Man with no limbs marries a dreamgirl.

[kaylan]

How do women here expect some guys not to bitch when they try and link stories with people the average guy cant relate to?

 

Look I get what OP and other women are trying to say to some of the guys here...but lets be real. People want common day stories they can relate to. Not some uber rarity that still has the smell that maybe status and fortune might have played a part in an otherwise great story. Stories like in the OP do not change the every day swing of things.

 

Just callin' a spade a spade. Dudes want average guys they can relate to. Stories like this make most dudes shoulder shrug and move their attention onto the next thing. I know I dont spend my days worrying about the love lives of folks in the news.

 

Why should we give him props for landing a "babe" like the OP says. He found love...great. But it seems some folks here and in the comments of these articles, are putting him and his wife on a pedestal for her being attractive. Im just saying we should be realistic and not blind to the fact that this is another story of a hot young thing shacking up with a dude whos famous and has cash.

 

I wish him the best...but do I think she will never desire, or fall into the arms of an able bodied Zeus of a man? I dunno...

Edited November 20, 2012 by kaylan

[LittlePrince]

disclaimer thingy: I'm targetting men only because it's a man in the story, I hope that a dreamy guy would marry a girl in the same situation too.

Yeah what man wouldn't want a limbless sex toy.

[ThaWholigan]

How do women here expect some guys not to bitch when they try and link stories with people the average guy cant relate to?

 

Look I get what OP and other women are trying to say to some of the guys here...but lets be real. People want common day stories they can relate to. Not some uber rarity that still has the smell that maybe status and fortune might have played a part in an otherwise great story. Stories like in the OP do not change the every day swing of things.

 

Just callin' a spade a spade. Dudes want average guys they can relate to. Stories like this make most dudes shoulder shrug and move their attention onto the next thing. I know I dont spend my days worrying about the love lives of folks in the news.

 

Why should we give him props for landing a "babe" like the OP says. He found love...great. But it seems some folks here and in the comments of these articles, are putting him and his wife on a pedestal for her being attractive. Im just saying we should be realistic and not blind to the fact that this is another story of a hot young thing shacking up with a dude whos famous and has cash.

 

I wish him the best...but do I think she will never desire, or fall into the arms of an able bodied Zeus of a man? I dunno...

I say they should just do what I did and make a thread basically saying "stop bitching" and leave it at that. It's too much though Kaylan, they bitch more than the girls do even

[mesmerized]

This would NEVER happen if it was a woman, ever.

[ThaWholigan]

This would NEVER happen if it was a woman, ever.

I'm sure I saw a documentary about a woman with no limbs and she had a husband and like 4 kids or some sh*t . Let me google......

[kaylan]

This would NEVER happen if it was a woman, ever.

If she was rich and had a nice torso, I bet you it would happen. Do you see the guys whove been in the media spotlight for marrying women much older than them? Or women who are disabled in some way?

 

If younger guys in their 30s and 40s are marrying much richer and much older women, Im sure theyve marry a young one if she looked decent and had cash.

[Imported]

I'm sure I saw a documentary about a woman with no limbs and she had a husband and like 4 kids or some sh*t . Let me google......

 

I am pretty sure that was an X-Files episode and she lived under a bed, on a creeper. And her husband was her brother.

 

And her kids were monsters

[TheFinalWord]

Nick Vujicic is awesome. He's delivered some really powerful sermons. Speaking of women with missing limbs...check out Bethany Hamilton

 

[Negative Nancy]

This would NEVER happen if it was a woman, ever.

 

Exactly.

 

And let's not pretend this woman would be with him if he hadn't made a successful business out of his shortcomings.

[bolase]

They probably blame their lack of success on those things because we're constantly being told by other LS posters that in order for us to attract a woman we need to lose weight, completely change the clothes we wear, have ambition, work out to put on lots of muscle, have a high flying job, completely change our personalities, change our hair style, etc.

 

Which shows that that isn't true for everyone, take advice with a grain of salt, women love guys with amazing personalities. And who look after what they got and are full of life, as this guy IS!

[bolase]

I agree. Yes, they are.

 

The point is....this man had every right to sit at home and feel sorry for himself. Everyone would have understood why. He would have had all of the sympathy he wanted if he simply accepted that he was born without limbs and would forever be hampered by his affliction. He could have easily posted on LS how he has be shortchanged physically and cannot compete with those men who have legs and arms.

 

He could have scoffed at the short guys who had limbs because he is not only without limbs, but he is short.

 

Instead, he IS exceptional but that is because he decided not to sit back and whine. He told himself that he has qualities beyond the lack of limbs. He realized that if he simply had the right attitude, then he could give others the present of a positive attitude. And if there were people who felt hindered by physical disabilities, then he could give them encouragement. He could let them know that if he could overcome his disability, then it might be more than possible that they could overcome their physical limitation.

 

I think the biggest overall message is that if we view a physical disability as a limitation, then we will be limited. If we view it as a challenge and an opportunity, then this attitude can help us rise to the occasion and be successful.

 

We are not born victims. We choose to be victims.

 

Nah I'm not missing the point. What I took from it was all of the above. If you view not just any disability but any bit of who you are as a limitation to LOVE, you won't love. You might be loved, but you won't love, because you won't love yourself. That is the message. Love yourself and life and you will find love.

[LittlePrince]

Nah I'm not missing the point. What I took from it was all of the above. If you view not just any disability but any bit of who you are as a limitation to LOVE, you won't love. You might be loved, but you won't love, because you won't love yourself. That is the message. Love yourself and life and you will find love.

More hippy dippy nonsense from LS

[bolase]

I see what you are trying to do OP. But exceptions, especially super rare ones like these, do not make the rules.

 

What I am trying to do it to share a story of someone who is, most likely, less fortunate than the readers as far as a birth/life situation goes, who doesn't complain about physical shortcomings and instead finds love and happiness (with a beautiful woman, who does not care about his literal "shortcomings"

 

I am happy with the way I was born, I love my body (even though society says I shouldn't because my tits are little - oo that might be a shortcoming, but my next boyfriend or lover will still love me) and I love myself. And I am sometimes completely happy, and my love life is just fine.

 

My point is, no I 'm not going to inspire a crowd of people in the same way, but I look at him and I understand, and I wish the guys who complain about their physical bits and bobs and talk about giving up on dating would see it as well.

 

*rant over*

[bolase]

More hippy dippy nonsense from LS

 

Sorry you feel that way!

[LittlePrince]

Sorry you feel that way!

I am sorry you use banalities to steer your life.

[bolase]

I am sorry you use banalities to steer your life.

Oh Little Prince. I don't hang out on loveshack to be an ass.

[Hawakai]

More hippy dippy nonsense from LS

 

You shouldn't say that. You might get warned for not making everyone feel like a princess on LS . As for the guy. Yeah, so what? Wasn't that guy a small-time celebrity before his marriage? Fame makes women aroused. There ya go. Nothing to do with love. Sex and relationships and reproduction are about healthy genes/healthy appearance. Walking around on stumps hardly looks healthy.

[Taramere]

Man with no limbs. Marrying his love, an able-bodied babe.

 

Guys who come on here whining about their sad situation of datelessness blaming things like being Indian, Short, Skinny, "only" working a sales job and talking dramatically about "giving up",

 

WATCH THIS

No Limbs, No Limits

 

And please understand that we care about your character.

 

 

 

disclaimer thingy: I'm targetting men only because it's a man in the story, I hope that a dreamy guy would marry a girl in the same situation too.

 

I've seen videos of that guy before, and his energy and positivity are indeed very uplifting. When somebody mentally overcomes such a huge disadvantage, you do get a sense of wow about his inner strength. It's certainly inspirational.

 

The difficulty in using that to inspire an average sort of guy who has a couple of minor disadvantages is that however positive he tries to be, he's never going to elicit that "wow" reaction that a limbless man gets. It would be more like "whoopity doo..so you manage to stay positive even though you're 5 ft 6". What do you want? A medal? Now if you want to see some real strength of character, there's this youtube video of a limbless man..."

 

Nonetheless, it's a good lesson in the attraction of happiness and optimism. You get one shot at life, and you might as well do your best to go through it with reasonably good feelings rather than being set on trudging through life with whey faced misery and a heart that's dark with anger.

[bolase]

 

Nonetheless, it's a good lesson in the attraction of happiness and optimism. You get one shot at life, and you might as well do your best to go through it with reasonably good feelings rather than being set on trudging through life with whey faced misery and a heart that's dark with anger.

 

This.

 

So much cynicism in this post, so much negativity..ggees.

[Woggle]

Good lord some of you are so cynical. Can't we just see this as the positive story it is?

[LittlePrince]

Good lord some of you are so cynical. Can't we just see this as the positive story it is?

But it isn't.

[Taramere]

But it isn't.

 

Not for you, I'm sure.

 

Somebody born with such intense disadvantages has managed to achieve the state of happiness that eludes you. It must be quite a sobering thought that it's better to be a limbless man than it is to be LittlePrince. That the mental limits you've chosen to embrace are more paralysing than the physical limits he was born with.

[LittlePrince]

Not for you, I'm sure.

 

Somebody born with such intense disadvantages has managed to achieve the state of happiness that eludes you.

A delusional one....I don't know anyone who would be envious.

 

It must be quite a sobering thought that it's better to be a limbless man than it is to be LittlePrince.

I quite enjoy walking so the advantage of being myself over another belongs to me. I've never wished to be anyone else or jealous of another. Part of is since my misanthropy prevents it. I think so little of you and your lot I can't muster the emotion you wish I had.

 

That the mental limits you've chosen to embrace are more paralysing than the physical limits he was born with.

Believing in a state of happiness is a mental limit greater than any of his physical ones which I am gladly without either.

[LittleTiger]

Riiiiight.

 

And its just a coincidence that this guy is well known and well off huh?

 

 

NO! It is most definitely not just a coincidence that this guy is well known and well off!

 

Do you think he is the only man in the world who was born with that condition? The only man in the world who has no arms and no legs? Of course not!!!

 

He is, however, the only one (as far as I'm aware) who has made a name for himself in the world of motivational speaking. Just like many able bodied people have done before him. Did his lack of limbs give him an edge over others? Very likely! He used a negative and turned it into a positive - that is something the rest of us should aspire to.

 

I don't know you personally, or any of the other guys on LS who come here moaning about their lack of height or looks or whatever, but I can assure you that, even if he suddenly become an ordinary, able bodied, average looking guy he would still shine in a crowd and attract women, because of who he is on the inside.

 

If you can't (or won't) understand that simple fact, then I feel very sorry for you. Negative self-beliefs will limit you more than anything else and could have a massively detrimental effect on your whole life.

[JamesM]

What I am trying to do it to share a story of someone who is, most likely, less fortunate than the readers as far as a birth/life situation goes, who doesn't complain about physical shortcomings and instead finds love and happiness (with a beautiful woman, who does not care about his literal "shortcomings"

 

I am happy with the way I was born, I love my body (even though society says I shouldn't because my tits are little - oo that might be a shortcoming, but my next boyfriend or lover will still love me) and I love myself. And I am sometimes completely happy, and my love life is just fine.

 

My point is, no I 'm not going to inspire a crowd of people in the same way, but I look at him and I understand, and I wish the guys who complain about their physical bits and bobs and talk about giving up on dating would see it as well.

 

*rant over*

 

Agree.

 

And it isn't the size that matters but how well they respond.

 

Acceptance of oneself with the perceived physical limitations makes for a better attitude and more successful life.

 

More hippy dippy nonsense from someone who was never a hippie. However, it is crazy that such common sense tidbits are ignored so that some can feel sorry for themselves rather than move on and enjoy every aspect of life.