Pearl121 Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 I met this guy at my previous job, when I met him, he and his girlfriend had been together for 1 week. At first he would freak out when i would touch him (you know when a girl flirts and she touches the guys arm and such) he said that he has a new girlfriend, and his worried of what she'll think if she will see us sitting on a couch touching. the girlfriend ended up telling him that it's ok if he has female friends, so since then we have been in contact, he even gave me a 2 hour backrub. he is always telling me im pretty, and smart and compliments me..but im 19 and his 23, so he keeps saying the age is a problem. i even told him i want him, and he told me that he can't right now because his got a gf....but then in a phone convo he tells me that he will move near me when his done with college (he lives quiet far away). We have videochatted a couple times, and we used to sms daily but then i decided to quit so I could get over him...but then a couple days ago we started talking again. He told me that he thinks their relationship will last a long time. but then again he sang for 5 seconds, "I could fall for her but she's a child" and yet again complimented me, and he couldn't get why im single. Now, this is a question for you guys out there..his girlfriend lives near his house, a guy friend of mine told me his only with her for the sex, because he would rather have a bootycall 5 minutes from his house than a couple hours away..and that if he cared about her he wouldn't talk to me so often, compliment me, and given me a backrub for that long. does this sound possible? that his with her only for the sex? My question is, It's been 1 month since we started talking..he has shown in his actions and told me that he is attracted to me and likes my personality (but also keeps reminding me of my age) , but yet he won't leave his gf and idk how long it will last between them...I have two options: one is..completely cut him off, because I'm catching feelings and his not going to leave his girlfriend (for all I know they could be together for many months) second is..keep talking to him, and once they break up I'll already be there. A friend told me that if he got physical with me/likes someone else, so early into their relationship..it won't last. but then yesterday he told me he thinks it will last for a while...he also lied to me and told me they have been together for longer than they actually are, do you think his trying to make me jealous?
todreaminblue Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 I met this guy at my previous job, when I met him, he and his girlfriend had been together for 1 week. At first he would freak out when i would touch him (you know when a girl flirts and she touches the guys arm and such) he said that he has a new girlfriend, and his worried of what she'll think if she will see us sitting on a couch touching. the girlfriend ended up telling him that it's ok if he has female friends, so since then we have been in contact, he even gave me a 2 hour backrub. he is always telling me im pretty, and smart and compliments me..but im 19 and his 23, so he keeps saying the age is a problem. i even told him i want him, and he told me that he can't right now because his got a gf....but then in a phone convo he tells me that he will move near me when his done with college (he lives quiet far away). We have videochatted a couple times, and we used to sms daily but then i decided to quit so I could get over him...but then a couple days ago we started talking again. He told me that he thinks their relationship will last a long time. but then again he sang for 5 seconds, "I could fall for her but she's a child" and yet again complimented me, and he couldn't get why im single. Now, this is a question for you guys out there..his girlfriend lives near his house, a guy friend of mine told me his only with her for the sex, because he would rather have a bootycall 5 minutes from his house than a couple hours away..and that if he cared about her he wouldn't talk to me so often, compliment me, and given me a backrub for that long. does this sound possible? that his with her only for the sex? My question is, It's been 1 month since we started talking..he has shown in his actions and told me that he is attracted to me and likes my personality (but also keeps reminding me of my age) , but yet he won't leave his gf and idk how long it will last between them...I have two options: one is..completely cut him off, because I'm catching feelings and his not going to leave his girlfriend (for all I know they could be together for many months) second is..keep talking to him, and once they break up I'll already be there. A friend told me that if he got physical with me/likes someone else, so early into their relationship..it won't last. but then yesterday he told me he thinks it will last for a while...he also lied to me and told me they have been together for longer than they actually are, do you think his trying to make me jealous? He is lying to his girlfriend and he is lying to you.Whether or not he is just with her for sex is irrelevant.....a guy who lets people assume or goes around telling friends he is with his girlfriend for sex has no respect for women.He is getting physical with you while he is in a relationship.If you were in a relationship with this guy after he gives his girlfriend the boot what makes you think he would not do the same to you with someone else? How long do you think it will take? leave this guy to eat your dust........run.....best wishes.....deb 2
veggirl Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 eww what a dog. you really want a guy who will leave his gf for whatever other girl comes along? you really want a guy who will use a girl for sex to the point where he calls her his gf just to get laid? he is a piece of crap. you want a boyfriend who will give another girl back rubs for 2 hours? forget him. 1
Author Pearl121 Posted November 21, 2012 Author Posted November 21, 2012 we talked to other day, he told me I need to get a boyfriend, I told him I don't want one, and he told me I have to because life's better with one...I think that's his way of telling me that I need to move on, do you think that's what it ment?
Mrlonelyone Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 we talked to other day, he told me I need to get a boyfriend, I told him I don't want one, and he told me I have to because life's better with one...I think that's his way of telling me that I need to move on, do you think that's what it ment? I know it sucks, but if someone has an official and committed relationship and is really happy with it there is no breaking them up. Now, if he were looking for a way out of a relationship which had been unsatisfying that would be different. It's a nice and perhaps genuinely concerned way of telling you to find someone who can give you what you seek because he can't.
Leigh 87 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Yuck, your both being pretty low! First off, you should not go for guys with girlfriends! Have some dignity! Even if a guy is not into his girlfriend and is lusting after you instead, out of PRINCIPAL, people with a healthy dose of self respect simply DO NOT GO FOR MEN THAT HAVE GIRLFRIENDS. Period. Just go find a guy that does not have a girlfriend. The other disturbing thing of course, is this jerk giving you a backrub when he HAS A GIRLFRIEND:sick: He is a nasty piece of work and should have the decency to break up with this poor girl and let her find a guy who is into her and does not act inappropriate!
veggirl Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 we talked to other day, he told me I need to get a boyfriend, I told him I don't want one, and he told me I have to because life's better with one...I think that's his way of telling me that I need to move on, do you think that's what it ment? yes that is what he meant. So regardless of if you get a boyfriend or not, just move on. He's a loser and a user and I'm not sure what the appeal is here. He has crappy character. There is nothing attractive about a man who lies and uses.
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