sting_113 Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Hello, Right heres the story.... Moved to a new job in a new city around 2 years ago. Very first day I shown to my desk which was next to a very attractive girl. That first few weeks i was living in a hotel while i got myself sorted out, anyway as i was new to the city then girl sat next to me offered to walk me back to where i was staying (as i didnt have a clue where is was). I politely declined. Anyway we worked together for around 6 months and then she moved on. We goton well while we worked together and actually became quite close, but in thattime she started seeing somebody. After she moved, i split with my long term girlfriend - but had very littlecontact (if any) with said ex colleague. One day, I received an email off the said former colleague (who i'll callMiss x and the email was address to more than just myself) saying we should allget together for drinks, so we did and we all went out. That night i announcedi'd split from my relationship etc etc. and we all had a good time. A few months down the line i started dating a few other women and met one ireally liked. I went to Miss X for a bit of advice and we had a good chat onthe phone. She finished the convo with 'next time, can we do this over a beer?' i said of course. Few weeks down the line we went for said beer, but invited a few otherpeople. Nobody else showed up, so it was just myself and Miss X. We had a greatnight and stayed out until the early hours. As we'd had a few to drink and thenight was coming to a close i said 'crash at mine if you want?' and she took upthe offer. She came back, we had a few more drinks, chatted and then she got up andtook herself in my room and got into my bed. I was mindful she is with someonebut still got into bed with her, we chatted further and fell asleep. She leftthe next morning and then messaged me saying she'd had a great night we should do it again After that, she invited me to a few more things, but i was always busy andsometimes turned it down, being mindful again that she is with someone. Since that night, the relationship has grew stronger. We email and speak atleast 3 times a week. I was then invited to her birthday with some friends, so i went along. Herpartner was there that night, who i also got on well with as he is a good guy.That night, he went home early and wanted her to go with her... she wouldn't asshe wanted to stay out. Again, it was me and her left at the end of the night.We took a cab back and she came back to my place again. This time, i showed herto the spare room and then went to bed myself. She came into my room 30 minslater and said it was too cold in the other room and wanted to get into bedwith me. She jumped in, she snuggled into me and again we fell asleep...nothing happened again. As I’m an honest guy, I messaged her partner to say 'she is at mine safe andsound and sleeping in the spare room' i've not heard from him since, and ithink he is rightly pissed at me. Next morning, we went for breakfast and then she left. Again therelationship grows and we continue to chat a few times a week. Last night, i was meeting friends in town for a drink and i received anemail off Miss X before i left work asking what i was doing that evening anddid i fancy a drink? So i invited her along with my friends for the night outand again we had another great evening. We left together and made our way hometogether. This time, we passed hers and this time I made sure i didn’t ask ifshe wanted to crash at mine (even though i so desperately wanted to). As we gotcloser, it was obvious she didn’t want to leave - and then took ages to get offthe train as we pulled into her stop. I told her to let me know when she gothome safe. I got back and she give me call said she was home but then said 'ineeded you to look after me' i said 'well you could have stopped here, you'realways welcome' she replied with 'I would have but you were too vague' (which is correct). I got up for work this morning and she messaged me again with the usual'great night blah blah blah' but we've continued to message throughout the day. I know I’ve fallen for this girl MASSIVELY, but she is with someone else. Iwould never ever tell her while she was with this other person because a) I’mno homewrecker and b) i would never want to put her into such a situation andc) she might just think of me as a friend... that’s my question really... c), does she think of me as a friend or doesshe having feelings for me. She is always saying how hot she thinks i am andhow i'm a catch. She also mentioned about when i first started and how she wassingle at the time, but i unfortunately had a girlfriend. Am I miss reading thesignals??? What do i do, leave it - continue to worship the ground she walks on andnever tell her how i feel... then regret it for the rest of my days? or tellher with the threat of never seeing her again and making an ass of myself?? I've always thought she was with her now boyfriend because he’s a nice man,has a good job and she wants to settle down Ahhhhh i really dont know... help me?!?!?!
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