Themrandres Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 recently my ex began to contact me over the last few weeks due to me showing no interest and leaving her life. since then shes began texting me frequently and ive been playing very hard to get (not answering her texts for long periods of time, and showing a huge lack of interest and im never the one to initiate conversation) and for now it seems to be working very well. But i just realised this could backfire because my ex broke up with me because i was super unreliable and didnt pay attention to her when she would try to get my attention and she hated it so much and it really hurt her. By me playing hard to get arent i showing her that nothing has changed and im still unreiable? For example i was suppose to visit her school (my old high school) today with our mutual friend and my ex insisted i come find her next time i stopped by the school. My friend canceled so i decided not to go because it would seem very obvious i was coming just to see her. Now im worried that im coming across as unreliable once again, should i apologise tonight and agree to see her another time? is it possible that by me showing so little interest in her that she will lose her interest in me? Is there a way i can play hard to get and not seem like i dont care about her and not seem unreliable? (please please please try to give me positive information on my question and not just posts of people trying to talk me out trying to getting her back, its not that i dont appreciate those responses im actually very greatful for wanting to help so much, its just this is "second chances" and id like responses relating to my questions)
Shaun-Dro Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 recently my ex began to contact me over the last few weeks due to me showing no interest and leaving her life. since then shes began texting me frequently and ive been playing very hard to get (not answering her texts for long periods of time, and showing a huge lack of interest and im never the one to initiate conversation) and for now it seems to be working very well. But i just realised this could backfire because my ex broke up with me because i was super unreliable and didnt pay attention to her when she would try to get my attention and she hated it so much and it really hurt her. By me playing hard to get arent i showing her that nothing has changed and im still unreiable? For example i was suppose to visit her school (my old high school) today with our mutual friend and my ex insisted i come find her next time i stopped by the school. My friend canceled so i decided not to go because it would seem very obvious i was coming just to see her. Now im worried that im coming across as unreliable once again, should i apologise tonight and agree to see her another time? is it possible that by me showing so little interest in her that she will lose her interest in me? Is there a way i can play hard to get and not seem like i dont care about her and not seem unreliable? (please please please try to give me positive information on my question and not just posts of people trying to talk me out trying to getting her back, its not that i dont appreciate those responses im actually very greatful for wanting to help so much, its just this is "second chances" and id like responses relating to my questions) Yes, your game will backfire and rightfully so. I advise you to quit it now while you're still ahead.
scarlet.vixn Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 I would say just be genuine with her. NC for me has always been because most people after a break up have a tendency to go overboard and turn almost stalkerish in their attempt to understand what happened. If the problem in your relationship was that you were unreliable, ask yourself if you've figured out why you were unreliable. She probably thinks that you just didn't value her enough, and that may be true, or maybe you had other things on your mind that you couldn't share with her. Whatever the next course of action is for you, be sure that should you get a second chance at friendship or a relationship that you will never neglect her again. Good luck.
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