sghffdmc Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Alright, I'll try to keep it short. Ex dumped me about 2 months ago. I was devastated - she was my best friend and I was in love with her. However, everything was relatively ok between us. We talked every now and then and remained friends. We didn't hang out or anything like that, but we were on good terms. Until Saturday night. I was out at a bar with my friends and she knew I was there. She was all over this guy right in front of me. And to make matters worse, this was a guy that she had texted for a while when we were together, but "just as friends" -- needless to say, I didn't like the kid one bit. So I was absolutely furious when I saw that on Saturday night, especially with it being thrown right in front of my face. When I left the bar, I texted her saying I couldn't believe she would disrespect me like that and thanks for validating all of my dislike and concern for her talking to that guy when we were together. She replied with stuff like "**** that, **** you, I was not all over him, **** you, etc." I replied "Lol you're a joke" and she replied "Wow, never talk to me again." She then replied later more **** yous and told me I make her feel like ****. Basically, she was trying to make it seem like I'm some douchebag who didn't treat her right, which couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, she broke up with me because she said I deserved better and she couldn't treat me as well as I treated her. Well, Sunday passed and I figured everything would eventually die down, especially since she was obviously intoxicated that night. However, she then took it a step further and deleted me on Facebook today. It just baffles me, how everything went from us being on good terms to being this bad, all over one incident. Which I feel she is in the wrong for, considering the circumstances. To me, she has acted extremely immature...but idk if that's just how I see it in my eyes, so that's why I'm asking for an outside, unbiased opinion. When I found out she deleted me, I texted her for a final time. "Well, I guess it's like that then, huh? Don't worry, you'll never hear another word from me ever again. Have a nice life." I don't know why I care, because I think this will definitely help me with the whole moving on process, but it does bother me because she was a good friend of mine, while and before we ever dated.
onavap Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 No, you are not wrong in this situation. That was very immature of her to do at the bar and such a "cliche" during breakups. My opinion is that what she told you when you both broke up is a lie, most of the time when people say that you "deserve better", there's a hidden reason. You should have just ignored her after that night at the bar and left it at that and I bet you she would have texted you longing for attention. But now that you already had a few exchanges with her, i'd stick to your word (for now at least) of never talking to her. NO CONTACT. It's extremely hard, but it's effective. I'm sorry things ended like that :/ it really does suck to have your best friend and soul mate become a complete stranger
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