prick act rather than a smooth move....but as it turns out it he took a punt and it played well for him. I surprised you did not get pissed off as the cab was driving along in the wrong direction. Oh well, hopefully the sex was good. "..even writing this now, this seems like alot of effort for someone just looking for a one night stand. i just dont get it." No way was running after you a lot of effort. lol. Plenty of horny/desperate guys will crawl over cut glass for a lick.
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 How was the sex? Did he at least make sure you were well taken care of? Maybe just chalk it up to a fun night and get on with your life. She can't because this is her life....par for the course. Jumping into strange men's beds who she initially doesn't want but later does want.
Author grace_76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 How was the sex? Did he at least make sure you were well taken care of? Maybe just chalk it up to a fun night and get on with your life. yes it was actually. and yes i think i will. I would call that a bit of a shifty prick act rather than a smooth move....but as it turns out it he took a punt and it played well for him. I surprised you did not get pissed off as the cab was driving along in the wrong direction. Oh well, hopefully the sex was good. "..even writing this now, this seems like alot of effort for someone just looking for a one night stand. i just dont get it." No way was running after you a lot of effort. lol. Plenty of horny/desperate guys will crawl over cut glass for a lick. i was being saracastic. yes i was a bit pissed off he lied but what do you do? shout stop? and my mistake. but i thought one night stands were viewed as fun, getting my friend home wouldve killed it for me as a guy id have thought. she was an absolute mess. She can't because this is her life....par for the course. Jumping into strange men's beds who she initially doesn't want but later does want. see this ignoring thing doesnt work, you keep going. thanks for proving...
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 i was being saracastic. yes i was a bit pissed off he lied but what do you do? shout stop?No, you go to bed with him. and my mistake. but i thought one night stands were viewed as fun, getting my friend home wouldve killed it for me as a guy id have thought. she was an absolute mess.He wasn't doing your friend. You were clearly willing and able.
Author grace_76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 No, you go to bed with him. He wasn't doing your friend. You were clearly willing and able. im not arguing with you. go get a life.
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 im not arguing with you. Then what is the point of this thread?
Author grace_76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 Then what is the point of this thread? does arguing with you keep threads alive or something? cant they exist independent of you?? everyone else's comments have been reasonably helpful/ interesting/ valid. a bit like a discussion if you will. and then there's you, just throwing around 'clever' comments/ insults. looks like a habit, looking at your profile. take a hint and hush it.
Imajerk17 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 (edited) There's a tactic some guys use called plowing. Just keep pushing despite the girl's resistance and maybe she will cave in. Its not that smooth and perhaps it is kind of a douchebag move but it works on some girls. Anyway that is precisely what that guy did and giving in is precisely what you did. Lesson learned on your part hopefully. Next time you'll use better judgement? Edited November 20, 2012 by Imajerk17 1
Author grace_76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 There's a tactic some guys use called plowing. Just keep pushing despite the girl's resistance and maybe she will cave in. Its not that smooth and it is kind of a douchebag move but it sometimes works. Anyway that is precisely what that guy did and giving in is precisely what you did. Lesson learned on your part hopefully. Next time you'll use better judgement? without a doubt silly me.
mitchell Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 There's a tactic some guys use called plowing. Just keep pushing despite the girl's resistance and maybe she will cave in. Its not that smooth and perhaps it is kind of a douchebag move but it works on some girls. Anyway that is precisely what that guy did and giving in is precisely what you did. Lesson learned on your part hopefully. Next time you'll use better judgement? He was persistent, but she gave in. They both had a good time and the sex was fun. Nothing more. This was not the start of a beautiful relationship.
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 There's a tactic some guys use called plowing. Just keep pushing despite the girl's resistance and maybe she will cave in. Its not that smooth and perhaps it is kind of a douchebag move but it works on some girls. Anyway that is precisely what that guy did and giving in is precisely what you did. Lesson learned on your part hopefully. Next time you'll use better judgement? How can she? They were soulmates. She wants a guy who will push her around and he wants a woman who wants to be pushed. That's what this night proved. You can't escape who you are. There is no adequate advice for this.
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 He was persistent, but she gave in. They both had a good time and the sex was fun. Nothing more. This was not the start of a beautiful relationship. but a string of chance encounters with creepy stalkers who drop you after they get what they want.
Author grace_76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 He was persistent, but she gave in. They both had a good time and the sex was fun. Nothing more. This was not the start of a beautiful relationship. yes you're right. How can she? They were soulmates. She wants a guy who will push her around and he wants a woman who wants to be pushed. That's what this night proved. You can't escape who you are. There is no adequate advice for this. there's no advice for you. stop trying to argue with people you dont know, its pathetic.
Author grace_76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 i felt compelled to join to clear up some misperceptions. 1. the guy here was hot enough with enough charm and charisma. end of story. he got his sex and doesn't care how she feels. she's mad at him now, but he has all the skills to charm her for a second round, if he hasn't found his next one night stand. 2. not all guys go to bars/clubs for just for one night stands. the more agressive/skilled guys do though and they get what they want. the geek from chemistry with the good job, but lacking in the social skills department is there sitting alone in a corner, so scared to approach any girl. if and when he finally does try by nervously approaching, he is no match for the agressive/skilled players. i've observed this time and time again. that's the way it works. 3. remain good, be the nice guy. ummm a guy who takes that advice is liable to reach thirty and not know how to put on a condom. enough said. 1. no. you dont know me. 2. i agree 3. nonsense. enough said.
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 i felt compelled to join to clear up some misperceptions. 1. the guy here was hot enough with enough charm and charisma.The brute force method doesn't require charm, physical attractiveness, or charisma. Actually it is completely devoid of any of that. end of story. he got his sex and doesn't care how she feels. she's mad at him now,Agreed. but he has all the skills to charm her for a second round, if he hasn't found his next one night stand.Since she has already opened the door and feels hurt he closed it she is putty in his hands but not because of any skill on his part. 2. not all guys go to bars/clubs for just for one night stands. the more agressive/skilled guys do though and they get what they want. the geek from chemistry with the good job, but lacking in the social skills department is there sitting alone in a corner, so scared to approach any girl. if and when he finally does try by nervously approaching, he is no match for the agressive/skilled players. i've observed this time and time again. that's the way it works.Cliche assertions. Truth is most guys go home alone. Not even what women find most attractive is good enough for the inflated egos of women. 3. remain good, be the nice guy. ummm a guy who takes that advice is liable to reach thirty and not know how to put on a condom. enough said.Agreed.
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 nobody learns from their mistake I agree with this.
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 the bottom line is lots of guys will do what it takes to get what they want. if girls fall for guys who won't take no for an answer, guys will continue said behavior. that's the way things are, we can cry about it or accept reality. The truth she can't swallow.
Author grace_76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 1. i don't know you personally, but i've seen so many girls of different ages fall for it again and again, from the same guy. i stand corrected and apologize if he contacts you again and you are able to resist. 2. you agree do you get it. there's good guys at the bar looking for good girls. but lets be honest here, what are their chances of them getting what they want from any girl at the bar, marriage, kids, white picket fence, etc. the same as getting struck by lighning, i kid, but still not very good. these guys are not just intimidated by the girls, but also by the agressive charming players who skillfully push them aside. 3. it can't be nonsense because i've seen it happen again and again. more and more guys can get a masters, good job, four bedroom house in an upscale neighborhood, solid financial footing, etc. yet don't know how to approach girls. i do agree with point 2, youre absolutely right. but 1 & 2 are overgeneralising. it applies to some, not everyone. itd be like me saying all men are scum or something. not true. everybody learns from their mistake.. don't look into it so much, because it has gone.. and the next time he messages you.. do not response,, and you'll start to feel better!!! give him the attitude he deserves and you be happy and learn from your mistake!!! agreed!! and i will :px the bottom line is lots of guys will do what it takes to get what they want. if girls fall for guys who won't take no for an answer, guys will continue said behavior. that's the way things are, we can cry about it or accept reality. again overgeneralising, think it depends on circumstances.
Author grace_76 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 I think people like OP, who think that sex is all they can give to a man and are good for really, in their insecure mind, get angry, when after "giving" all that to a man, he finds it nothing special. Her ego got hurt, nothing more. Sex maybe was good for her, but he did all the work and I bet she did not service him as much as he did her....He used her like a free sex toy. Nice guy would never do that and never get laid with these type of women....all this guilt and anger can be linked to maybe Madonna/whore complex...Just be honest with your self OP, that is best you can do and get out of this experience. not taking advice from people with fetishes. you lot are wackos. yes im overgeneralising, but so are you. just like little prince, trolling for attention.
AlexDP Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Grace, This was YOUR responsibility. The guy is not to blame. You chose to have sex with him. Don't make this about guys being annoying and scumbags. YOU had sex with him.
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Grace, This was YOUR responsibility. The guy is not to blame. You chose to have sex with him. Don't make this about guys being annoying and scumbags. YOU had sex with him. She would rather shift blame.
BetheButterfly Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 i have to get this off my chest. friday night, i was out with friends. i was hassled by this guy for about 2 hours. i wasnt particularly interested, guys in clubs are generally just looking to hit it. i went & danced with one of my guy friends so he would get lost in the end. later on one of my girlfriends overdid the drink and i wanted to see her home (neither of us had taxi fare). suddenly during this walk this guy appears from behind us out of breath from running...and insists on seeing us home. which was kind of creepy but not as creepy as the route we both had to take to get to our houses, so i figured why not. it transpired that this guy lived on the next street from me, so we walked back to that end of town after seeing her home. anyway, we end up about 10 minutes away from our streets and this guy hails a cab saying he was cold. now sober, this is obvious, but drunk, i thought fair enough and got in. (idiot). we ended up about 15 miles out of town at this guys real place. we had a good night despite the somewhat weird circumstances. we happen to get on really well, similar sense of humour, etc etc. to my shame we had sex. fine, mistake, one night stand, i know all this. in the morning, he was going to work so gave me a lift home. it was completely out of his way & i was more than capable of making my way home but he insisted. i was generally expecting this to be the end of it as i got out of the car but he insisted on swapping numbers blah blah. so i did. on reflection the next day, i thought i probably seemed quite standoffish in the morning because i felt really unwell. so i text the guy just to say thanks for the lift home & everything. and he ignored me!!! im so angry at myself for going along with this! i can deal with a one night stand if you're honest about it. why sugar coat it and do the whole nice guy charade & then be so ignorant?? why be so persistent with everything if you're really not that bothered? i know its my own fault but i am just so angry!! I don't understand this mentality. I'm sorry he hurt you. I really don't understand though why you had sex with a stranger in the first place.
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