Inviv_girl Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 Hi guys, I need your opinion here. I was in a loving relationship with my ex and the long distance took us apart and he fell out of love, and he chose to left me.. I was just wondering how to attract him back when we are long distance way apart? Will he possibly fall in love with me again due to this distance? I really do want to get back together with him but dont know how Advice please..
scarlet.vixn Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 Do you guys still talk? Can he see your facebook or anything? My advice if you're still friendly would be to tell him that you understand about his decision to break things off considering the long distance. Maintain and nurture that friendship if you can handle it. The truth is there may be someone else that is near by that he wants to give things a go with because long distance is hard, if that's the case then it makes things a little bit more difficult but keep in mind that very rarely do relationships really last the long haul, being patient and being his friend will keep you in his life. I don't mean to say pretend to be his friend, I mean to say genuinely be his friend (again if you can handle that, if it's too hard which for a lot of people it is, then distance yourself until you feel good about you). Take the time to nurture yourself, do things that you love to do, go out and have fun, make it a point to take lots of pictures so he sees that you're having fun living life and that you didn't put your life on hold because of him. I mean to say to do all these things genuinely don't pretend to have a good time without him, try and have a good time without him. Don't pretend to be his friend, genuinely be his friend. Eventually he will either miss you and worry that you're meeting new potential people, or you might actually meet someone new. But the important thing is to not throw away a good friendship unless you can't stand to be around them without wanting to be with them. Be friends and see how that goes, chances of being together again are much higher when you are in his life expecially if its long distance, than if you're not in his life at all. ...that's my two cents anyway
Tmo2 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 I was dumped on a similar situation, long distance, but not mainly because of it. She lacked communication and didn't tell me their were problems, she ''fell out of love''... I Tried to convince her that we could work it out but no success. Guys were actually hitting on her and seing I was dull (I was in a depression but she didnt knew, I started to take drugs and didnt tell her) she opened up to them and She is working on new relationships. For me staying friends was what I wanted... It kept me hoping I could fix myself and have her back... Unfortunatly, she has moved on. And seeing comments on facebook breaks my heart. We have talked on the phone wich is somewhat ok, but knowing she wont come back is heartbreaking anyways. I have decided to block her for good (Ihad blocked her only to re-invite her later) and to stop calling her. I have been dumped 1month ago and I am still in the same position as 2-3 weeks ago. This is extremely hard to deal with. I suggest you figure out if it is over for good (is there hope left?) and if it is to back off. Staying in contact when you are still in love is VERY HARD when the other person is drifting away everyday.
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