soul-reaper Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 Heres my scenario. Its a bit long because I being very explicit, enjoy reading it In one of my classes at college everyone sits separately from one another. There's this asian girl who used to come in the class and sit in the front. She woudnt look at any one else and just get busy with her own work. That got my attention SO one day I come to class and sat right next to her. After class I asked her if she could give me notes for a later date cause I wont be able to show up and if she wouldnt mind me sitting next to her. She was all yea, thats fine and since then we sit next to each other. The only opportunity we get to talk is right before (if she shows up early) and right after class (like 1 minute) and the class is 3 times a week. So we dont really get a lot of time to talk. When we did exchange notes I called her to a spot and took her to coffee after that. We had a pretty good talk and she seemed all nice and interested. She was quite open about her stuff. One week later on a different day I asked her if she would like to repeat the same thing but without the notes excuse she said she couldnt because she had to leave right away to meet her mother who was off from work and apologized. Her apology sounded pretty genuine and she looked up at me when she was saying that (she seldom talks without making eye contact with me). Then before the weekend I asked her what her plan was for saturday and sunday. One turned out to be hanging out with friends other school work. I did not mention to her that I was asking cause I wanted to ask her out. Now please keep into context that while she is not stupid she is not really very intelligent and says a lot of silly stuff(I know from her facebook posts on her friends wall, shes never posted or commented on mine) But I think any girl can tell that the guy wants to ask them out. After that I just keep it to that level of talking before an after class. I wished her her birthday at 12 am and she responded quickly. I like making jokes and she always laughs at them. I got a very good job at a research lab in a hospital and decided to share it with her. I popped some chocolates in her hand after class and then told her that I wanted to share this with a cute girl in that class. Obviously she started laughing picking up the hint. I am always the one to send her text messages first. With a say 3-4 days gap. She always responds within an hour. If shes not coming to class she wont text me to say hey im not coming please send me the notes, but wait for next class to ask me in person, unless I text her first, Nor ask me why I didnt show up. Now she dosnt have a boy friend. She has a circle of female freinds, she is into them a lot. She is the adventurous type who likes going to social events and visit new places. Also loves watching TV and stuff. The type you would say has a lot of free time on her hands. Im not a player at these kind of things because Ive never taken much interest in girls before, nor am I losing my sleep over this issue but I just wanted to get an opinon, If I should bother asking her to hangout with me in school. She is kinda formal and soft with me, and I know she's totally different with other people she knows. Is she genuinely not interested, thinks of me as only a friend (reality hasnt dawned yet), or does know that ( I think ive dropped plenty of clear hints up there) I like her and is playing hard to get? I was also thinking of stop texting her for some time?
iiiii Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 She's either not interested in you except as a friend, or wants you to man up and actually ask her out officially rather than just dropping hints. Asking is the only way to work out which.
dasein Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Welcome to the forum. Agree with iiii, you will need to ask her out to get your answer. Make it something fun and active, away from school. Not a dinner or movie date, not sitting around somewhere. Not a long involved all day thing or a pressure kind of date like a big show. But also not just "hang out" either. Specific day, time and activity. Ask her either in person or on the phone, not by text, pm or vm. If she says no, go to her house and pee on her yard. j/k on the last part.
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