Indent Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 There is a co-worker that I like. She is rather attractive and would be cause for attention. When she started working I was curious, but that curiosity was quickly subdued by the realization she had a boyfriend. She started working a couple months now and I only see her on the weekends. She is native to China; there are cultural differences and there is more to the story. I presented by hypothesis on fear – the dialogue gave a deconstruction on the thought – and I lead the conversation to the fear of approaching women, discussed the conflicting emotions, and backed by a tone to lend itself to humor. I asked her how men meet women in China. She told me about a website that is similar to Facebook; were a guy might message a girl he may, or may not, know. I asked if that is how he (the boyfriend) met her. Turns out she had messaged him, and it was because he was one of the few guys in the city she could find (from China residing in the city). She remarked, “It was not because he was attractive – he is not.” Did she just say that…? – I thought. And she did not follow up with anything else; no mention of the positive qualities we all have. During another discussion, she asked me if I “needed a girlfriend.” Last week she asked, “Why don’t you have a girlfriend?” She told me she likes to travel and explore. It seemed to me from previous discussions that lives a rather dull life – so I told her there is plenty of places to explore right here in the city – you just need to look for it. And I gave her a rundown of various things to do. I even suggested a few things she could with her boyfriend – but she commented on how those places to meet new guys, not to bring her current one. Haha – Kidding right? Is she tying to communicate something else…? I do not know, and it seems strange to me. From what information I have received – there relationship seems to center around going out for dinner. Part of me wants to explore this further… Thoughts…?
Trixis4kidz Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 I presented by hypothesis on fear – the dialogue gave a deconstruction on the thought – and I lead the conversation to the fear of approaching women, discussed the conflicting emotions, and backed by a tone to lend itself to humor. What the hell does that mean? She has a boyfriend so why are you even wasting your time unless you want to be the guy that takes her from her boyfriend. And if that's what you want to do, ask her to go to some of these interesting places with you and see what happens. I don't understand the dilemma.
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