robaday Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 Went on a date last night - girl was really attractive, really cool, into same things Im into. We got along really well. She came back to mine for a few drinks... But we didnt even kiss - I wanted to, but Im not sure if it was a lack of confidence on my part but I just didnt go for it, and she ended up leaving...... Id really like to see her again, but Im not sure how to make it more romantic/build up chemistry..Its been so long since Ive been fully single I think Ive really lost my edge!
rocketman122 Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 Went on a date last night - girl was really attractive, really cool, into same things Im into. We got along really well. She came back to mine for a few drinks... But we didnt even kiss - I wanted to, but Im not sure if it was a lack of confidence on my part but I just didnt go for it, and she ended up leaving...... Id really like to see her again, but Im not sure how to make it more romantic/build up chemistry..Its been so long since Ive been fully single I think Ive really lost my edge! dont worry about it. some girls like slow, other less. ask her out and try again. put some effort and take her to a romantic restaurant. bring a rose. talk to her first on the phone and get a feel for how she feels. if it was positive for her then just continue dating. its like riding a bike. it'll come back to you. btw, any hand holding? hand on your leg, or touching your arm?
Author robaday Posted November 18, 2012 Author Posted November 18, 2012 Na, there wasnt much physical touching or chemistry, but we really got along really well, like absolutely no silences, nothing, we listened to music till really late..... But yeah, think I got a little phased by how good looking she was, shes also quite a bit younger than me....think Ill be able to see her again, we spoke about next weekend, just dont wanna be put into friend zone........
rocketman122 Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 dont worry about it. it'll show with her and you might scare her away. chill out, its only 1 date. it went well, so do the same thing next time. flirt with her and a little touching and if it feels right, then try a kiss. report back how your date went.
veggirl Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Not kissing / being affectionate is FINE on the first date. I mean you don't even know her yet, so it's not a big deal..yet. I assume you at least hugged her nicely when she left. anyway, kiss her on the 2nd date, no doubt. and IMO you should have asked her for a 2nd date at the end of the 1st one.
Author robaday Posted November 19, 2012 Author Posted November 19, 2012 Haha Veggirl your right......its been a long time since I have been completely "single" so Ive been out of the game for awhile...... Its cool, were meeting next week, shes gonna teach me swimming technique;)
Sameold Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 (edited) Just make sure your intentions are clear. Like others have said turn up with a rose or some wine. A good time to make physical contact is to watch a film and sit next to her. Make a cheeky comment at the end saying "do I get a kiss?" or something. If you don't full stop and she runs off its a no, if she says "hehe, not yet" and smiles then it might still be on. As long as she knows its another date its never the friend zone. Edited November 19, 2012 by Sameold
dasein Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Nothing to turn around really, just ask out again in a few days. If her attraction to you is there, the way to maximize it is via active dates. Whether it's playing a silly arcade game or pool, walking in a park, museum or gallery, zoo, window shopping, etc., being close to her physically allows her to become comfortable touching you, for you to respond, and for sparks to form. Always light fun, flirty talk, never heavy talks about relationships, exes, politics, religion, etc. No movie dates, long dinner dates, sitting in a bar dates. If you do have a drink or food, make it a short part of the date, and sit at the bar so you can touch each other. Her posture and amount of touching will tell you all you need to know to escalate in a respectful way. She will let you know she wants to move forward by putting her leg against yours, bumping you, touching your arm, leaning in, your job is to make it easy for her to signal and respond accordingly. When the opportunity arises, move in and kiss her. She will make it easy for you if she likes you. Good luck.
Author robaday Posted November 28, 2012 Author Posted November 28, 2012 So we were gonna be meeting on weekend but both got our wires crossed so it didnt happen. She tried to reschedule till tonight and has cancelled, saying shes really tired. Shes suggested weekend, but its kinda second time shes been flaky already.......havent replied to the text about weekend, reckon if someone flakes twice might be best to leave it?
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