Stillalive1 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 My ex has a new bf,we are still in touch 2 years after the BU (she was close to me when my dad passed away and i don't want to cut her off from my life),i'm quite sad she didn't notice me but i had to know it from someone else. I still care about her,it had to happen sooner or later,i'm happy for her and wish her new bf will make her happy according i didn't (most of the responsabilities were mine,didn't cheat,just neglected her cause i had some serious problem). A small part of my heart was still hoping for a reconciliation,cause she is really the only person who made me feel like i was home when i was with her. I keep on dating other girls,but never had that feeling,everytime i compare someone to her is not the same.
KatZee Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 You are never going to move on as long as your ex is still in your life. You're keeping her on that pedestal and that's why TWO YEARS later you're still not moving on and you're still hoping to reconcile. I think if it was going to happen, it would have happened by now, and she most certainly wouldn't be in a relationship with someone else.
Author Stillalive1 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 It could b,the point is that had another relationship too and it didn't work,had a couple of flirts and they didn't work too,more i know other girls more i think she is better than them.
slovek Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 (edited) Relationship requires effort. I don't think its healthy to linger on to romantic feelings for her since she has clearly moved on and found a new love. Sorry that you broken up and still have feelings though I hope you will be able to move on and willing to let go helps. You have to be willing to let her go and remind yourself that she is not yours anymore. Maybe you should tell her how you feel, and see what she says. I think she has the right to know and maybe her words can move you to make new actions. Edited November 20, 2012 by slovek
Author Stillalive1 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 (edited) I tried to move on,but every other girl is for me a sort of backup plan,is not what i want. I know she is not mine too and she has the right to b happy with someonelse,anyway i even know what i wish for me. Edited November 20, 2012 by Stillalive1
blue_jay_bird Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 (edited) Two year's is a long time. I think you should cut your ex out of your life and see a professional. Moving on is hard. But you seem to have created a personal hell, I can't imagine the amount of pain waiting for two year can cause. I'v been waiting for 6 months and i know i can't do this to myself anymore. Aren't you tired. Edited November 20, 2012 by blue_jay_bird
Author Stillalive1 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 (edited) The point is i ve had other relationships before her,and after her and it never happened sth like that,i was always good in moving on,i think it's happening cause for the first time in my life i realized i could do more. Edited November 20, 2012 by Stillalive1
ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Wow 2 years is a long time to be waiting on someone. Personally, I think the reason you can't move on and be happy with another girl is that you are still holding on to your ex. You will never be able to move on if she is still in your life. You need to cut ties with her and heal. It will be difficult but in the long run you will be better and into a more healthy situation. Not all relationships will be the same. Once you get past your ex you will learn that everyone is different. Your "future" gf will have qualities that your ex does not and vice versa. It will just be different. For your sake...I think you need to cut ties and try to move on with your life. I know in my particular case I just lost a fiancee that I was with for almost 9 years. As hard as it is you just have to let go, cut ties and move on with your life. You can do this. Just take it one day at a time and if ever you are having a difficult time/day just come on here and vent. It will make you feel better.
veggirl Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 I tried to move on,but every other girl is for me a sort of backup plan,is not what i want. I know she is not mine too and she has the right to b happy with someonelse,anyway i even know what i wish for me. You haven't tried to move on if you have not gone "no contact". No other girl will compare when your ex is still in your life! Of course they are your back up when you are still pining for your ex! You need to use this as motiviation to not waste another day, much less another year or two.
Author Stillalive1 Posted November 21, 2012 Author Posted November 21, 2012 I just hate the fact she was close to me when my dad passed away,she was supporting during his illnes,she met my granma who passed away too,nobody else will meet them. Probably all this is making her special for me. She is the only girl i introduced to my all family and nobody else will understand if i want to talk about it,that's maybe why i don't wanna cut her at all from my life.
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