NYY5 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 First I'll explain the situation: I've never been married, no girlfriend, single as can be. I get along pretty well with a woman from work. We don't see each other every single day. But we seem to click pretty well. She's been married something like 3 years, been with the guy even longer than that, has two kids with him, seems happily married and committed. There is an event going on in a city not far from us soon, and I happen to know that it's something she is also interested in. I mentioned that I have two tickets, and she told me she wants to come. If I was her husband, I'm not sure how I would feel about her spending all day and night in the city with some single guy she knows from work. How would you all feel? It's not like I'm in love with her or anything, but I do know that if she was single, I would definitely be interested, but since she's not, I will obviously not try to pursue it or try any funny stuff. I'm not a home wrecker. I was just curious how married folks would feel if their spouse did this.
KathyM Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 I wouldn't let my husband to go on a "date" with a co-worker. That is basically what it is. No one-on-one date-like stuff. And I wouldn't feel comfortable going out one-on-one with a male co-worker for the evening either. Tell her sorry, but you're going to bring a date to the event. And then find a date for the event--one that is not married.
Chi townD Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Yeah, I agree. Sounds too much like a date. Hell, I know my wife wouldn't even go, I wouldn't have to say anything. But, that's just my marriage. Everyone is different on how they handle things.
road Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 You can put a pig on lipstick it is still a pig. You can call, taking a married woman to spend all day in the city then the night at a concert and it is with a woman that you have the hots for, any thing you want. So what are you going to call this date?
Author NYY5 Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 I wouldn't say I have the hots for her. All I said is that I would be interested if she was single. But she isn't. I'm the single one, yet I'm the one posting about it here. Besides, a date is usually a mutual interest. And she isn't interested in me that I know of.
drifter777 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I wouldn't say I have the hots for her. All I said is that I would be interested if she was single. But she isn't. I'm the single one, yet I'm the one posting about it here. Besides, a date is usually a mutual interest. And she isn't interested in me that I know of. I'm a married man and if my wife asked me if this was ok I would tell her "NO WAY!" If she did go behind my back I would consider it cheating and I don't know what would happen next, but it could be then end of the marriage. Why do you want to play with fire? It sounds as though this woman is hot-to-trot and is looking for a playmate. You say you're not a home-wrecker - prove it and tell her it's not appropriate for a married woman to go out with a single co-worker and you want no part of destroying her marriage.
Magica Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 As a married woman, I wouldn't do that, and if my husband wanted to do that, I wouldn't like it. Respect their marriage; don't be the guy who provides the temptation.
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