allenpo123 Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 Meeting my online guy for the 1st time next week! We are breaking up after meeting so I'm super scared of saying goodbye... Our story is quite typical: 1. Met on a chatting website 2. Started talking on skype with video for 1.5 yrs almost everyday 3. We never decided we were "in a relationship" but we agreed to stop calling each other after meeting up because we could never be together. (distance and family) I like him a lot but I know he's not the one.. so I'm not too sad of breaking contact with him. We both need to let each other go for good. But, despite of the excitement of meeting each other for the first time, I'm so scared of saying goodbye.. It'll be our first and last time to talk to each other as "more than just friends"... Any advice?!? I don't want to cry when saying goodbye...
IT Geek Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 3. We never decided we were "in a relationship" but we agreed to stop calling each other after meeting up because we could never be together. (distance and family) I like him a lot but I know he's not the one.. so I'm not too sad of breaking contact with him. So why are you meeting him in the first place? This sounds like it's going to be a booty call. My advice? Call off the meeting. 6
Arabella Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 This is going to be a mess. Why bother meeting the guy that you KNOW you have to let go? What happens if you meet and hit it off? It's going to be SO much more difficult when you walk away, knowing it's never going to flourish. It will be easier if you never meet him at all. Stop talking and move on, for both your sakes. 3
PepperPotts Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 Taking the time, effort and money to meet someone is a big deal. You know you can't be with him after this-- don't put yourself through it. Frankly, I'd be a little nervous to meet someone I met on the internet who was fully willing to see me knowing we were done after that. That's not normal. How old are you two anyway? Why can't you be together because of family? 1
Author allenpo123 Posted November 18, 2012 Author Posted November 18, 2012 So why are you meeting him in the first place? This sounds like it's going to be a booty call. My advice? Call off the meeting. I don't really think it's simple as that, a booty call. We knew our situation from the beginning and we still kept contacting each other for 1yr with no plans yet to meet each other. But you have a point.......
Author allenpo123 Posted November 18, 2012 Author Posted November 18, 2012 This is going to be a mess. Why bother meeting the guy that you KNOW you have to let go? What happens if you meet and hit it off? It's going to be SO much more difficult when you walk away, knowing it's never going to flourish. It will be easier if you never meet him at all. Stop talking and move on, for both your sakes. Gee, if only I knew this site when we first started talking............. too late now... We talked about our future in the very beginning and made an agreement to still contact each other but never to get too attached(sounded like a good idea then, not so good now...) It was just so hard to break it off then... It certainly is harder now, but hey the past is the past.. Personally, I wouldn't step in a relationship with no future ever again. sucks.
Author allenpo123 Posted November 18, 2012 Author Posted November 18, 2012 Taking the time, effort and money to meet someone is a big deal. You know you can't be with him after this-- don't put yourself through it. Frankly, I'd be a little nervous to meet someone I met on the internet who was fully willing to see me knowing we were done after that. That's not normal. How old are you two anyway? Why can't you be together because of family? I'm 24 and he's 26. We are from different cultures and countries so it wouldn't be possible to be together, let alone our future goals and family values. I'm getting really nervous now, and thinking I might have made the wrong decision, but I know I'd regret it if I don't meet him. GEEEZZ and I've already booked the tickets. The good thing is that I'm taking a trip off with a friend, and not just planning the whole trip to meet him. Any other advice... ?
IT Geek Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 The good thing is that I'm taking a trip off with a friend, and not just planning the whole trip to meet him. Any other advice... ? Tell him you can't meet him and enjoy the trip with your friend!
Author allenpo123 Posted November 18, 2012 Author Posted November 18, 2012 Tell him you can't meet him and enjoy the trip with your friend! I can't!! I want to meet him!!!!!! I'm just scared of saying goodbye.But maybe it'll be easier than I thought, maybe I won't like him that much in person?
IT Geek Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 I can't!! I want to meet him!!!!!! I'm just scared of saying goodbye.But maybe it'll be easier than I thought, maybe I won't like him that much in person? Well, if you are dead set on meeting him, I wish you two the best of luck in your meeting and hope things go well for you.
Author allenpo123 Posted November 18, 2012 Author Posted November 18, 2012 Thank you IT Geek, I feel so unrealistic meeting him now! Is this really happening!
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