jwhite Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 I was coming home with my brother from working out at the gym. I still think about her basically all day long still and was wondering where she was at 12:30 on the road if she was. Sure enough, we stop at a red light and i noticed that she pulled right friggin next to me! It seemed like it took her a little bit to notice I was there because she was a car up, but I was in shock and didnt say or do anything. She rolled down her window and was fake waving it seemed like and said "Heeeey, Go Obama!" She sped off and got into a farther lane....she never drives crazy and always yelled at me for it. It just seemed weird. I just kinda waved back and stared in shock! Really shacky afterwards. Anyway, it was BAD for me and it still is today. It has been almost 3 weeks since BU and 2.5 NC except for a text from her after the election. She was always really into the election as was I, but to say something this long after the election seems a little weird and they way she said it seemed forced. I also noticed the way she said Heeey. I have known her for a long time and know that the way she said it yesterday, it was with forced resentment...kinda like I dont really like these people. I was doing good with the whole trying to forget thing, but this was especially hard because it made me think that she will contact me soon AND it makes me think of bread crumbs, WHY bread crumbs? I have no IDEA! Am I reading into the situation too much? If she was trying to leave me behind and forget then why would she even say anything? It ended badly and she is already on POF and OKCupid. That was bad for me too. But, I just get the vibe that she is just trying to not love me anymore...just like it was through most of the relationship. Its like she has and will always have a barrier that prevents herself from becoming intimate with anyone. WTF should I be thinking now? This has set me back. I was scrounging for scaps before:)
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 Uhhhh, she WILL sleep with someone else!! Get that in your head now. Think back to all of your ex's, I know that 100% of my ex's have slept with someone else. As soon as my most recent ex left I reminded myself of that FACT, and found out a month later that she did sleep with someone else. So you can either face it now, or be devistated when you fight it and find out months/a year down the road. I've read your original thread, your relationship is over. You both "cheated", you stopped having sex, she became less attracted to you, she stop giving you sex. Negative, negative, negative..... Do you really want to go back to that? What makes you think things will be different the second time around? Keep working out, keep telling yourself the truth (the negatives) and why it won't work again.
magnoliasoutherly Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 +1,000 to NavyAirTraffic's comments. I've nothing further to add.
Author jwhite Posted November 18, 2012 Author Posted November 18, 2012 I have no doubt that she wouldnt sleep with someone sooner or later. The barrier that I was speaking of is attributed to my own situation that I had with her. I expected less of a beat down though with the comments
suladas Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 We all know how hard it is to see the ex after, I still remember talking to my ex only 2 days after. You'll become numb to it eventually.
Sebastian76 Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 It is not a put down, it is merely a reality check for your own good. A week after my last break up, both me and my ex had sex with somebody else. It is just the way it is, has nothing to do with the ex - just people starting to live a new life (or trying desperately to get on with it).
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