innanjing Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 Hi: I am a Canadian guy teaching in China for the last year. I have had a chinese girlfriend there for about 10 months, we have lived together for about 7 of those months. She is 23 and I am 53, but we have always gotten along incredibly great. There has been an abundance of love between us. However, as good as it has always been, whenever i got frustrated and angry over things, as we all do, she said she was hurt and would be upset and took it personally, when in fact, it was not her at all. A couple of times she would move back home, or say we were through, but we would get back together again, we could not stand to be without each other. Recently, I came back to Canada to visit family, and she was a bit upset over this. But a couple of weeks ago, we got into a bit of a tiff, she had gone to visit friends and had said to meet her on msn on a tuesday, but did not get back until Friday, which upset me cause i missed her and was also concerned. Not jealous, not at all. But I was angry and when she got my email she got really mad and said we were done, over, finished. Ok. But now, she still says i will always be her baby doll, that she misses me, loves me forever, will go to Shanghai when i get back next week to meet me there and make sure i get home, etc, etc. She is still living in our apartment she says, until i return. She is now bringing up all of the things she can think of, like that i woke her up one night at midnight to watch a movie, and she was tired, but you must know that she did not have to work at all the next day. And that I hurt her so bad, emotionally, that she sat on the floor with the dog and cried. So she says it is definitely over, she will never come back to me. So, why still discuss the past then, if it is over should it not be just that, over? Is it not a bit abnormal to even talk about this if in fact it is finished? And why would she come to Shanghai to meet me, if it is truly over, knowing that all those emotions that I have, and I assume her also, will spill out when we see each other? And saying that i will always be her baby doll, she misses me, etc? What is this all about? She also answers all my questions with responses like I don't know, i don't think so, never a direct answer, other than when she says we are finished. I asked her if she will stay at the apartment we have shared on the night i get back to China, and she said "I don't know" followed by "I don't think so". Confusing and not really a concrete response at all in my eyes. So, if anyone out there can give me some concrete advice on what is really happening here, I would appreciate it a lot. I need to understand this so that I can sleep at night again. Thanks
Dork Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 53 and she's 23. you were her asianphile cradle robbing sugar daddy. that's all, come on..you really think it was serious?
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