cre8r Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 I really dread spending holidays with my girlfriend and her relatives. New Years, Easter, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Xmas, each gathering will last a minimum of one week. I know there are many who would enjoy these gatherings, but I have to endure an undisciplined neice and nephew that constantly demand my girlfriends attention, her and her female relatives discussing "hot" celebrity males, my girlfriend greeting her brother-in-law with 20 kisses on each cheek (I actually counted) and more kisses when he leaves. Besides that, I'm pretty much left to myself. But of course I'm expected to go because it's so important to my girlfriend. I really don't care how she (or they) want to conduct their gatherings but it doesn't make such a fun time for me. I'd rather stay home and do more important things. Now I have 24 hours before I decide whether to go or not. Anyone else have a similar situation like this and how do you deal with it?
veggirl Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 Does this involve out of town travel for the two of you or something? Why would you need to be there for a week? Can't you just go by for a few hours, or if it is out of town for a couple days and let her stay for the week?
whichwayisup Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 What about your family? Why is it you're obligated and have to go to ALL her family gatherings? Does she go to any of your family gatherings? Are you two common law, living together? Or are you two just bf/gf? A week each holiday seems like a lot, even more so since you're not her husband.
whichwayisup Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 New Years, Easter, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Xmas, each gathering will last a minimum of one week Compromise. Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving - All those 3 big holidays are very family orientated. July 4th and New Years should be for you and her. Or the two of you with your friends to let loose and have fun. Not geared up for family stuff like the other holidays.
Author cre8r Posted November 17, 2012 Author Posted November 17, 2012 We're bf/gf living together Whichway. It's been her family's tradition to have these prolonged holiday gatherings, her former husband never attended in their later years of marriage and I can understand why. One week of "togetherness" for every holiday is way too much for me. Additionally her mother lives with us 24/7 and is quite capable of living on her own and has her own place. I didn't sign up for "3's Company", presently I'm 700 miles away from my girlfriend and we're supposed to hook up again for the weekly Thanksgiving gathering and return back to her house. As far as my relatives go, we rarely see each other and have never been a "togetherness bunch" which is fine with me. My girlfriend and I don't really get that much quality time to ourselves and she's fine with it. As much as I love her, I truly dread going back to the "community" arrangement.
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