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Okay,i've had total 1 thread where i put that i was feeling neglected by my ld bf because he wanted some space for himself and all.

 

So the thing is,we had some little arguments these days but nothing serious and i've managed to remain calm and get it back to neutral,it's just that yesterday,i've gone out with my friends at an event and told him that i'll keep him updated,but middle conversation my battery dried out and i told him i have to go off and that i'll contact him later.I managed to turn my phone later on to check if he was writing something and then it went out again(mobile facebook )

when i got home i got what i've been fearing,he became upset about who doesn't charge cellphones when they go out saturday night and if i told him i'll stay in touch that i should,or not promise it to him at all.he made it sound like he knows how i act by saying that i'm easily influenced by my friends and that i run like a headless chicken where nobody could find me.I didn't want to fight so i just explained it very reasonably and that was the end of the conversation.Then he made 2 mean jokes.He sometimes likes to poke me with jokes but not this kind.the first joke is about me not paying money for something i wanted to buy him at the event,so he said "i don't love you ,don't get me that" and later said that it would be the only way to prevent me from doing it,the second was something about how he doesn't care where i go,also later pointed out it was a joke...

 

But today it was different,we talked over skype more while playing a game,and chit chatted about random things,it was a 2 hour talk,and everything was ok until he said he was going to go watch a show,i stopped for a second and turned on the camera to show him my new hair color,he seemed,eh,disinterested in anything at all,i wanted to say a few words before wishing him a good night and at the meantime he seemed very eager to go,and got a little bit bitchy about it,then i asked him if he's getting annoyed by the fact that i'm talking while he wants to do his stuff and he said "maybe",i got a bit suprised to which he reacted as i was prohibiting him to do it because of some "big expectations i had".I said ok to which he replied "keep telling yourself everything is ok",in the past i would get a bit annoyed over that but these days decided to let things go their way,i've become more self involved and gave him space,pretty much a lot "he is unemployed and pausing college now".but it seems like nothing is good to him.I swear it's like he's getting annoyed at everything i do,even if i do nothing.

also,he has 2 skype adresses,both same and all,just one labeled to a family member,he was never bothered by it but today he asked me for his username on the new one so he can be on that one from now on,i mean,what was the problem with the other one which he's been using for the past 6 years or so.Guys,i'm so confused.

Also,he doesn't seem to want to break up,i've being offering it to him during our not so past fights,told him if it's so bad for him why don't we just end it and go our way,his words were "I've put a lot into this relationship and we're going to solve the problems"

And,this is his first more then 4 months,seriously involved relationship,and also my first serious,he swears he wouldn't cheat and would rather be honest and break up.Actually he broke up with me some 5 months ago due to problems building up in and outside of the ldr, and a month after called me he wants me back so,i don't know what to think anymore.

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Please learn to use the space bar on your keyboard or people won't want to read your threads.

 

It hurts to look at that many letters all squished up together.

I couldn't do it, sorry.

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O_O it's always bad when they won't let you go but then send you strange messages. I can only offer what I've been doing lately and that is talking to him and really getting inside his head, figuring out what is going on in there, basically letting him talk and express himself.

 

Good luck

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@Million...sorry,i've been writing like that only because i was so upset at the time.

 

@myPoutine

 

We've had a small fight yesterday where he said he isn't sure where we were standing in our relationship because,well,because of all the fights

 

So we talked it through and for now everything seems to be ok.Before he was hesitant to even call me to spend Christmas with him(saying he thinks that he would be too selfish by not giving me a chance to celebrate with my family)but now we started making some concrete plans about holidays.

 

Oddly,he started skyping with me more again and chatting with me,also calling me on my phone from time to time to check when i'll be home so we can talk(i have a bunch of classes these days)

 

I'll make a wild guess here and say that he just got tired of reassuring me when i get insecure,that i was being a downer for the past week, and that he was afraid that every time we talk we would begin to fight.Maybe we fight more often because we're missing each other too,who knows.

 

But for now i'm trying to focus on my exams and making this positivity between us last longer.

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