Mer91 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 It really feels like 3 years went down the drain, their were alot of special moments but we werent ment to be. I have worked most of it out. We tried a week of lets "see where we are" a few months after the break up. I helped her through the most difficult challenge of her life. (getting away from abusive parents). but she couldnt be bothered to help me with my own personal crysis. Divorced parents issues, and a depression due to friends moving away and community college not going so well. The whole time during the "we are seeing where we are" She was texting a guy she was "flirting" with the week before. Anytime i brought up my feelings it turned into arguing. I came to the conclusion we arent getting back together long before she gave me her answer. I tried to be mature, and say " I still have feelings for you so im deleting you off my facebook for a bit so im not tempted to check up on you and drive myself crazy". I also did the same for her sisters who i was close to. (nothing romantic dont get any ideas) and she flipped out saying she never wants to speak to me again. Fine were done. I have come to terms with that. But now im finding myself obsessing over the fact shes going to be sleeping with some other guy/s and its pissing me off. Coupled with the fact that my family thinks its ok to still be friends with her behind my back. It is very frustrating. I am trying to move on. Trying to improve myself, i dont want to do the self pitty ****. I had enough of that in my slump. Ive lost 10lbs in 2weeks and i am being a better son to my mother. I want to be a more social person, i have social anxiety i have to warm up to a situation before im comfortable and even then im still tense (alcohol buzz seems to counteract, but i dont want anything controlling my life). Im not looking for a relationship im trying to focus on school and just making new friends. Just looking for some advice on how to overcome the social anxiety and the jealousy.
itsmyfault Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Some one posted something like this the other day. She WILL sleep with other guys She WILL date other guys She WILL move on She ISN'T going to look back these are just a few things, once you realise this and except that this is just how the world works you can then work on healing. Do not contact her under any circumstance. If she contacts you in a few months asking you back, DO NOT REPLY. if she really wants you back she will try harder than just a text or a FB message.
Author Mer91 Posted November 19, 2012 Author Posted November 19, 2012 Some one posted something like this the other day. She WILL sleep with other guys She WILL date other guys She WILL move on She ISN'T going to look back these are just a few things, once you realise this and except that this is just how the world works you can then work on healing. Do not contact her under any circumstance. If she contacts you in a few months asking you back, DO NOT REPLY. if she really wants you back she will try harder than just a text or a FB message. Im more worried about overcomeing the social anxiety, to move on with my life
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