a2nxtc28 Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 Hey guys im new here.Anyways,i was dumped.I thought i hit rock bottom. I met this guy 9 months ago he's 32 im 26.He was in the process of a divorce after 5 yrs. of marriage and they have a daughter.Eventhou they were in a process of a divorce,his wife thought i was the reason why they seperated.Despite of all of the troubles she gave me(calling me and harrassing me)i still continue the realionship coz he was so nice to me and he really showed me that he love me,treated me like a guy never treated me b4.He said im so different from his wife,that's she didnt treat him right that's why they argue too much about everything he couldn take it anymore.I know he was happy with what was going on with us but i was surprised and wondering why i never heard anything about his divorce again.I asked him and he told me that he didint wanna rush it coz he was trying to get a house,"our house"he said.Yes he asked me to moved in with him.He didnt want them to see that he's paying a child support,they might think that he's not gonna be able to afford it. We were already talking about marriage, moving in together and having kids of our own blah,blah.All the good stuff! I was so inlove and felt so loved.It's like a dream come true. When he got the house ha had changed.He became so busy that his calls were becoming less and less.Then one night when we went out he acted so stranged..cold.Iasked him if he still love me and then told me that he just want us to be firends 4 now,that he need to spend more time with his daughter.I still dont get it.I thought he loved me.Just talked to him the other day,he sound so happy talking about his new house.He said he's enjoying his bachelor life right now.How can he be so happy and im here so miserable!Im so depress!How can he do these to me.
Dork Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 He is looking for a mother. You are not mother material for his child. He seems kinda happy... probably a sign that he met someone else.
Author a2nxtc28 Posted August 6, 2004 Author Posted August 6, 2004 He never let me meet his child or his family.He said it will confuse the child and too early to meet his family coz he just ended a five year relationship with his wife. And another reason was his daughter might say something to her mom about meeting me which would upset her and take his priviledge to see his daughter again like she did before when she found out about us.He knew i love kids.His daughter was never an issue when we were dating just recently when he got his new house.And i was anxious to meet his daughter but everytime he said he's gonna let me meet her he always change his mind.Im a nice person and i was willing to do anything he wants me to do to make him happy.He knew that.
EC Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 I think he was married and was tired of it. He met you and you were fun and different and you made him realize he did not want to be married anymore and that there was more out there. Then you gave him the inspiration to get a divorce and buy a new house. Now he's single and loving it..after a long marriage he's not going to settle down for a while. I'm sorry but you were a stepping stone for him. At least thats what I'm thinking.
YellowLioness Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 hon, I think you were rebound. He was just missing being in love, and used you to help him get over his ex wife.
Author a2nxtc28 Posted August 6, 2004 Author Posted August 6, 2004 Well all the things u said was true..i guess i just dont want to admit it.Im still not over him,im trying to forget him.He still calls me and text me and still ask me to hang out with him(we did hang out a couple of times and had sex a couple of times) All my fault..i know.Somehow i know deep inside im still hoping..now im really cutting off our communication which i shld. have done when he broke up with me.There's a lot of guys out there..why am i making myself go crazy over a guy who obviously dont care about me.Give me two more weeks..ill be over him!WAAAAH!!!
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