nevadagirl Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 I tried being friends with my ex for the past 2 months. He'd recently broken up with his girlfriend and I thought giving a shot could be okay. We had some good moments but he spent a lot of time making me feel like he wanted to get back together, he got jealous if I went on a date, and got his feelings hurt if I passed on an invitation to do something. In other words, he presented himself like someone who was still in love with me. He even told me he loved me. I told him he was a sociopath. A few days ago I found out he'd recently contacted his most recent ex and now he wants to be with her again. The conversation we had basically went like this "I love you and I'm in love with you and I love her and want to be in love with her and still somehow have you in my life" Yea he's psycho. What's bothering me is that he told me that when he hung out with his ex that she confessed she had not dated anyone since him or slept with anyone but only recently met someone she was interested in dating. After they had sex she told him she was worried that he'd just seduced her and was jerking her around and would bail. I know right at this moment I'm really angry. But should I tell her? Does she have a right to know that he's "in love" with both of us? I don't want to be with him ever again but it's really eating me up how he's going back to this perfectly nice person with a pretend blank slate.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 (edited) 1. He's effectively out of your life. 2. She's already dated and broke up with him before. She knows him, or should. 3. No matter how much bff's you guys are now, you are still ex's of the same guy. 4. She's already emotionally re-invested in him. 5. If he's even a half-rate sociopath, he'll be able to smooth over anything you say. Your words probably don't hold much credibility in her ears, and even if they do, he will be able to convince her you are a bitter ex. You should just be done with it all. However, if you don't, please post back and let us know how it all worked out wonderfully for all involved. Edited November 20, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Author nevadagirl Posted November 20, 2012 Author Posted November 20, 2012 (edited) 1. He's effectively out of your life. 2. She's already dated and broke up with him before. She knows him, or should. 3. No matter how much bff's you guys are now, you are still ex's of the same guy. 4. She's already emotionally re-invested in him. 5. If he's even a half-rate sociopath, he'll be able to smooth over anything you say. Your words probably don't hold much credibility in her ears, and even if they do, he will be able to convince her you are a bitter ex. You should just be done with it all. However, if you don't, please post back and let us know how it all worked out wonderfully for all involved. Anyway. I did email her. She sent me a nice reply and said thanks for the honesty and had no intentions with him other than friendship. And even if that's a lie I don't care. If she doesn't care that her potential renewed boyfriend was professing his love to me 3 days ago then I most certainly don't care what she thinks of me. and as for him I hope he hates me forever. Edited November 20, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed inappropriate comment 1
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