brokenwingz Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 After 3 years of NC I wanted to have closure and no animosity with my ex BF of 6 years. After our breakup I will be honest I was a wreck, and very revengeful. He said he has no grudge with me and understands how hard it was on me. I'm single last relationship 6 months ago and him single 3 months since split with his child's mother. It started out great, he would initiate Morning and lots of flirting and talk leaning toward hanging out, he would bring up how he was thinking of good memories with me..this is all through text. Both want to remain friendly see where it goes he says. Honestly, either way it goes I will be fine..Im past it and happy, but will always care for him. But he started acting distant and I asked why? He then brings up how I acted after the breakup and "worries for whatever reason, I could act like that again" I explained and apologized,broke down and told him I had 3 years of therapy due to my heartbreak. I told him I was wrong and would never respond foolishly to whatever happens?? He said nothing in a week and I have not tried to text him again. Is he really still not over what happened 3 years ago? I thought we both moved on and were past this? I wanted at least a goodbye or we cant be friends kind of response..but nothing?? Let it go or text him again?
Tiera D Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 let him go stop living in false hope,i often advice people to read their own thread with a third parties views,can you not see he is stringing you along?let me emphasis there is NO need to send goodbye letters,NO need cannot be your buddy texts,just dissappear and delete your ex ,do not care him as a buddy treat him as a stranger when you ever saw him,he is giving some lame excuse to cut you lose,go permanent NC,you should see 3 years later he never seriously intended any serious reconciliation TD
Author brokenwingz Posted November 18, 2012 Author Posted November 18, 2012 let him go stop living in false hope,i often advice people to read their own thread with a third parties views,can you not see he is stringing you along?let me emphasis there is NO need to send goodbye letters,NO need cannot be your buddy texts,just dissappear and delete your ex ,do not care him as a buddy treat him as a stranger when you ever saw him,he is giving some lame excuse to cut you lose,go permanent NC,you should see 3 years later he never seriously intended any serious reconciliation TD He uses me at his convience when HE feels like talking..thats not good enough..maybe taking it slow or just being kind..I am okay with that..I no longer am bringing up the past or any kind of flirty comments..if he is interested then he needs to get aggressive cause honestly I am losing interest. I finally am no longer hanging by a thread waiting to hear from him..I am living..He is going thru issues with his baby's mother custody ect..I will give him his space. If he wants to try someday and Im available I may..right now I am not playing games..We didnt break up because we had issues..we were perfect..I had to move away to help my sick parents and he got tired of waiting..so our love died due to distance..so its like unfinished business Im not sure.
Tiera D Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 it is already ended when you brokeup the only thing that remained in attachment to a lost connection,and by the way dont say circumstances you both werent perfect if you breakup either way,what im saying is dont put your life on hold for him.like me i put my 3rd ex as one of my options,not as my primary,probably is something you should consider as well TD
Author brokenwingz Posted November 23, 2012 Author Posted November 23, 2012 it is already ended when you brokeup the only thing that remained in attachment to a lost connection,and by the way dont say circumstances you both werent perfect if you breakup either way,what im saying is dont put your life on hold for him.like me i put my 3rd ex as one of my options,not as my primary,probably is something you should consider as well TD Tiera..I feel empowered today..After things started off wonderful, fun,flirty,friendly, it quickly became apparent he still has communication issues, or someone else or he is just crazy..he would only reply at what he wanted to, avoid questions, avoid simple, how are you texts? I could not take anymore and sent him this: One month ago I thought oh hey its been 3 years we both moved on with other people, I need to make peace with you once and for all, seemed to be going well, then bam same exact cruelness as 3 years ago..ignoring me no explanation? If you didn't want to talk to me you should have just said so from day one..Pulling another dick move on me is sad. Remember you tricked me when I was in PA saying there was no one else, that you and I were gonna move in together, I sold all my belongings to pay for a place and I get here and you trashed a good relationship that worked for HER? Sure I was revengeful what the hell did you expect? You left me completely betrayed and crushed but yet here I am completely forgiving you and this is how you repay me??? No one said lets get back to where we left off.. I just wanted to be on good terms..and forgiveness from you and IF and when you want to talk about this..you got my number.I won't be texting you anymore..maybe someday you will see you had a good thing but pushed it away..atleast I know I'm a good person with a strong forgiving heart and I gave it my best shot..thanks :/ I feel like this was my closure me letting go..I am not sad, I feel relieved. I am not sure what he will think or even have the balls to reply, heck he probably blocked my number already. But why people can be so cold to others will always puzzle me.
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