GoBomb36 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Well, last night I hung out with a new girl from work. It has been a month and a :half since things went down, and right at a month of complete NC. She is with a guy who has a 6 year old kid, and merely just settling. Has completely cut me out of her life. It sucks, and there are moments I miss her like crazy. Regardless, I hung out with a girl last night. Not the hottest in the world, but fairly cute. We hung out, and while lying there I had no desire to touch her or anything. Even had a nervous feeling with de javu moments of feeling like I was with my ex. This girl and I are supposed to go to a movie in a few nights, but after last night I'm not sure if I want to now. Does this mean it is still too soon? I honestly do not feel girls to be all that attractive to me right now. Last night made me miss my ex. It must be too soon?
Renard99 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Only you can really decide whether it's too soon or not... but.... from what you say, then yes, it's too soon. It's inevitable that a little bit of a comparison with your ex creeps in when you're in the first few attempts at dating, mainly because your ex will have been the last time you dated and will be the most recent experience..... however.... these feelings need to not bother you. You need to feel that she's totally out of your life and doesn't matter. The comparisons, if any, with your ex need to be no more significant than eating an apple and thinking it tastes like one you ate three weeks ago. By thinking that the deja vu was a little too much and it made you uncomfortable says to me that you're not ready. Also, if you can't differentiate between friend, date and your ex whilst seeing this new girl, you're only going to hurt yourself, your new friend or both.
Author GoBomb36 Posted November 22, 2012 Author Posted November 22, 2012 I truly see what you are saying. I plan to be moving away from this town soon, probably in June. That's a lot of time in between, and I feel like by then I'll be ready, which will make my move more exciting. But not knowing what to do before then is the kicker.
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