Hancock1 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Hey guys, I don't really know why I'm posting this but I suppose it's because it's nice for people to listen to your story. Anyway here goes. I'm currently 18, about to turn 19, and my ex-girlfriend is 17. We met when we were 16 and 14 respectively on a worldwide performing group our school ran and we sort of hit it off. We flirted a lot, got to know each other and 2 months later, we started dating exclusively. That was in May 2010. Everything was going ok until 1 year and 2 months later, when we went on a 4 month break (initiated by me) because I couldn't hack supporting her at the time. She was feeling extremely upset and petty at her friends and I couldn't cope with her being angry and projecting that onto our relationship for such a long period of time. Mind you, during this break we still went to each others houses and did everything couply, but it was mainly due to me needing space for my end of high school exams to get into university. (Break occurred August 2011 - November 2011). After my exams, we got back together officially. We were happy for a long period of time, until August 2012. During 2012, I was a freshmen at university (in Australia, you generally don't go out of state for college, especially when the best colleges are in your state), and we still remained strong even though she was still in high school. However, around late September I noticed that she had gotten increasing less 'couply' for lack of a better word. I don't really know properly what initiated this, but I do know that she wasn't happy. She broke up with me on the 18th of October, 2012, after just under 2.5 years of my first relationship. It's been almost a month since then and I have been NC for all of it, except for the time she wished my that my exams went well (she knows that my grades are extremely important to me) and I wished her the same with her exams. She told me she broke up with me because we've changed into different people. I think that's a massive copout of an excuse, but I didn't pry any further. Ever since the breakup, I've been surprisingly resilient, occurring do my friends and family (I don't know how objective they are being ). I've joined up a gym for the first time with my mates, joined a squash time with my other mate and I've been keeping myself occupied studying for my exams and tutoring other high school seniors for theirs (my current job). However, the problem comes in now: She knows that I've joined the gym, let's call it C gym. She just asked me whether she minds joining up with her friend. Da fuq? I haven't replied to her on facebook (still going NC for the 4 weeks) and she just sent me a message about how she needed my help for her maths exam and how it reminded her of me and how sorry she is. Haven't replied to that one either. It helped when I thought she was a heartless person, but now I feel bad that she's hurting. This is normal correct? Anyway, I hope anyone can give me some support or suggestions or anything. Thanks for reading guys. I hope you all are coping well.
itsmyfault Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Ill say it before everyone else does... Probably GIGS (Grass is greener syndrome) As you are doing so good... I'd say keep going. Remain no contact and push forward with your life. You have done all the right things so far, Don't relapse.
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