spareohs Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 Hey guys. Just looking for a few words of encouragement I guess. My SO is scheduled to visit in 5 days. He called me last night and said his grandmother collapsed and is in the hospital. It's all very uncertain. I feel horrible for him because he's pretty close to his family. I also feel super stressed out about this possibly throwing a wrench in our plans. We haven't seen each other since July and I am really feeling bummed. I hate that I may not get to see him, I hate that he's so upset, I hate that I may have wasted $750 on a plane ticket. I don't want to be insensitive or rude and ask him to choose between them and me basically, so I'm just kind of stuck here. Arg!!!!!!! I just needed to vent.
allenpo123 Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 I think you already know the answer... Let him decide whether he wants to fly out or not. Hopefully his grandma is doing ok now and things have worked out for you by now.
Author spareohs Posted November 21, 2012 Author Posted November 21, 2012 Quick update. I decided to insist that he put our visit on hold and be with his family. I think that was the best decision I could make as she's been given less than a week and I know if something happened while he was here he'd never forgive himself. He wouldn't be able to enjoy his visit while he was here, and I also don't want his family to have any ill feelings towards me for keeping him away from them at this time. We were able to reschedule the flight for Dec. 13, so it's not too far away. In the meantime, I'm a bit bummed of course. I wish I could be there to give him a huge hug and reassure him that it'll all be okay, but at least it all worked out with a (relatively) happy ending. 5
CherryT Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Quick update. I decided to insist that he put our visit on hold and be with his family. I think that was the best decision I could make as she's been given less than a week and I know if something happened while he was here he'd never forgive himself. He wouldn't be able to enjoy his visit while he was here, and I also don't want his family to have any ill feelings towards me for keeping him away from them at this time. We were able to reschedule the flight for Dec. 13, so it's not too far away. In the meantime, I'm a bit bummed of course. I wish I could be there to give him a huge hug and reassure him that it'll all be okay, but at least it all worked out with a (relatively) happy ending. He needs this support and I'm sure he appreciates you not making him feel bad for having to change the plans. I think in LDR we get so caught up anticipating visits, that we can be clouded when basic life issues arrises and throws a wrench in the plans. One of the more difficult things about a LDR is ensuring your partner feels supported. They can't just come home and vent about their day... so your actions of support and wanting him to be with his family shows him just how much you really care about him and his wellbeing. 1
justwhoiam Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 So, what happened? Is he coming next week? Is his grandma still alive? 1
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