I am about to attack a girl because I am jealous...HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jenny317]

Well it started today on the 5th, I was hanging out with 3 boys and 3 girls, the 3 boys are shane (friend), J-rush (friend), Spyder (my x-boyfriend)...the girls are me (jenny) jayme (shanes girlfriend) robyn (j-rush boyfriend), and kaite (my friend).

 

Well today there was the girl named Alexus and she was all over all of our guys, and we all went physco drama. But I really wanted to play football with her face! I wanted to fight her so bad so I told robyn real loud so alexus knew what I was talkin about "dude im going to kick alexus's a*s*s if she keeps touching sypyer. Then I got even more P*I*S*S*E*D off because she was all on him walking with all of our guys and the guys ditched us for that cunt.

 

Today morning Spyder was all on me and everything. He kept grabbing my head and putting it by his dick expecting me to suck it so i kept telling him to stop and leave me alone. So the rest of the day he was being a little jerk.

 

Well me and alexus was going to fight but of corse...spyder took alexus's side besides mine! He totally broke my heart! I was so close to fight Spyder but the fact that I didn't want Spyder to hate me is what held me back...what should I do?

[moimeme]

Try to behave like a civilized human being instead of an animal. If your exbf is too much of a puss to tell her to buzz off, that is his business and not yours. And, really, he sounds like a jerk. I think you'd do well to forget about the two of them. Besides, an EX is and EX. You have absolutely no right to dictate who may or may not touch him.

 

Fighting is for idiots. Smart people do smart things - like recognize when a guy is playing them and not respecting them by letting other girls mess with them. And then they leave and find a guy who would never allow that.

[Jenny317]

well yeah i noe that and everything but...i knew him for 8 months, and he has always cared for me but yesterday he changed so much bc he was around this dude shane. Absolutly no girl likes alexus bc she is a whore and she flirts with like every guy out there just to get dick! If she can mess wit spyder, she will mess with me too. It was like everytime she flirted with him or touched him, she will look back at me and smile! It was driving me so crazy!

[winter23]

um. maybe you need to take a few breaths.......dont do anything crazy to this girl. she prob is a slut because she has low self esteem and flirting with guys makes her feel good about herself cause she like the attention. please..........just dont let it worry you. talk to your guy about this.if he ignores your feelings about this.......ignore his and leave him alone for a while. I dont know but this is crazy.....you need to just do something else with your time. jealousy is a waste....extra stress for you.

[Jenny317]

Well I tried to ignore him and i tried to stop drawing attention to him! But every time I am mad at him, I forgive him, or I apoligize for my rudeness! HELP ME!!!

-Jenny

[Taken_Angel]

Number one...you are immature (sorry but it's true)

 

Today morning Spyder was all on me and everything. He kept grabbing my head and putting it by his dick expecting me to suck it so i kept telling him to stop and leave me alone. So the rest of the day he was being a little jerk.

 

OMG do realize how LITTLE of respect he has for you! Do you think he wants you back because he did this?

 

 

Spyder (my x-boyfriend)

 

He is your EX NOT your CURRENT boy friend. Maybe he likes this other girl and there is NOTHING you can do about it.

 

Ok on another note how old are you and how old are these boys? (I'm curious)

 

I can imagine this probably hurts you a lot to see someone else touching and trying to hook up with your ex bf but honestly you deserve someone who will respect you. Sinking to a low level and acting like trash (like he's acting) and fighting with a girl over someone who doesn't want to be with you is pointless. I hope you can understand you deserve better.

[winter23]

how old are you and how long have you too been together?

[LatinKiss]

Kick her ass! LOL No suh just kidding....girl I have to agree w/ the rest. This girl is obviously just a whore and has no self respect. Best thing you can do is let the guys have her .....even your X! and you'll see how quickly they give the boot and things will go back to normal. Obviously your X is a player and your ok with that so this should be no prob. for you.

 

She will trash her self.....these guys are after one thing and once they've gotten it she'll be history!

 

I would much rather advice you to forget about "spyder" b/c he sounds like a prick but you prob. will not there for let them have each other and wait for him....he'll be back!

[Taken_Angel]

I hope she doesn't "wait for him" good lawd that's just wrong! A woman (or girl) should have to wait for no man or boy to finish with another girl just so she can wait in line to try and get him back!

 

I agree with you that she should move on but the likely hood she will is probably slim to none. I too would like to know how old they both are (her and him) and how long they dated.

[LatinKiss]

They are obviously young, you can tell just by the form of expression. Appearantly this has been a realtionship for the last 8 months, or she's known him that long.

 

It's too bad but unfortunately we have to make our own mistakes to learn from them....we can shout all we want "drop him, I know that type" but till she her self learns she wont.....

[Taken_Angel]

It's too bad but unfortunately we have to make our own mistakes to learn from them....we can shout all we want "drop him, I know that type" but till she her self learns she wont.....

 

Very true! So sad to see young people (i'm only 23 but still) with so much time ahead and potential to "need" a partner so bad! I just feel bad for this girl, these posts always strike a chord with me!

[LatinKiss]

I'm only 25 and I feel ya....but I also had the "luxury" of making all my own mistakes! She is entitled that bitter sweet path as well.

 

Youth is the high price of maturity!

[Craig]

If you don't like the way that the guys act around Alexus then stop hanging out with them. After all it isn't the fault of Alexus that the guys act that way. You should be thanking Alexus for helping to show you the true character of these guys. Obviously the guys aren't living up to your expectations of them.

 

Spyder is your EX let him go. Find yourself some better quality "friends" to hand out with and forget about Alexus. She isn't worth it. And avoid playing football with anyones face and grow up.

[YellowLioness]

hon, you need to respect yourself before any men will respect you. you don't know enough to understand that you're worth alot as a human being; we all are, really. So, when you let people get on your nerves, and disrespect you, you are letting them define who you are as a person.

 

What i mean by this is this: When you let someone treat you like crap, then you start to think of yourself as crap. Once you let this go on for a really long time, it gets to the point where you actually start to believe that you're not worth anything. This is emotional abuse.

 

Lots of people will use tactics like this. YOu must learn to understand what they're trying to do (make you feel bad so that they can control your emotions).

 

Spyder is treating you like crap, and you let him do it because you think it will make him like you more. It won't. He doesn't care about you, or the way you feel. He just wants to feel powerful. He is using this Alexis girl to hurt you. He's doing it because he's immature, and he LIKES to see two girls fight over him.

 

Honey, he's not a friend. GOOD MEN DO NOT ACT THIS WAY.

[Jenny317]

okay...all of you have a point. I am 13, and he is 14, we have been on and off our relationship for 8 months. I noe...it is very sad but true, he is all i care about but I don't noe why but it is so hard to let him go bc he is the 1st person who has ever cared about me, but his love for me dropped so fast I really don't noe what happened! I noe my situation is real immature, and i know he is trying to hurt me for this other girl, but well "yeah" it really hurts me to see him with another girl but this girl was also all flirtatious with my best friend's boyfriends also. I wish it was easy to get ova him...

-Jenny

[winter23]

You are 13, he is 14. This is very young to have a bf. But this guy is obviously going to go after this flirtatious girl..you are hurting already. He ignores your feelings.....so dump him. There will be more and better guys..........you are only 13! Focus on learning about yourself and shopping with friends or going to the movies.........You dont need a bf to be happy......of course it is a nice bonus but this guy isnt making you happy...........so dump him now. Why wait until he screws this girl? It will only hurt more. Be strong and be good to yourself and leave this guy........if he doesnt care about your feelings, why do you care about his? I broke up with my ex 2.5 weeks ago........and it hurts even though he was a jerk to me. But I know I did the right thing, it was so hard to walk away, I'm 22.......pain knows no age............it will hurt at first but you wil feel better. I feel way better.......but you deserve a sweeter more caring guy........take my advice. This guy is being a jerk and if you let him treat you like ****, he will..........and you are letting him. He thinks its ok for him to behave this way ebcause you havent given him the ultimatum, dump him..........he does not respect you at all. You need to respect yourself and get back to you. Being 13 is hard enough without have a jerk for a bf. Focus on fun thngs.......friends, hobbies....school....make up ,shopping.....you know, gir stuff! Thats what I am doing now since my break up and I feel so good........because I did the right thing for me. Do the right thing for you, stop letting this guy hurt you like this.

[Taken_Angel]

Oh dear, ok I won't nag on you about your age, I'm saddend to hear that you are having oral sex (maybe other forms of sex) at your age. At least that is how it appears from your previous post saying he wanted you to "suck" him.

 

Anyway he didn't love you dear he is only 14 and has NO idea what love is! Neither do you at 13. You like him a lot, yes I know at that age OMG it feels like he is the only boy in the world who you'll ever feel this way for.

 

It is harder probably because your other best friend's have boyfriends who just happen to be in the circle of friends your ex is in. I doubt he did this to hurt you, he probably wanted to get with this girl...you know at that age his hormones are going crazy and if some girl is rubbing up all over him sadly he's probably raring to go!

 

Please don't do anything to try and get him back, you need to focus on school and your future right now (though it doesn't seem like it now) if you start having sexual experiences at such a young age you're going to regret it down the road!

 

You deserve so much better for yourself. I know you probably feel like your heart is breaking but I promise it will get better. Just don't fight with some little girl over a little boy who would probably poke his "pole" into any hole he can get it in!

[Jenny317]

So are you sayin you want me to have no contact with him? I totally blew up! I felt so bad what I had said to this girl alexus, but i still don't like her, i told spyder(joseph) that I was soooooooo sorry...(in a sorry greeting) I just really hope he believe's how truly sorry I really am. I am not going to beat her ass n e more, and I will stop all the rest of my friends for doing my mistake. I don't noe why but I just guess I am rushing into being an adult so fast I keep forgetting I am only a teen... But I would rather have grown up decisions than being treated like a maid. I will not go back with joseph bc he is was too playboyish! I just have a feeling I will snap again if alexus goes near him! I don't noe why but I have a feeling of that! How can I overcome that decision???

[Taken_Angel]

Remember that NO guy is worth getting in trouble over, you could get assult charges brought against you for fighting with her! You are a better person than that! You are NOT going to impress him fighting a girl over him!

 

You need to respect yourself enough to relize how foolish you'll look if you get into a verbal or physical fight with her!

 

He is NO LONGER your boyfriend and he was [nb]NEVER[/b] you're property!

You can't say who can and can not go near him and you really need to pretend it doesn't bother you. Boys don't like girls who act desperate to be with them. That's what it looks like when you're fighting with other girls just to keep them away from him!