Only bigger women have been into me.

November 18, 2012

1)Plenty of women in their 30's go back to school. I have a handful of women in their 50's in my class. Wonder where this college is where the only students are women below the age of 25. Or do you suffer from selective seeing, some dude?

2)People are advising you to make friendship with men because you are in your natural enviroment when surrounded by men. You are relaxed. You can kick back and make fun of the guys you're with. The same comfort and ease you have with men can be transported to your interactions with men.

3)Guys aren't exactly base-dwellers. They don't exit their daddy's basement only to go to the local gamestore. What does this mean? It means that most guys - even the most anti-social -at least have one girl as their friends. Who knows that one girl is the girl you'll end up dating?

4) Are you autistic or are you the son of a single-mother?

November 18, 2012

Im not gonna lie and say looks arent apart of it women are etxremely shallow just like men but social skills are also a huge part dude..

You need to tap into social skills because lot of women have very little control of their emotions and feelings if you make her feel something for you then you have a good shot..

Ive had women tell other people im arrogant and the next minute try to jump my bones because they had STRONG FEELINGS for me even if some of it was negative it was still strong..

I have married friends wives who almost ruined their relationship by groping me and hitting on me because i made thme feel comfortable and made em laugh uncontrollably..

WOmen are connection/emotional bond junkies its their weakness and one of the reason white frankly i dont trust being in a relationship with one because thye can easily stay that way but thats another story for another day.. if you can tap into that weakness you will have sucess..

Yeah, that's great, kid, but Somedude can't grow his legs anymore nor can he change his facial features. Yeah, women do a lot of that stuff. Water gets you wet, too.

November 18, 2012

That's it?

That's pretty much the same thing as make friends.

I though you had more.

I've got more, but that is the easiest and most important. And your refusal to make friends so says volumes about you, and why women don't want to date you.

But if you want more:

Get a muscular body.

Get a better job.

November 18, 2012

I've got more, but that is the easiest and most important. And your refusal to make friends so says volumes about you, and why women don't want to date you.

But if you want more:

Get a muscular body.
Get a better job.

I'd like to add refuses to do online dating.

It's not hard to list things you could do differently, but won't. We're not picking on you. The point is you refuse to do anything differently and get hostile when we suggest changes.

November 18, 2012

I'd like to add refuses to do online dating.

It's not hard to list things you could do differently, but won't. We're not picking on you. The point is you refuse to do anything differently and get hostile when we suggest changes.

To be fair online datign would be even worse for him where his looks and height will be scrutnized even more then in person

November 18, 2012

I've got more, but that is the easiest and most important. And your refusal to make friends so says volumes about you, and why women don't want to date you.

But if you want more:

Get a muscular body.
Get a better job.

Yeah I need to work on my body more. I'll be heading to the gym in a couple of hours. Though I need to get real serious about a diet and exercise plan.

Better job. That's why I'm in college.

I'd like to add refuses to do online dating.

It's not hard to list things you could do differently, but won't. We're not picking on you. The point is you refuse to do anything differently and get hostile when we suggest changes.

My problem with online dating is that all my flaws are out in the open front and center.

5'6

31, makes under 20k a year, still in college.

Who would date me knowing all that from the start?

While meeting girls in person, they'd get to know me first and then the little details would start coming.

Once I graduate college and get my career going, I'll no longer be able to meet girls on campus and would have to start online dating. I should also look more attractive on paper when everything is exposed.

Until then, I'm trying to focus on the people I meet in my daily life.

November 18, 2012

To be fair online datign would be even worse for him where his looks and height will be scrutnized even more then in person

Absolutely. Online dating is purely about physical attraction. If you're not at least a "7" then women will see your profile picture and instantly dismiss you without even reading your profile or narrative.

November 18, 2012

If I made a thread saying that only jerks are attracted to me - people will tell me that I was doing something to attract them.

... So how does your apperance line up. Not your size, weight but your overall attractiveness because that may just be the problem.

That's an interesting comparison.

Yeah guys who are jerks are into a certain type of women and a woman could end up dating a lot of jerks because she's the type that attracts them.

But then, are overweight girls attracted to a certain type of man?

I think my style is nice. It's definitely appropriate for a college atmosphere in SoCal.

Dude, who cares? You're not exactly a strapping John Carter so why should you start with the hottest women? Baby steps. Learn how to interact with women - not how to make them feel good; how you can get from them what you want - by letting go of your anxiety and fear of being rejected by women.

Don't try to act all defensive with me. I don't give a damn if my post made you feel bad. I am not your mommy nor your daddy and what you need is to toughen up.

LOL, wanting woman who are not fat doesn't equal me wanting to start with the hottest women. I don't even bother with the really pretty girls because I know they'd have no interest in me.

I wish I knew how to get what I want from women. I've never gotten anything I wanted from women.

November 18, 2012

Yes, if SD tried OLD (or dating anywhere other than college), he might have to go out with women over 150 lbs, single moms, women his age or older, socially awkward/shy women, women whose personalities attracted him first, or women without large, perky breasts.

November 18, 2012

Yes, if SD tried OLD (or dating anywhere other than college), he might have to go out with women over 150 lbs, single moms, women his age or older, socially awkward/shy women, women whose personalities attracted him first, or women without large, perky breasts.

I can't wait to see who likes your post

November 18, 2012

I wish I knew how to get what I want from women. I've never gotten anything I wanted from women.

You have to know by now (because it's been explained on here many times), what's wrong with the above statements.

November 18, 2012

You have to know by now (because it's been explained on here many times), what's wrong with the above statements.

And this one.

You know, it would have been nice to see you actually address my previous post without going into the feminist BS, but I guess that was expecting too much from you.

Edited November 18, 2012 by somedude81

November 18, 2012

You refuse to try to date women 1. you don't meet at school and 2. who are above early 20s.

That's an interesting comparison.

Yeah guys who are jerks are into a certain type of women and a woman could end up dating a lot of jerks because she's the type that attracts them.

But then, are overweight girls attracted to a certain type of man?

I think my style is nice. It's definitely appropriate for a college atmosphere in SoCal.
.

No, it isnt what bigger girls are attracted to - since if you attracted girls you were attracted to - that doesn't mean that you still won't attract bigger girls. However some bigger girls may have lower standards.( keyword some). You just may not that good of a catch that you think you are.

November 18, 2012

What is beautiful?

What is beautiful is what is pleasant to the eye.

Are obese women pleasant to the eye?

You know the answer.

Are average(and average is the embodiment of healthy weight for the woman's height) women when compared to the rest of the women, the majority of women, considered hot?

Yes, they are. The women you and I look at and say '' she's cute'' and leaps and bounds above the average woman. To that type of woman - and to the type of woman you want to date - you are inferior. You don't measure up. You don't have the value(height;money;good-looks;intelligencea and more factors are responsible for your value) to snatch up that woman in question.

First you need to increase your value above her own for her to see you as a good catch. Have you ever seen that movie where the guy is extremely good-looking and has to find a wife before he turns 25(?) if he wants to inherit his grandfathers vast wealth?

See how he chases women after women. That's a scarcity mentality. To women he has low value because he doesn't value himself(he puts more interest in money than on himself, leaving him to pursue any woman to marry).

You need to work on that before you are successful with women.

November 18, 2012

And this one.

You know, it would have been nice to see you actually address my previous post without going into the feminist BS, but I guess that was expecting too much from you.

Dude, we have beating you over the head with what you need to do for the last year...... It seems to sink in for a while, but then you revert back to acting like a petulant little child, because it's easier to lie to yourself and argue with us, than it is for you to do what you know need to do.

November 18, 2012

At the dance last night there was a big girl in my class who kept wanting to dance with me. I danced with her once but she kept trying to call me over to talk to her friends. Then another big girl from my class showed up and the big girl I danced with before asked if I thought this girl was pretty. I said that you all do. Then somebody said in a joking way "she loves you" I replied that I have love for everybody and then just disappeared as it was getting too awkward.

SD, this strikes me as just a little bit rude on your part. Why didn't you go talk to her and her friends? "Obese" girls have friends in all shapes and sizes. If one of them likes you, the others will already be inclined to look at you in a more positive light.

And you might have had a bit more fun.

November 18, 2012

SD, this strikes me as just a little bit rude on your part. Why didn't you go talk to her and her friends? "Obese" girls have friends in all shapes and sizes. If one of them likes you, the others will already be inclined to look at you in a more positive light.

And you might have had a bit more fun.

Of course I talked to her and her friends! Did you not read all of my post?

It's almost as if you only read

At the dance last night there was a big girl in my class who kept wanting to dance with me. I danced with her once but she kept trying to call me over to talk to her friends.

And you started to work on your reply.

November 18, 2012

Of course I talked to her and her friends! Did you not read all of my post?

It's almost as if you only read

And you started to work on your reply.

No, it was just unclear. It sounded like you ducked the first girl's friends on first reading and that the other girl showed up with the first girl later on. You did say you disappeared.

Sorry for the misunderstanding.

November 18, 2012

I think you should watch that movie Shallow Hal. He kept getting rejected by the hot women, and was in dispair because of that, so someone hypnotized him to see all women as beautiful. He then started dating a woman who was quiet overweight, and the hotter women gained a new respect for him as being someone of substance that cares about more than just how hot a woman is, and they started to want to date him because they saw him as someone much deeper and with values that go beyond the physical appearance. But the guy ended up falling in love with the heavy woman because he got to know her character and personality, so even when the hypnosis was reversed, he realized she was someone he wanted to be with because of her beautiful character, warmth and personality. So I think it would be a win/win for you if you allowed yourself to consider the heavier women, because not only would the thinner women take notice that you are not only interested in a hot body, but you have some substance as well, but you would also open yourself up to the possibility that other, more intrinsic qualities of a woman could win you over and enable you to look past the superficial and value other things as well. It would give you the opportunity to explore other things that make women enjoyable to be with other than just the purely physical. I think you should give yourself the experience of being in a relationship with someone, even if they are not your physical ideal. You don't have to marry the woman, just get your feet wet and see what it's like to have a relationship with someone. You may find that she has so many other qualities that are attractive, that you are willing to look past the purely physical.

November 18, 2012

No, it was just unclear. It sounded like you ducked the first girl's friends on first reading and that the other girl showed up with the first girl later on. You did say you disappeared.

Sorry for the misunderstanding.

I'll try again, but with a little bit more info.

At the dance last night there was a big girl in my class who kept wanting to dance with me. I danced with her once but she kept trying to call me over to talk to her friends. Which I did a couple of times. On one such occasion another big girl from my class showed up and the big girl I danced with before asked if I thought this girl was pretty. I said that you all do. Then somebody said in a joking way "she loves you" I replied that I have love for everybody and then just disappeared as it was getting too awkward.

Any comment what happened?

November 18, 2012

I think you should watch that movie Shallow Hal. He kept getting rejected by the hot women, and was in dispair because of that, so someone hypnotized him to see all women as beautiful. He then started dating a woman who was quiet overweight, and the hotter women gained a new respect for him as being someone of substance that cares about more than just how hot a woman is, and they started to want to date him because they saw him as someone much deeper and with values that go beyond the physical appearance. But the guy ended up falling in love with the heavy woman because he got to know her character and personality, so even when the hypnosis was reversed, he realized she was someone he wanted to be with because of her beautiful character, warmth and personality. So I think it would be a win/win for you if you allowed yourself to consider the heavier women, because not only would the thinner women take notice that you are not only interested in a hot body, but you have some substance as well, but you would also open yourself up to the possibility that other, more intrinsic qualities of a woman could win you over and enable you to look past the superficial and value other things as well. It would give you the opportunity to explore other things that make women enjoyable to be with other than just the purely physical. I think you should give yourself the experience of being in a relationship with someone, even if they are not your physical ideal. You don't have to marry the woman, just get your feet wet and see what it's like to have a relationship with someone. You may find that she has so many other qualities that are attractive, that you are willing to look past the purely physical.

No.

And no, I really doubt thin women will suddenly start to be interested in me because I'm dating a fat girl.

That's Hollywood.

November 18, 2012

I'll try again, but with a little bit more info.

Any comment what happened?

Just that it could've been a good chance to practice some flirting/banter with girls who were clearly responsive. But if you felt super uncomfortable, I understand why you would disappear. I just think it might help for you to push through some of that discomfort and get a little practice in a situation with little pressure.

November 18, 2012

I wish I knew how to get what I want from women. I've never gotten anything I wanted from women.

What do you offer women?

November 18, 2012

No.

And no, I really doubt thin women will suddenly start to be interested in me because I'm dating a fat girl.

That's Hollywood.

I agree the preimise is assinine that women will look at you differently for dating or talking up a fat women:laugh:

Keep looking till you find mutual attraction dont listen to the people who think you can get physically initmate with somebody you find physically repulsive just because their nice or decent human beings

November 18, 2012

No.

And no, I really doubt thin women will suddenly start to be interested in me because I'm dating a fat girl.

That's Hollywood.

Actually, I've seen this play out in real life. It's not just a Hollywood scenario. One of the guys that went to school with my sons started to date a fat girl because those were the only ones that took an interest in him. When the slimmer girls saw how well he treated this fat girl and what a wonderful boyfriend he was to her, the slimmer girls started to try to take him away from this fat girl, and they realized what a catch he was, based on the way he treated this girl. But he stayed with the fat girl, because he grew to love her sweet character, her caring nature, her fun spirit, and her personality. My uncle also, as I've mentioned in the past, gave an overweight girl a chance whom he would not normally have considered dating, and he grew to love her kind spirit, her sweet personality, and her loving nature. He was able to put those qualities ahead of the physical. He could have dated pretty much anybody. He was slim and good looking, but there was something about this woman, her personality and nature, that won him over, and he was happily married to her until the day he died. This is not just Hollywood that this happens.

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