Mrselfdestrukt Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 It's been a month now since my wife of 20 years left me; saying "I no longer love you, and we want different things out of life." After a week of her leaving, I sent a text message to her, saying how much I loved her and apologised for whatever I did which obviously made her unhappy - and that I want us to work together to make things better. To which, she never replied. So 3 weeks later, there has been no communication between us whatsoever. The children are teenagers, so we don't need to speak to one another about them, as they make their own decisions. But I'm still churning up inside; cry every day - and I just want her to come home so we can sort things out and move on. If I'm following the NC rules, how can I instigate this?
movingon12 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I'm afraid you can't instigate it. Only she can, because she is the one who left. The fact that she isn't contacting you means she doesn't want to come back. The best thing you can do is start living your life without her. Either she will see/hear about the new you and decide she wants you back, or she will stay away and you will move on without her. Either way, NC is the ONLY option. 1
standtall Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I But I'm still churning up inside; cry every day - I Stop that S*** right now. Women do not love men they do not respect...sniveling is a respect killer. Women with minor children do not leave marriages unless 1. Physical/mental abuse by either. 2. Drug/alcohol abuse by either. 3. Mental illness 4. Third party involvement. Now this is not an absolute, but it covers most cases. You could have some funky sexual practices that she can't come to grips over, or an xbox addiction or something. Pick your poison.
worldgonewrong Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 standtall - one thing you've left off your boilerplate cut-and-paste is 'a dysfunctional family background'. Maybe that's included in #3.
standtall Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 standtall - one thing you've left off your boilerplate cut-and-paste is 'a dysfunctional family background'. Maybe that's included in #3. I agree..a dysfunctional family would make someone mentally ill. One thing about my boiler plate.... I made it up myself... 1
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