Spending alot of time with your partner everyday....I heard this is bad, why is it?

[health]

Why is Spending alot of time with your partner everyday a bad thing?

I've been with my girl for almost a year now. We are deeply in Love. We spent 7 hours today togtehr. A friend told me her relationship ended after 3 years. She said she spent time nose to nose with her partner in the beggining and it wasn't good. I can see how its not good because you don't get a chance to develop other areas in your life.

[overseas2004]

I play doubles tennis and go out with my buddies from time to time after tennis. I am not married but they all are. I was completely perplexed once during drinks when one of my tennis buddies says to me "my wife and I get along because we do everything together".

 

Ten days later my other tennis buddy says "my wife and I get along well because we do everything apart".

 

Go figure. But I guess the moral of the story is ... it depends on the couple.

 

I spend every moment with my bf when he is around but its nice sometimes when he goes away on business because I get to catch up with old friends. And yes even compare and constrast if there is anything as good as him out there. So far there isn't...

 

Regards

 

Overseas

[UCFKevin]

One or both parties can get burnt out and get sick of the other person. "UGh, I need time to myself!"

 

Just pace yourself. If she said it herself, listen to her, because if you want to spend a lot of time together and she doesn't, that'll sink the ship right there.

[lioness]

My ex and I spent ALL of our time together, to the extent that he didn't have any friends. After time, I felt all the pressure of being pretty much the ONLY important person in his life. I did get burned out - big time. I really felt suffocated.

 

It is very important for each individual to have their own passions and interests. These are some of the things that keep you interesting to your partner, and keep them coming back for more.

 

But... I guess that doesn't work for everyone, and like overseas says, it depends on the couple.

[dreaming4ever]

I agree that how much time people need apart is different for every couple. It depends on a lot of things...one being how much time your partner likes to themselves. I could spend every second with my boyfriend but since we are honest with each other he told me sometimes that makes him feel suffocated. So sometimes we do things ourselves with friends or whatever. And I have nothing wrong with that cuz it's healthy. Now after like 3 or 4 days together non-stop I like to get away for a bit and have a breather. It's nice. But that doesn't mean we're less close than the couple's who are together every second.

 

It all depends on the people and what they want. I think it's best if you have some interests you share and others you don't that you maybe share with friends or other people. good idea?? YUP YUP

[RowanRavyn]

MY SO and I were friends first, I think that gave us an advantage. We try to set aside time just for us, and time to spend with the kids (I have two, that look and act just like him. That probably explains those dreams.) Anyway....he goes to a friends house to play game every other weekend, and when he does that I have "dates" with the kids, or my girlfriends come over.

 

We are still best friends, and do plenty of things together, but we value our friendships with others, and our time to ourselves. There are times when that "other" Saturday rolls around and I am all kinds of excited because I get to take a long candle lit bubble bath with a glass of wine and a good book.

 

Its about balance hun. Cherish the time you are together, and make the most of the time you are apart. Besides....if you are never away from a person, how can you possibly know if you would miss them in your life?

[Taken_Angel]

EVERY couple is different

 

I myself am w/ my bf of almost 2 years every day/evening and every night on the weekends. The only time we are apart is when he is working, and sun-thu nights (after midnight). He calls me everyday on his lunch hour and as soon as he gets home to tell me he's on his way over.

 

To some people it may sound like much (i at first thought he'd feel smothered but HE does all this NOT me). We don't fight much and when we do it is trivial issues usually so all in all this works out well for us.

 

On the other hand I know friends who need space from the men/women because they feel smothered and like going out apart *I can NOT imagine going out w/out my BF or him w/out me* but for some this works better.

 

The key is to find out what works for YOU and forget what anyone else says or thinks!

[health]

cool, thanks.