Heartbroken...coping

[Treasa]

My LD ex-boyfriend and I broke up tonight. I told him I needed more affection than just a quick email in the morning and a short phone call in the evening, especially since he doesn't have a job and spends all day playing video games and whatnot. He basically made me feel like ****, turned everything against me, and said he couldn't give me those things.

 

In the end, even though I didn't want to break up, we did, and now he doesn't want to try anymore.

 

I put up with either verbal abuse, SOME love, or being ignored for several months now, but it still really hurts. But I had to love myself more. I had to stand up for what I want and need in a relationship. And God, does it hurt. I'm used to pushing and clinging so hard that the guy breaks up with me, not standing up for myself and ending things if he doesn't want to give me what I need.

 

Did I do the right thing?

[cheerfuldoer]

It sounds like you did the right thing. I'm proud of you for knowing that you are worth more than that and standing up for yourself.

[veggirl]

You absolutely did the right thing. Your ex probably thinks you did him a favor bringing it up. He was content to treat you like s.hit for as long as you'd take it, just cause it's easier than initiating the break up. What a loser, plays video games all day? Really?

[Gottabestrong]

Yes, you did!

 

And wow, for a second there I thought I had posted this thread but forgot. I think we are in the same situation, only I did not have the guts to break up with my LD-boyfriend, even though all I have gotten from him during the last 2 months were 3 short, superficial texts per day. And when I told him how that hurts and how I don't even think he still loves me or wants to be in a relationship with me, he dumped me.

 

So yes, you totally did the right thing, and good for your for ending things first. Wish I had too.