kaylan Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 I just started getting back onto OLD after a year break. I noticed that when girls view my profile, message me, or click a "would like to meet" tab, that Im more picky about them then if I had done those things to them. Anyone else like this? This isnt to say I dont like girls who go after what they want. Its just that if I get enough views, messages, or "meet me,s" then I sorta feel like I have more options? Part of me feels awkward too if I dont message back, or message first in the case of a mutual profile view lol. I dont envy girls at all tbh...I kinda like how in real life, us guys control who we engage in dating. I know in my case its because I feel super awkward turning someone down...or I feel guilty if I only want to have teh sexi timez with them lol
Author kaylan Posted November 19, 2012 Author Posted November 19, 2012 Another thing...why the hell are there so many more single moms on POF than OKC 1
ThaWholigan Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Another thing...why the hell are there so many more single moms on POF than OKC I don't know. OKCupid seems to have more polyamorous feminists, artsy-fartsy types and BDSM fantasists - POF just has everybody else . I'm quite picky all round really.
carhill Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 IME, hundreds of rejections in life have taught me to appreciate the interest of others and to, if not feeling likewise, politely decline their generous offer in a sincere manner. If the person's profile and demeanor are otherwise synergistic, I don't feel more 'picky' simply because they contacted me first. To date, no lady has asked me out on a date but there have been numerous 'first contacts' on OLD, both years ago and since my divorce. Some work out, meaning a date results. Some not. That's life.
Author kaylan Posted November 19, 2012 Author Posted November 19, 2012 No. If you aren't the chaser odds are is cause you have no standards. ??? Not chasing means you have no standards? That makes no sense. Usually the guys I see with no standards are the guys who chase anything that may have sex with them. 1
ffw Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 I guess, personally, I am pickier irrespective of chasing or being chased.
Author kaylan Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 (edited) It makes perfect sense if you are a man...which I doubt. Im obviously a guy. Or are you new here? Chasing or not chasing has nothing to do with standards. The quality of the people you date shows what standards you have.And those are the guys that usually get a date...purely by playing the odds. Guys like me, that look for substance in a woman....and try to find a true match....I get looked down on by women....because I am not chasing them, and drooling, like "typical" guys are supposed to. Ill say this; the girls with any substance, who arent insecure, have no problem with a guy who has your approach. I use your approach...and the women worth anything dont take issue with how I do things. The lazy insecure girls who need reassurance of their value, are the women who would frown upon a guy taking his time and not chomping at the bit to date them. Edited November 20, 2012 by kaylan
El Brujo Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Effects of long time OLD membership on male mental state is not known. It is new technology and studies have not been done over decades. In short term, it can totally destroy self esteem of a man and make them antisocial or women haters, which in terms can tern to abuse and violence toward women. It is also addictive...like Facebook. before more studies are done, I would advice to limit use or not use OLD sites at all, specially for men who never had much luck with women. It also fattens the bank accounts of people who sell sex toys.
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