Dazed_Confused1989 Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 If she is still a source of pain, I think it's wise to do this. But if I want to try to leave the door open for a friendship later down the road, what are the politics behind this? I don't want to message her. So, it's either delete or not. I think I need to do what is best for myself at this moment...and that means delete. Suppose I answered me own question but would be interested in hearing others.
robaday Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 Most people would say delete. Im a big fan of deactivating for a few months, especially if you wanna be friends down the line. Facebook really is evil and a waste of time, but when you deactivate you can still go back to your account at anytime. That way you dont have to delete her, just gives you a chance to spend some time on yourself away from it. 2
whichwayisup Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 Delete her. Give yourself time and space to grieve the loss, detach and feel more like your old self, then maybe sometime way in the future you two can 'be friends'. Right now having her on your friends list or even trying to keep a friendship going is doing harm to you and that's not a good thing. Don't worry about how she will feel if you delete her. This is about you and what you can/can't handle.
KatZee Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 I'd say block and delete. This way you can't see what she's doing on mutual friend's walls like comments or whatever. I went the extra step after I blocked and deleted my ex, to then "unsubscribe" to every single mutual friend we have. This way nothing pops up on my Facebook feed, and there's no need to ever have that "terrified" feeling you're describing.
suladas Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 I deleted after suffering still seeing it for 2 1/2 months. If it will help you delete it and worry about the future when you come to it.
banker007 Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 For me i still have her password to her FB and other site,what i did was i blocked her from FB and i love doing it but my problem is that i still stalk her because i have her password,i can just log in into her FB anytym am depressed,it is like an addiction,gosh!i wanna stop dat
thembones Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 I ended up deleting her from my FB friends after about 3 months. I talked to her at 3 months after break up and she said she was checking my FB multiple times per day. I had not checked hers in well over a month.. it was too hard. After she told me that, I thought about it and realized that it was not her right anymore to know what I am doing. So I deleted her and I feel pretty good about it.
Mer91 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 i have always believed that friends down the line is just. Well if it doesnt work out with new man/women we can be **** buddies. Real friends down the line requires seperation and detachment and isnt a planned event.
Mer91 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 For me i still have her password to her FB and other site,what i did was i blocked her from FB and i love doing it but my problem is that i still stalk her because i have her password,i can just log in into her FB anytym am depressed,it is like an addiction,gosh!i wanna stop dat Fess up and get her to change her password. Or Change it so she has to change it. It will just lead to more heartache if you keep looking at her. You will not remember the bad, and see the flaws and only feel regret for loss.
flitzanu Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 If she is still a source of pain, I think it's wise to do this. But if I want to try to leave the door open for a friendship later down the road, what are the politics behind this? I don't want to message her. So, it's either delete or not. I think I need to do what is best for myself at this moment...and that means delete. Suppose I answered me own question but would be interested in hearing others. there are no politics behind this. deleting someone from fb won't stop someone from contacting you IF THEY HAVE THE DESIRE. if someone wants to find you, they will.
Drseussgrrl Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Just get rid of your account. I'm going 8 days without FB and the thought of going on again actually kind of sickens me. Life is much better without Facebook.
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