Shotputter Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 It's been nearly 6 months since my girlfriend broke up with me. Yes it has gotten a whole lot easier than it was at the start, but it has almost been the amount of time i was in the relationship and i still think about her. I've accepted that it's over, but it makes it hard for me when she is dating my neighbor. I think its cruel of them to date each other because she knew i was always friends with him and he knew that i loved the girl. I know i can't control them or their feelings but it just seems a bit wrong of them to do that. I constantly ask myself on a daily basis why she would choose him over me? I guess that's a question i can never answer but the thought ALWAYS lingers. I'm trying my best though. I'm always trying to focus on the moment ("The only thing that ever mattered"). For all of those recent dumpees, trust me things do get much better. You wont be in that panic state forever and you will be able to find inner peace. Everyday it hurts a little bit less until one day you wake up and hopefully it doesn't hurt at all... Just wanted to vent. Hope i can find a new lady soon. 1
Krioyo_baby20 Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 Well its been 3 months since my break up and it hasn't get better. What did u do to be able to feel a little better?
Delicate Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Well its been 3 months since my break up and it hasn't get better. What did u do to be able to feel a little better? In all of my past relationships, I learned that it was always easier when I tried to focus on bettering myself. When I dwelled on the breakup, I found that I was stuck in deep depression for a long time. Try and awake a new found interest in yourself. Possibly throw all of your effort into losing weight or getting in shape, pick up a new hobby, try and fix flaws about yourself whether internal or external. Focus on you. The goal is to draw the energy that you gave to them, back into yourself. And you will soon find that you'll regain your strength and your power. I'm doing that right now. I went through a really horrible situation recently. For the first week, I was in complete denial. I thought that we would get back together. The second week, I PANICKED. It hit me, like "Oh my God. It's really over." Now. It's kind of like..."Okay, whatever." I'm not completely heeled. But I am definitely focusing back on myself. My dreams. And putting my heart into my goals and efforts and what it is that I want to achieve for MYSELF. Try not to focus on being bitter or seeking revenge. It will only hold you back. If you have any anger in you at all. You HAVE to let that go. DO-NOT-HANG-ONTO-IT. If you have any fears or any feelings of resentment, you HAVE to let that go. It's hard. I know. But fake it until you make it. And everything falls into place.
dreamstate83 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 My first serious relationship took 2 years to get over. After that one it's only taken around a month when I am the dumper or 5-6 months when I'm the dumpee. I think it just comes from better understanding as you gain experience.
Krioyo_baby20 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 In all of my past relationships, I learned that it was always easier when I tried to focus on bettering myself. When I dwelled on the breakup, I found that I was stuck in deep depression for a long time. Try and awake a new found interest in yourself. Possibly throw all of your effort into losing weight or getting in shape, pick up a new hobby, try and fix flaws about yourself whether internal or external. Focus on you. The goal is to draw the energy that you gave to them, back into yourself. And you will soon find that you'll regain your strength and your power. I'm doing that right now. I went through a really horrible situation recently. For the first week, I was in complete denial. I thought that we would get back together. The second week, I PANICKED. It hit me, like "Oh my God. It's really over." Now. It's kind of like..."Okay, whatever." I'm not completely heeled. But I am definitely focusing back on myself. My dreams. And putting my heart into my goals and efforts and what it is that I want to achieve for MYSELF. Try not to focus on being bitter or seeking revenge. It will only hold you back. If you have any anger in you at all. You HAVE to let that go. DO-NOT-HANG-ONTO-IT. If you have any fears or any feelings of resentment, you HAVE to let that go. It's hard. I know. But fake it until you make it. And everything falls into place. I am also trying to focus on myself but I don't have any dreams anymore. What I wanted was to form a family with him and now that's not possible anymore. I have joined a group that helps others to be able to do good for others, I have met new guys but they all remind me that he wasn't that bad after all (his character), he really had what I was looking for. I am forcing myself to live normally again but i just can't. I put all my hopes in this relationship, I really thought i finally found a good guy, that it would last forever. So all my dreams and hopes were crashed in a few days time and whats worst is that he has moved on already and i am still like this.
Krioyo_baby20 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 My first serious relationship took 2 years to get over. After that one it's only taken around a month when I am the dumper or 5-6 months when I'm the dumpee. I think it just comes from better understanding as you gain experience. Well it has always taken me more than just months to get over someone. The first time it took me 1 year. And this time it seems like it will take a long time too.
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