golk Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 A little background: Me and my ex were high school sweethearts and dated for four years and had a great relationship. Sometimes I didn't treat her right in terms of not being romantic enough or showing affection but I was working on it. Anyways we started having problems in early August because of her new job (super busy, receives a lot of attention from guys). Got back together once in Sep. for a bit but broke up again. Been officially over since early October. Anyways we hungout every week or two and talked every few days. Kissed and hugged every time I've seen her since. Last time I saw her: At our last meeting I asked to have a serious sit-down conversation with her. I asked her about her feelings and she basically said that she needs to move on because she can't keep feeling sad anymore but she missed me and thought of me everyday. She also said that this is what she wants right now (not sure if that meant because of her job?) There wasn't any physical intimacy until she kissed me and then we kissed and cuddled like every other time I saw her. She cried when we talked of old memories, all positive, and we laughed many times at some inside jokes we used to share. I told her this seemed a lot more final to me and she said, "You say that everytime. It's not." When I walked her out, we held each other for a long time and she kept kissing me telling me that two perfect pairs of lips make a perfect kiss. I told her I loved her and wished it didn't have to end this way. She said it isn't the end, I'll see you soon. I kissed her a final time and she said, "See, a perfect kiss." I watched her leave and drive away and as she was pulling away she said I love you out the window.. Then I decided to actually go through with no contact. Is this a weird spot to leave it? Lol Only heard from her once since and I ignored it. It's getting harder each day not hearing from her. Previous longest NC was 4 days.
flitzanu Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 A little background: Me and my ex were high school sweethearts and dated for four years and had a great relationship. Sometimes I didn't treat her right in terms of not being romantic enough or showing affection but I was working on it. Anyways we started having problems in early August because of her new job (super busy, receives a lot of attention from guys). Got back together once in Sep. for a bit but broke up again. Been officially over since early October. Anyways we hungout every week or two and talked every few days. Kissed and hugged every time I've seen her since. Last time I saw her: At our last meeting I asked to have a serious sit-down conversation with her. I asked her about her feelings and she basically said that she needs to move on because she can't keep feeling sad anymore but she missed me and thought of me everyday. She also said that this is what she wants right now (not sure if that meant because of her job?) There wasn't any physical intimacy until she kissed me and then we kissed and cuddled like every other time I saw her. She cried when we talked of old memories, all positive, and we laughed many times at some inside jokes we used to share. I told her this seemed a lot more final to me and she said, "You say that everytime. It's not." When I walked her out, we held each other for a long time and she kept kissing me telling me that two perfect pairs of lips make a perfect kiss. I told her I loved her and wished it didn't have to end this way. She said it isn't the end, I'll see you soon. I kissed her a final time and she said, "See, a perfect kiss." I watched her leave and drive away and as she was pulling away she said I love you out the window.. Then I decided to actually go through with no contact. Is this a weird spot to leave it? Lol Only heard from her once since and I ignored it. It's getting harder each day not hearing from her. Previous longest NC was 4 days. what about all the opinions given in your last post about this?
Author golk Posted November 19, 2012 Author Posted November 19, 2012 I know. I've been having a rough one today and been thinking about it alot. Has anyone else ever just dropped off the face of the earth after an encounter like this? Idk Just seems an odd place to leave it to me.
flitzanu Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 I know. I've been having a rough one today and been thinking about it alot. Has anyone else ever just dropped off the face of the earth after an encounter like this? Idk Just seems an odd place to leave it to me. you're trying to apply logic to a situation that has no foundation in logic. yes. people drop off the face of the earth after incidents like this that are broken up. i've personally had much more explicit things happen with girls just for them to drop off the planet. that's just how things work. she doesn't want to be with you, and you're trying to read into every single thing. it's really very black and white, and boils down to two things: she's either with you, or she isn't. and right now she is not with you.
veggirl Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 It's a better place to leave it than screaming and fighting. Even if it is a weird way to leave things, so ? It's counter productive for you guys to be hanging out and kissing and hugging, this is for the best for sure.
Author golk Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 you're trying to apply logic to a situation that has no foundation in logic. yes. people drop off the face of the earth after incidents like this that are broken up. i've personally had much more explicit things happen with girls just for them to drop off the planet. that's just how things work. she doesn't want to be with you, and you're trying to read into every single thing. it's really very black and white, and boils down to two things: she's either with you, or she isn't. and right now she is not with you. That's what I need to hear on a day like today. Thank you.
Author golk Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 It's a better place to leave it than screaming and fighting. Even if it is a weird way to leave things, so ? It's counter productive for you guys to be hanging out and kissing and hugging, this is for the best for sure. It is definitely counter productive for me. I'm in the process of breaking this addiction.
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