AD1980 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Just thinking about a friend i have whos definitely arrogant and full of himself and such women have even said that but at the same time been attracted to him later on.. Is it possible its a thin line between arrogance/being a dbag and being very confident and masculine that arrogance can sometimes turns women on before they know its full fledged arrogance? Is maybe a slight arrogance more of a turn on thne women lik3 to admit because its also a dominant and some may say masculine trait? Or is it possible that because my friends very good looking he can just get away with being a borderline dick and arrogant because women will put up with it?
ThaWholigan Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Some women like arrogance, but only some. Arrogance in my opinion can be perception-based and is often a combination of your confidence and the insecurities of others. Other times it is vice versa. I think women can be attracted to active personalities - when a man is too passive, it can restrict his character.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Some women are attracted to arrogance as it is an overabundance of confidence. Confidence is attractive in and to men and women, it translates into the way a person acts, dresses, and takes care of themselves. The whole dominant and masculine trait thing, need to be viewed in light of culture. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Confidence is mistaken as knowledge or ability in all aspects of life, unfortunately. Look at this in an evolutionary sense. A man who walks, talks, and acts like a great hunter and toolmaker is one thing. The man who actually is a great hunter and tool maker is quite another. Wise women knew the difference between these, and their wisdom made us what we are. AD, don't worry about the women who foolishly pick arrogance over proven skills. Their children are more likely to be eaten by lions, or drive drunk.
mammasita Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Arrogance is a complete turn off and I have to disagree - arrogance is far from being an overabundance of confidence. Confident is good, arrogant is not. Arrogant man says "I have a corvette and make 6 digits a year, let me take you to the Coach store and spoil you with purses" Confident man says nothing and doesn't have to. One of my quotes to live by: "Don't talk about it, BE about it" 1
xdahliax Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Arrogance is sort of a turn on for me, as long as it is backed up by substance and is not just an excuse that people use to describe a man who is unkind. I like it when a guy knows what he has to offer, it makes me want to find out for myself.
SteveC80 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 As a guy whos played the role of mr conventionally attractive from about 18 on if a women is highly attracted to you then you can pretty much get away with doing or saying as you please... I was in the situations you described whee women told people i was full of myself and arrogant and that they never could see themselves with me then later on theyre jammign their tongue down my throat.. WHat women respond to and what they claim to repsond to are two different things.. But as i said looks do play a huge role in it.An ugly/average guy cant get away with teetering that fine line of arrogance and confidence..
Pyro Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Just thinking about a friend i have whos definitely arrogant and full of himself and such women have even said that but at the same time been attracted to him later on.. Is it possible its a thin line between arrogance/being a dbag and being very confident and masculine that arrogance can sometimes turns women on before they know its full fledged arrogance? Is maybe a slight arrogance more of a turn on thne women lik3 to admit because its also a dominant and some may say masculine trait? Or is it possible that because my friends very good looking he can just get away with being a borderline dick and arrogant because women will put up with it? Due to this world having millions of women then yes there will always be women who find arrogance attractive. Some of them may not understand the difference between confidence and arrogance but either way they will attract to it. There are also plenty of women who find arrogance to be disgusting. To answer your question yes arrogance can and does (sometimes) get confused for confidence.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Arrogance is a complete turn off and I have to disagree - arrogance is far from being an overabundance of confidence. Confident is good, arrogant is not. Arrogance can be defined as unearned or undeserved confidence. Or being too confident. Arrogant man says "I have a corvette and make 6 digits a year, let me take you to the Coach store and spoil you with purses" Confident man says nothing and doesn't have to. One of my quotes to live by: "Don't talk about it, BE about it" I would say that Arrogant man isn't so because he has those things and says it....but because he thinks a woman should be with him because of those. Many a man has been alone because he was a little bit too quiet in his confidence, something with some women mistake for being not confident.
ThaWholigan Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 But as i said looks do play a huge role in it.An ugly/average guy cant get away with teetering that fine line of arrogance and confidence.. You'd be surprised....
plainjane79 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Well anything can attract anyone; that is to say, anything is possible, so sure, some women may be attracted to arrogance, or what they perceive to be confidence (but which is actually arrogance.) But I think it's also important to the dicussion to distinguish between flings and long-term potential. A healthy, confident woman who knows her worth MAY be fooled into mistaking a man's arrogance for confidence, or even knowingly have a bit of fun with an arrogant man. But when she sticks around long enough and finds out he's just got an over-inflated ego, or when she's tired of playing, she probably will move on to someone a bit more reasonable. So it depends on the quality of woman one is looking for, and the nature of the relationship one is looking for, I'd say. 4
mammasita Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 An ugly/average guy cant get away with teetering that fine line of arrogance and confidence.. You'd be surprised.... LOL, its just waaaaaaaay more annoying when an ugly guy tries to be arrogant. I see a huge difference in arrogance and confidence, so the ugly/average guy IMO would be more attractive being confident VS being incredibly annoying as arrogant.
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