bolase Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Man with no limbs. Marrying his love, an able-bodied babe. Guys who come on here whining about their sad situation of datelessness blaming things like being Indian, Short, Skinny, "only" working a sales job and talking dramatically about "giving up", WATCH THIS No Limbs, No Limits And please understand that we care about your character. disclaimer thingy: I'm targetting men only because it's a man in the story, I hope that a dreamy guy would marry a girl in the same situation too. 7
Author bolase Posted November 19, 2012 Author Posted November 19, 2012 Its not an exception, it's an exceptional exception. you can't compare it to being short. 1
LittleTiger Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Wow! Thank you for sharing that! I saw a video of this guy years ago when he talked about how much he hoped to marry and fall in love - what a joy to see that his dreams came true! A positive attitude and a happy, outgoing personality is the key to success with the opposite sex - always has been and always will be! 5
LittleTiger Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Ah yes, because as we all know one exception invalidates the rule. Its not an exception, it's an exceptional exception. you can't compare it to being short. You guys are sooo missing the point! What a shame. Until you understand the underlying message here you will undoubtedly be staying single! 3
ja123 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 This is a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing! 3
ls32ssibm Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Some girls are also attracted to men that they have to take care of. I forget what the exact terminology but this may be an extreme case of it. 1
soccerrprp Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Not to be cynical, but, well, I'm cynical, but nice story, of course! This is so rare and exceptional that that's why it's such a story. The vast majority of people would not involve themselves with such physical differences. I would also like to add that this guy is a well known motivational speaker....likely well off. Would she have considered him if he was joe-schmoe? Don't know. Great story never the less....
volentia Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 right ...for all you out there who think finding love is hopeless... THIS is inspiration, IT is attitude that counts. I once fell head love heals in love with a guy who was small, really very very ugly, and had a crappy job. He was like this guy in that he never allowed his demons get him down. He believed in himself. Love yourself warts and all its contagious. 3
LittleTiger Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Not to be cynical, but, well, I'm cynical, but nice story, of course! This is so rare and exceptional that that's why it's such a story. The vast majority of people would not involve themselves with such physical differences. I would also like to add that this guy is a well known motivational speaker....likely well off. Would she have considered him if he was joe-schmoe? Don't know. Great story never the less.... The point is that this guy is not joe-schmoe - and it has nothing to do with his lack of limbs, his 'fame' or his money - it is his personality! The first time I saw him on video (years ago) I fell in love with him myself! He is an incredible human being and personally, I am in awe of him. I cannot even begin to imagine what mental and emotional strength it has taken for him to become the person he is today. He deserves to have found this kind of happiness - he deserves to have found an equally special woman. AND if he can do it, anyone can! 3
SJC2008 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 You guys are sooo missing the point! What a shame. Until you understand the underlying message here you will undoubtedly be staying single! No YOU are missing the point! His wife accepts him for who HE is! When am I going to meet a woman who accepts me for who I am? When are the other guys who struggle her going to get accepted for who they are?? Yall tell us to work on social skills, be confident etc... So if someone is a little shy at first but warms up after a but they're an outcast? I'm funny, honest to a fault, good with my hands, affectionate and a bunch of other things. I've never even aimed for women as attractive as this mans wife! Look at the OP's wording... She calls them whiners and they blame it on being skinny, Indian etc.. Why couldn't she be positive and say "This guy found a woman and you can too..." no she uses a one in a million shot to call them out, shame on her!!! 1
Ross MwcFan Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 (edited) Man with no limbs. Marrying his love, an able-bodied babe. Guys who come on here whining about their sad situation of datelessness blaming things like being Indian, Short, Skinny, "only" working a sales job and talking dramatically about "giving up", WATCH THIS No Limbs, No Limits And please understand that we care about your character. disclaimer thingy: I'm targetting men only because it's a man in the story, I hope that a dreamy guy would marry a girl in the same situation too. They probably blame their lack of success on those things because we're constantly being told by other LS posters that in order for us to attract a woman we need to lose weight, completely change the clothes we wear, have ambition, work out to put on lots of muscle, have a high flying job, completely change our personalities, change our hair style, etc. Edited November 19, 2012 by Ross MwcFan
JamesM Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 You guys are sooo missing the point! What a shame. Until you understand the underlying message here you will undoubtedly be staying single! I agree. Yes, they are. The point is....this man had every right to sit at home and feel sorry for himself. Everyone would have understood why. He would have had all of the sympathy he wanted if he simply accepted that he was born without limbs and would forever be hampered by his affliction. He could have easily posted on LS how he has be shortchanged physically and cannot compete with those men who have legs and arms. He could have scoffed at the short guys who had limbs because he is not only without limbs, but he is short. Instead, he IS exceptional but that is because he decided not to sit back and whine. He told himself that he has qualities beyond the lack of limbs. He realized that if he simply had the right attitude, then he could give others the present of a positive attitude. And if there were people who felt hindered by physical disabilities, then he could give them encouragement. He could let them know that if he could overcome his disability, then it might be more than possible that they could overcome their physical limitation. I think the biggest overall message is that if we view a physical disability as a limitation, then we will be limited. If we view it as a challenge and an opportunity, then this attitude can help us rise to the occasion and be successful. We are not born victims. We choose to be victims. 10
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 I dont think he's anything special. People just SEE him as special. Thats why it works. Because they compare themselves...and how his situation would be so terrible if they were in his shoes....so they automatically put him on a pedestal for doing what he does. You truly don't see a person as "special" who is able to make a great life for themselves even when starting off at a tremendous deficit compared with most of the rest of us? 1
LittleTiger Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 I could decide to sit at home and whine too. But because I have all my limbs....and society doesnt see me as handicapped, MY effort in making something of myself isnt anything special. I could take the stage and give motivational speeches too. Telling people that they should try harder, not give up, and all that stuff. But I would never energize a room the way this guy does....not because I my speeches would be different. But because he already wins them over....just for the fact of having no limbs. Its 1000 times easier to sell it coming from him....than some regular guy that has all his limbs. I dont think he's anything special. People just SEE him as special. Thats why it works. Because they compare themselves...and how his situation would be so terrible if they were in his shoes....so they automatically put him on a pedestal for doing what he does. Nope, still missing the point. He does not win people over because he has no limbs. He wins them over because of his positive attitude.....because he has courage and determination, because he smiles, and gives out joy and hope, because he believes that he has the power to change his own life and other people's. You don't have to be the way he is, or change your personality, to become attractive as a human being - you just have to be the best of whoever you are inside. Instead of moaning about what you don't have, be grateful for everything good about yourself and put it out there for the whole world to see. 1
dasein Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 You guys are sooo missing the point! Some guy found a woman who really really loves oral, isn't that the point? 1
LittleTiger Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Some guy found a woman who really really loves oral, isn't that the point? Yes, absolutely spot on!
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 That the whole point right there. YOU are the one that sees his situation as a defect. Thats why people like you are so amazed at what hes been able to do. Me and him can both choose the be failures, and do nothing....but both of us decide to get out of bed and be productive. If he grew up on an island where everyone else had no limbs...would HE think he was different? NO he wouldnt. He would be living his life the same as he is now. His motivational job exists for people like you that see it as a huge wall to overcome. Well … he didn't grow up on such an island. He grew up in a society where people's physical prowess and beauty are revered. But, I digress ... I am not looking at it as "a huge wall to overcome." I think this guy's situation can teach most successfully all the dozens of people who come on here moaning about how short or ugly or ill-fated they are and using those things for excuses. If you don't tend to fall back on your own perceived shortcomings (if you have any) as excuses, then this guy's fulfilled life probably has nothing to teach you.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 (edited) It's a wonderful story. They are two very beautiful people. And he is really quite the inspiration. I guess my own more cynical side wonders if this would have been a story if the woman had been less attractive. But it does remind you that there are some relaly amazing people out there. Edited November 19, 2012 by Disenchantedly Yours 3
LittleTiger Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 This is what none of you get....the guys that are short, or not hot or whatever.....THEY dont see it as a shortcoming....they arent whining about themselves....they are stating how women look down on them. If a woman is stuck up and will only date a guy that is 6ft....me having the best personality in the world is not going to change her stuck up outlook. But all of you on here try to act like it will. Guys arent moping around...crying to everyone around them that nobody likes them....they are simply pointing out the experiences from interactions with women. I think the biggest issues about all this is the fact that guys are vocal about how these women treat them.....thats what bothers women the most. Women like that just wish those guys would shut up...and go hide under a rock...so society doesnt have to interact with them. The same reason why women want guys to take a "hint".....they just want the guys to be gone. In her mind she is thinking "how dare such a low life thinks I should have to address him....why cant he just take the hint and leave". Of course they see their lack of height as a shortcoming and, yes, very often they are whining about it on here. If you believe that being attractive to the opposite sex is all about physical attributes (as the vast majority of young men here do) then you will obviously see lack of height (or arms or legs) as a shortcoming that others will hold against you - because you hold it against yourself. If you guys are having trouble attracting decent women (ie kind, genuine, caring women like the woman in the video), I highly doubt that is has much to do with your looks. It's far more likely to be the bitter, cynical and 'hard done by' attitude that you display here on LS. 2
Imported Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 (edited) I could decide to sit at home and whine too. But because I have all my limbs....and society doesnt see me as handicapped, MY effort in making something of myself isnt anything special. I could take the stage and give motivational speeches too. Telling people that they should try harder, not give up, and all that stuff. But I would never energize a room the way this guy does....not because I my speeches would be different. But because he already wins them over....just for the fact of having no limbs. Its 1000 times easier to sell it coming from him....than some regular guy that has all his limbs. I dont think he's anything special. People just SEE him as special. Thats why it works. Because they compare themselves...and how his situation would be so terrible if they were in his shoes....so they automatically put him on a pedestal for doing what he does. Maybe cut off all your limbs. It'll make life 1000 times easier right? Waiting for Somedude to point that if the guy had legs he'd be taller and women know that which is why that limbless guy got the girl and "real" short guys can't. Edited November 19, 2012 by Imported 6
somedude81 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Some girls are also attracted to men that they have to take care of. I forget what the exact terminology but this may be an extreme case of it. Florence Nightingale effect The Florence Nightingale effect is a situation where a caregiver develops romantic and/or sexual feelings for his/her patient, even if very little communication or contact takes place outside of basic care. Feelings may fade once the patient is no longer in need of care, either by recovery or death. ------------------- In other words, if he grew arms, she might fall out of love with him
SJC2008 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 You beat me to it. I learned about in from the movie Back to The Future lol. 1
kaylan Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Man with no limbs. Marrying his love, an able-bodied babe. Guys who come on here whining about their sad situation of datelessness blaming things like being Indian, Short, Skinny, "only" working a sales job and talking dramatically about "giving up", WATCH THIS No Limbs, No Limits And please understand that we care about your character. disclaimer thingy: I'm targetting men only because it's a man in the story, I hope that a dreamy guy would marry a girl in the same situation too. I see what you are trying to do OP. But exceptions, especially super rare ones like these, do not make the rules.
kaylan Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 The point is that this guy is not joe-schmoe - and it has nothing to do with his lack of limbs, his 'fame' or his money - it is his personality! The first time I saw him on video (years ago) I fell in love with him myself! He is an incredible human being and personally, I am in awe of him. I cannot even begin to imagine what mental and emotional strength it has taken for him to become the person he is today. He deserves to have found this kind of happiness - he deserves to have found an equally special woman. AND if he can do it, anyone can!Riiiiight. And its just a coincidence that this guy is well known and well off huh? I swear sometimes some of you on this site refuse to acknowledge certain realities because god forbid even the most well intentioned of us be a little shallow or self serving.
ThaWholigan Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Riiiiight. And its just a coincidence that this guy is well known and well off huh? I swear sometimes some of you on this site refuse to acknowledge certain realities because god forbid even the most well intentioned of us be a little shallow or self serving. It's not that, it's just so the guys will quit bitching really. Venting is all well and good, but man is it tiring to read all the time. 4
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