Over it

[Lisa_Lisa]

He's off the pedestal. I don't dream about him anymore or wish things could be different. I don't care if we're friends or what he's doing. He could be with someone now and really love her, I'm okay with that. I wish him the best.

 

I realize he wasn't who I thought he was and I was looking at things through rose colored glasses. He wasn't right for me in the end. If I ever see him again I'd like for us to act civil to each other, and that's about it.

 

I care about him as a human being, but no longer wish to be by his side.

[Krioyo_baby20]

How did u manage to do that? I am still dreaming about him. I know he is not the one for me, but when i go out and meet new people i am always comparing them with him. He is with some one else already but i am still the same. Still feeling sad and very lonely.

[Lisa_Lisa]

It takes time...I do still think about him, but not in the way I used to. I'm still hurt, but it's not a pain that washes over me. It's rather a tiny little sting that goes away just as fast as it came.

 

It's probably not a good idea to go out with anybody because all you'll be doing is comparing..and you're ex will always come out winning. So don't do it. Hang out with friends...talk about him till you're blue in the face...it's nice to get things off your chest.

 

Keep a journal. I do that. Most of my entries were about him and my last wasn't so that's how I know he's not worth my time writing about anymore.

 

It's true that they say time heals all wounds. I spent more time getting over him than the actual relationship...and before him it took me years to get over another guy.

 

But you can't mope around. You have to want to help yourself. He's not gonna care that you still care. So you have to do it for yourself.

[Lisa_Lisa]

I wanted to post my feelings here because a lot of people on this site get over it and never post again. So I just wanted to let everyone know that I've made progress and I'm not whining, moping, or hoping anymore.