Pamkiss Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 (edited) There's a whole back story to this. We broke up a few weeks ago. He broke up with me, then a few days later came crawling back, said he was just angry and didn't mean to breakup. This is the second time he did this so I was determined to stay broken up. I told him that I am moving on and that there's a guy that I met who likes me but I don't like. (I just wanted to make my point that I am moving on, but the guy is real) He kept pursuing and everything blew up when he saw me with the guy talking closely. I was holding his arm for support because I was drunk but I swear I really don't like him more than just being friends. We were badminton buddies. The guy is a common friend of one of my office mates who I play Badminton with. Please take note that my boyfriend and I were broken up at this time. After much chaos and complications, we talked and decided to go slowly into reconciling. But now he is super jealous and paranoid, which is understandable for me since it hurt him to see me with the guy. He was convinced there was something going on. Now he wants me to give up my friendship with my office mates outside of work because he is worried that the guy will show up sometimes since he is friends with one of them. (My office mates are all girl). It's more of an ultimatum on his end. I don't see much logic behind what he wants but I'm not sure how to go about this. Please help! Edited November 19, 2012 by Pamkiss
Lonely Ronin Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Do you like drama or something? You two have broken up 3 times already, and now he wants you to never hang out with any of your coworkers. You two are not right for each other period, break-up and move on with your life.
iiiii Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 A little bit of jealousy is healthy in a relationship, but insisting you have no friends outside work is controlling and paranoid, and unhealthy. If he wants you to give up your friendships, you'll have no emotional support if you break up with him again. Perhaps that is what he wants. Some guys are so insecure that they can't deal with the fact that they aren't your entire world. There's something wrong with this guy. I'd stay well clear of him.
mammasita Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 I think he's being unreasonable. VERY extreme and unreasonable. He obviously doesn't trust you and is being super jealous.
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