SP13 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 A basic sum up. I've been dating this girl for 2 and half months. We talk every day and hang out just about every weekend, sometimes things come up and we don't. We are basically seeing each other and I can say both agree with that, pretty sure she isn't seeing anyone else and is committed to just dating me. From talking I've learned she is the type of girl who likes to date a bit longer before committing into a relationship to make sure it is going to work, which is understandable why rush. But at the same time I don't want to be wasting my time if she isn't going to commit eventually. I get the vibe she is going to want one and shes into me but at the same time most girls are running to get into a relationship. How do you bring up the "exclusive" talk? Being 23 years old I guess you need to be more formal but it depends. Any thoughts? And is waiting till the 3 month mark a safer bet for the situation?
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Move on. She had her chance. As you said women are running to relationships. She's waiting for what she feels is better and right around the corner. She isn't mature enough for a relationship.
SJC2008 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Move on. She had her chance. As you said women are running to relationships. She's waiting for what she feels is better and right around the corner. She isn't mature enough for a relationship. You'll learn to ignore this poster. 1
Pyro Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 A basic sum up. I've been dating this girl for 2 and half months. We talk every day and hang out just about every weekend, sometimes things come up and we don't. We are basically seeing each other and I can say both agree with that, pretty sure she isn't seeing anyone else and is committed to just dating me. From talking I've learned she is the type of girl who likes to date a bit longer before committing into a relationship to make sure it is going to work, which is understandable why rush. But at the same time I don't want to be wasting my time if she isn't going to commit eventually. I get the vibe she is going to want one and shes into me but at the same time most girls are running to get into a relationship. How do you bring up the "exclusive" talk? Being 23 years old I guess you need to be more formal but it depends. Any thoughts? And is waiting till the 3 month mark a safer bet for the situation? In addition to SJC2008s advice, if this is something that you are ready for then bring it up. It doesn't have to be anything fancy. Just let her know that you like her and that you enjoy her company and you want to see where she stands. In my past relationships it was around the 3 month mark when the exclusive talk was brought up. 1
Ami1uwant Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 3 motnhs is a tad long to wait to bring up exclusivity talk..especially if you are regualarly dating. a good measure of exclusivity is how often are you dating and how often are you talking/texting on the phone between dates. Generally this means around 3-5 weeks into the dating you talk of exclusivity. This may vary....if the person came out and said they are just interested in dating because they just got out of mnarriage or LTR they will want to wait longer to play the field.
Divasu Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I think a good benchmark is somewhere between 4-6 months of dating. At that point, you should have a pretty good idea if you both have common goals and interests. Dating entails spending time together and getting to know one another, which is what you should be doing so that you can reach that committment mutally and organically.
Author SP13 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 Her friend asked if she wanted to go meet guys to date, and she said I'm already dating someone so she is set with me. But I don't think she wants to get into a relationship so quick. I don't want to be a force but at the same time after three months I feel like its either its a commitment or not. I wouldn't want to get really involved and find out she's with someone one night and it technically isn't cheating.
mysteryscape Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 and you won't have these problems! It seems absurd to me that you've been seeing someone this long and you're still worried about multiple relationships.
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