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ImperfectionisBeauty Established Member

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Wow. so what did he do to get kicked out of his house? I think it takes a lot for a parent to make their child homeless, so I'd be concerned about that. Hmmm maybe he could get on welfare or get food stamps or some other public assistance Then what would you do? :o

 

If you NEED it I have no problem if you just choose not to work that's a problem

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I also feel sorry for people like this and tended to get suckered in by con artists when I was a little younger.

 

I also talk to and give money to homeless people still, even though I know they will probably spend it on drugs. When I am on a train and see a homeless person that obviously hasn't showered in weeks, most people just think "disgusting, get me away from him!". I just feel really sad and keep thinking how horrible his life must be. I have to fight the urge to take him home and let him eat and shower... I only don't do it because he would most likely end up stealing all my belongings or worse..

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Lol the he is in school, he is getting a masters right now so that is admirable, and he is white. I don't want to judge him for his financial situation because it could easily be me, but I ALWAYS meet guys who are broke or have kids or are just not in ideal situations. God is really playing a practical joke on me I think.

Ok, hes getting his masters. Thats cool...but I still dont understand how hes only working at best buy and is now living in a car. It says a lot about his relationship with people close to him...and it also says a lot about his ability to at least find decent work.

 

Sure the economy is still hard on some folks, but he should be doing more with the degree he already has. Or at least being mature enough not to end up homeless when he doesnt have income to support himself. Hes gotta fix stuff with his parents.

 

Nothing wrong with being broke and in school. Ive been broke in and out of school. However, if youre living at home, you HAVE to abide by your parents say-so in their house. And Im guessing he didnt do a good job of that.

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Wow. so what did he do to get kicked out of his house? I think it takes a lot for a parent to make their child homeless, so I'd be concerned about that. Hmmm maybe he could get on welfare or get food stamps or some other public assistance Then what would you do? :o

I agree with the first part. He must have done something really bad. Because I have gotten into huge arguments with my mom before, but she has never made me homeless. She does have a heart even though she tries to act tough most of the time.

 

If the guy has to get public assistance to make it through school, than so be it. A lot of students do that. Hell, in reality federal student loans are public assistance if we wanna be technical about it.

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Do you know this guy's full name? Did he tell you which school he attends? I'd check up on him by calling the school. I still wouldn't give him money. Let his parents give him money. For all you know, it was his girlfriend who kicked him out.

 

The fact that you walk with a cane made this con man think you were an easy mark.

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Do you know this guy's full name? Did he tell you which school he attends? I'd check up on him by calling the school. I still wouldn't give him money. Let his parents give him money. For all you know, it was his girlfriend who kicked him out.

 

The fact that you walk with a cane made this con man think you were an easy mark.

 

I don't know his last name he did tell me where he goes to school.

I don't necessarily think it was the cane I think he assumed I was rich or stupid or something because I bought a MacBook. I'm a little annoyed by his hinting at me giving him money I'm not. I swear I'm never going to meet a decent man... Just when I think "wow I met someone decent" life poops on it lol

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If the guy has to get public assistance to make it through school, than so be it. A lot of students do that. Hell, in reality federal student loans are public assistance if we wanna be technical about it.

 

This girl (OP) despises anyone who is on any type of public assistance, that's why I said that. but apparently if you are a young hot guy it is okay, just not if you are a young mom or I don't know, old and ugly.

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This girl (OP) despises anyone who is on any type of public assistance, that's why I said that. but apparently if you are a young hot guy it is okay, just not if you are a young mom or I don't know, old and ugly.

 

I said if you need assistance than fine.. And don't derail my topic with bull. K thanks ;)

 

Luckily this guy is not a young mom or old or ugly :)

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You met him Saturday. As in 2 days ago?

 

This isn't your business to care.

 

Plus hopefully he doesn't apply for assistance - your parents can just give it to him for free. Not mooching at all. I can't see why someone will tell you this after knowing you for two days. This is beyond needy.

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You met him Saturday. As in 2 days ago?

 

This isn't your business to care.

 

Plus hopefully he doesn't apply for assistance - your parents can just give it to him for free. Not mooching at all. I can't see why someone will tell you this after knowing you for two days. This is beyond needy.

 

Yes 2 days ago.

I don't know why he told me he just said it was something he wanted to tell me so I listened (well I read because it was in a text) idk but I can't help him and I pretty much said that. I feel bad.

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Ok I am all about having an open mind. But homeless?? Give me a break. There are many reasons why someone is homeless who has a job, try drug use. If you want to be with him.. That's up to you, but use a condom

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I don't know why he told me he just said it was something he wanted to tell me so I listened (well I read because it was in a text) idk but I can't help him and I pretty much said that. I feel bad.

 

Don't feel bad. You made a street-wise choice.

 

He should have family and friends who can help him out with a place to stay. Don't you have 5 places you could go if you really needed a place to stay? I do. If he doesn't, you need to wonder why that is the case. What has he done for everyone to turn their back on him.

 

He could be a genuinely great guy dealt a really difficult deck. But it isn't likely. The bottom line is, it is inappropriate for him to be asking you for this kind of help. That's a red flag, and your gut should be telling you to be cautious. Listen to your intuition!

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Did he actually ask you for help?

 

That is what I am actually doubting. I haven't read anything beyond the op - so I am sorry if I am missing it.

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Don't feel bad. You made a street-wise choice.

 

He should have family and friends who can help him out with a place to stay. Don't you have 5 places you could go if you really needed a place to stay? I do. If he doesn't, you need to wonder why that is the case. What has he done for everyone to turn their back on him.

 

He could be a genuinely great guy dealt a really difficult deck. But it isn't likely. The bottom line is, it is inappropriate for him to be asking you for this kind of help. That's a red flag, and your gut should be telling you to be cautious. Listen to your intuition!

 

Yes it just seems inappropriate, I know I have a few friends who would take me in if I needed and other family members. It just seems so odd, now he is not talking a lot and idk if he is busy or mad. It sucks though I got excited because I got hit on by a cute guy and he wanted to text and talk to me I didn't chase him.. This sucksss! lol

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Did he actually ask you for help?

 

That is what I am actually doubting. I haven't read anything beyond the op - so I am sorry if I am missing it.

 

He didn't come right out and ask, he hinted at it by telling me his story and saying how he has no one and no where to go and then saying he only needs x amount of dollars to pay rent on a place and that he isn't asking me for it of course but he wishes he knew someone who could give it to him and he would pay them back... He is just really strongly hinting you know? Which makes me feel bad that I can't help but I don't have it and if I did I don't know him, he could be lying to me. I always said I would never be like those girls on Judge Judy who loan a guy money and then they never get paid back lol

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Yes it just seems inappropriate, I know I have a few friends who would take me in if I needed and other family members. It just seems so odd, now he is not talking a lot and idk if he is busy or mad. It sucks though I got excited because I got hit on by a cute guy and he wanted to text and talk to me I didn't chase him.. This sucksss! lol

All this because he's cute?

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All this because he's cute?

 

I don't get hit on a lot by guys I am interested in. I went nt best buy saw him talked to him then thought "he's hot I want his number" and we flirted and I got it. It was a proud accomplishment now this ruins it.

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I don't get hit on a lot by guys I am interested in. I went nt best buy saw him talked to him then thought "he's hot I want his number" and we flirted and I got it. It was a proud accomplishment now this ruins it.

Cool.

 

Now that you know you can do that, try again with different guys. You never know what you can find.

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He didn't come right out and ask, he hinted at it by telling me his story and saying how he has no one and no where to go and then saying he only needs x amount of dollars to pay rent on a place and that he isn't asking me for it of course but he wishes he knew someone who could give it to him and he would pay them back... He is just really strongly hinting you know? Which makes me feel bad that I can't help but I don't have it and if I did I don't know him, he could be lying to me. I always said I would never be like those girls on Judge Judy who loan a guy money and then they never get paid back lol

 

My husband was homeless for ten years. He slept outside during the winters in Canada. He was pretty messed up in his younger years.

 

He wouldn't try that cheap tactic to manipulate anyone for money.

 

This guy might've been "ok" and genuinely interested/needed someone to talk to. Idk. But he when starts with that hinting bull****, it's crossed too major of a line. I have friends that I have known for years that wouldn't suggest in any way that I be their backup piggy bank.

 

I've also had 'friends' that have come calling for money when I barely had $6 to my name. I had a friend last year borrow $700 saying she would pay me back the next week right after I became a single mom......than she disappeared from talking to me for six months, ducking me and moved back to her home country.

 

Your guy is fitting more in the latter category than the former. Not a good sign after two days.

 

Btw, I'm not sure where you live, but I've lived in a vehicle year-round with dogs. There are worse fates. As long as he has a blanket, he'll be fine.

 

If you want him to earn a better income, you can get him a magnum marker and show him how to make a cardboard sign. Seriously. I'm not even kidding.

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My husband was homeless for ten years. He slept outside during the winters in Canada. He was pretty messed up in his younger years.

 

He wouldn't try that cheap tactic to manipulate anyone for money.

 

This guy might've been "ok" and genuinely interested/needed someone to talk to. Idk. But he when starts with that hinting bull****, it's crossed too major of a line. I have friends that I have known for years that wouldn't suggest in any way that I be their backup piggy bank.

 

I've also had 'friends' that have come calling for money when I barely had $6 to my name. I had a friend last year borrow $700 saying she would pay me back the next week right after I became a single mom......than she disappeared from talking to me for six months, ducking me and moved back to her home country.

 

Your guy is fitting more in the latter category than the former. Not a good sign after two days.

 

Btw, I'm not sure where you live, but I've lived in a vehicle year-round with dogs. There are worse fates. As long as he has a blanket, he'll be fine.

 

If you want him to earn a better income, you can get him a magnum marker and show him how to make a cardboard sign. Seriously. I'm not even kidding.

 

Lol that's funny.:lmao:

 

I don't know what to do now because I mean he was so obviously hinting at me giving him money and it makes me feel weird. Now I wonder if he was actually interested in me or if he saw the fact that I was buy a computer and my mom paid for it in cash and he assumes I am rich (I'm not at all) and have money to give him. Also I have known him for 2 days! If it was like 2 years and he was like my best friend I would consider it possibly (a lot of consideration because I barely have money myself) but it is 2 days and I don't know anything about him at all except that he is cute and works at best buy. It just makes me sad that he thinks that about me and that he would talk to me solely for that reason. I guess I just have to wait and see if he messages me tomorrow or talks to me, if not then I guess I have my answer.

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Lol that's funny.:lmao:

 

I don't know what to do now because I mean he was so obviously hinting at me giving him money and it makes me feel weird. Now I wonder if he was actually interested in me or if he saw the fact that I was buy a computer and my mom paid for it in cash and he assumes I am rich (I'm not at all) and have money to give him. Also I have known him for 2 days! If it was like 2 years and he was like my best friend I would consider it possibly (a lot of consideration because I barely have money myself) but it is 2 days and I don't know anything about him at all except that he is cute and works at best buy. It just makes me sad that he thinks that about me and that he would talk to me solely for that reason. I guess I just have to wait and see if he messages me tomorrow or talks to me, if not then I guess I have my answer.

 

It might not be that cut and dry.....

 

I had a friend that was a TOTAL user, and, honestly she couldn't see it. I actually believe that she couldn't see it at all.

 

I truly believe that she thought she was a great supportive friend who was "there for me during my separation." she came over one day wanting to borrow $20. The next time she came over it was to move her stuff in (and her new boyfriend's, surprise!) to Live with me rent-free for four months. During that time she trashed my house.....ugh, never mind....let's just say that the list grows.....A LOT.

 

A lot of folks can't see what they do or how it might affect someone. $10 bucks says that he got booted out of home largely for being unappreciative of a mom who probably trained this guy to be nothing but catered to.

 

But that's just a guess. It really doesn't reflect on you or your attractiveness etc at all. It may mean that he picked up on the fact that you are a nice person and he might be able to get something from that. It might even be his screwed up way of starting a really unhealthy/codependent relationship.

Either way....not great.

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A smooth and convincing Hoover is still a Hoover. He'll be fine. IMO, don't give it another thought. Enjoy your new computer :)

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A smooth and convincing Hoover is still a Hoover. He'll be fine. IMO, don't give it another thought. Enjoy your new computer :)

 

Quoted for truth, and for reaching into my head and saying what I would've liked to get across. As well as doing it in one paragraph.;)

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A smooth and convincing Hoover is still a Hoover. He'll be fine. IMO, don't give it another thought. Enjoy your new computer :)

Until he's not. At least the glow of a new computer will keep you warm.

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Do not give him money and don't feel bad about it for a second. In fact delete his number and never reply to him again. How much does he want? Wow hes sooo inappropriate, please stop being so naive!!!

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