browniecalgary Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 I need some expert advise on something that is happening with me at work. I like a girl at work and apparently she likes me too. We have flirtous eye contacts, sneaky smiles and of-course talk whenever we get a chance. She eyes me every time she passes by my office and I do feel 'that thing' from her body language. I do like her and have tested myself to verify it is not just infatuation for physical desires. I look at her face while talking and she has been occupying my mind in all good ways. I have told her that I am taken (which actually I am) but that did not change much and she still keeps eyeing and giving flirtous looks. Can someone help me to understand how to really know what is going within her without breaking office decorum? I do not want to ask her out unless I know she is serious. I am quite older than her and at a much higher position of authority. She is shy in nature and very hard to judge.
Cb3657 Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 Let's examine this You are taken, she is not You are in a high level position, she is not She is being flirtatious and you are intrigued, come on guy, this has lose your wife/girlfriend, lose your job written all over it. In addition your user name says you are in Canada where workplace sexual harassment is a very low bar to jump. Why not look at this as a flattering crush that makes you feel good at work but you will take no further. If you "exercise your option" and pursue and it does not work, you stand a great chance of being fired, not her, she is junior, how easy do you think your next job will come. Calgary has many jobs but not for people who got fired from their last job for sexual harassment. 2
Author browniecalgary Posted November 18, 2012 Author Posted November 18, 2012 Thanks Cb, very appropriately responded. You have squeezed all the emotions out and presented true facts, which I appreciate. In fact, several times I tried to ignore her and she then presents herself in a way to woo me. It could be a fine dress one day, a different hairstyle another day. It's not fur sure that she does it on purpose, but at least I get softer with these actions. As for me, I always stayed away for emotions at work though have worked with lots of women. The split between men and women In my profession is 50-50 and I never let my reputation be questioned. This is something really new to me and since its going for few moths, I know for sure it's not one sided. Thanks for your inputs.
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