The top 5 things that make you successful with women.

[Necromancer]

This is only my view, not in the right order. Hate if you want to or tell me if i am wrong. Since i am in collage most young people don´t have big amount of money so it doesn't count here.

 

1. Face: (if you fail on this one, your pretty much out of luck. Face is your key to success with women.)

 

2. Height: Not being under 5´10, (I know few who don´t want boyfriends over 6´0, and their boyfriends are indeed in the 5´8-5´10 range).

 

3. Body: Having really ripped or muscular body. (everyone can get this with hard work and you don´t even need to be that big.)

 

4. Confident: being idiotically confident and treat women like children. (most guys are not like this).

 

5. Popular: being wanted by other women, the more the better.

 

Being kind/funny/gentleman don´t make it on the list.

 

Anyone disagree?.

[KathyM]

1. Handsome face.

 

2. Attractive body.

 

3. Charming/charismatic personality.

 

4. Interesting lifestyle.

 

5. Intelligence.

 

I wouldn't put popularity in the top five, although it may go with having a charismatic personality. I think handsome guys usuallly get more than their share of options in women if they put themselves out there at all.

[rocketman122]

This is only my view, not in the right order. Hate if you want to or tell me if i am wrong. Since i am in collage most young people don´t have big amount of money so it doesn't count here.

 

1. Face: (if you fail on this one, your pretty much out of luck. Face is your key to success with women.)

 

2. Height: Not being under 5´10, (I know few who don´t want boyfriends over 6´0, and their boyfriends are indeed in the 5´8-5´10 range).

 

3. Body: Having really ripped or muscular body. (everyone can get this with hard work and you don´t even need to be that big.)

 

4. Confident: being idiotically confident and treat women like children. (most guys are not like this).

 

5. Popular: being wanted by other women, the more the better.

 

Being kind/funny/gentleman don´t make it on the list.

 

Anyone disagree?.

 

 

your age shows..this list will work well in college/HS but thats it. thats your opinion and I respect it.

 

i'll comment only on your list. I dont put much effort to a "list" like you do. its irrelevant. I dont try to be someone according to a list.

 

face- yes, but if body is there, it can make up for average or a bit less. but yes, its important.

 

body-sorry, the bigger I got the more I get. nothing to talk about. im getting bigger and get tons of looks from woman. my GF goes crazy when we go out because I get constant looks from woman. she constantly fights with. "why were you looking at her and flirting with the other one" when you dress nice, have a big muscular physique and youre tall, you will get a lot of attention. I never had this much attention before BB.

 

height-sorry, from the comments I read from OLD and those tweets people linked here ,woman want a 6'+ guy. the ones who dont want a 5'10" and higher are in the minority. it is the number one most requested thing by woman when I was OLD. they wrote, no less than "x high" btw, whats your height?

 

confidence has nothing to do with how you treat woman. woman love how I treat them nicely (im no sucker) and it has nothing to do with my confidence. I do very well. when youre a big boy, you exude confidence without even saying a single word. the way you stand, and walk. your body language all show confidence. I dont talk about it but when youre healthy and look fit you feel good and that radiates off you. knowing you look better than the good majority around you works wonders to your ego and confidence.

 

usually those who talk about it all the time, usually lack it. its not about acting either. did the godfather walk around saying look how much confidence I have? you sensed it. he has presence and intimidates people. silent but deadly no pun intended.

 

popularity--what are we new kids on the block? cmon man. where;s appearance/dressing/grooming on your list?

 

and the last three "Being kind/funny/gentleman" is what will set you apart. I see you're just following a list but these 3 things are very important.

 

being kind-dont mistake that for being a sucker. I put my foot down and can be an azzhole when I need to be. but always be kind. the woman melt when you think about them and make an effort and help them when they need it. and I never got friendzoned for being kind.

funny-yea, im very good in the dirty joke dept.

gentlemen-its what sets me apart from the rest. when I date, im ALWAYS a gentlemen and ALWAYS chivalrous and romantic!!!

 

you have much to learn and your list is off. you will mature and see things differently. at your age I was cocky and thought I had dating pat down but for me today, I have more options than I can want. you'll get there.

Edited November 16, 2012 by rocketman122

[lovebug1234]

agree with most, except treating women like children, which doesn't make any sense at all

popularity i also don't care too much about. i don't fight other women for a man.

a man who is confident enough to love me gets my attention.

 

being hot, smart, sexy, tall, charismatic but not cocky is pretty high up there though.

[USMCHokie]

For the college age folks, this is about right...there's much more value in the external qualities than the internal simply because most college aged kids lack the awareness and capacity to recognize and appreciate internal qualities. At this age, I'd certainly caveat "confidence" to be the overt display of confidence rather than the true confidence we feel about ourselves. That's why i feel that faking confidence is so effective in attracting younger women...they simply don't know any better.

[somedude81]

This is only my view, not in the right order. Hate if you want to or tell me if i am wrong. Since i am in collage most young people don´t have big amount of money so it doesn't count here.

 

1. Face: (if you fail on this one, your pretty much out of luck. Face is your key to success with women.)

 

2. Height: Not being under 5´10, (I know few who don´t want boyfriends over 6´0, and their boyfriends are indeed in the 5´8-5´10 range).

 

3. Body: Having really ripped or muscular body. (everyone can get this with hard work and you don´t even need to be that big.)

 

4. Confident: being idiotically confident and treat women like children. (most guys are not like this).

 

5. Popular: being wanted by other women, the more the better.

 

Being kind/funny/gentleman don´t make it on the list.

 

Anyone disagree?.

I'd merge height and body. Women want a guy who is average height with an above average body.

 

Then that leaves an opening for money.

 

So my list is

 

1. Good looks

 

2. Nice body, tall and fit.

 

3. Confident: Not caring what anybody else thinks, do and get what you want.

 

4. Reputation: Be known. This includes popularity, be connected knowing what's going, being famous, having power etc.

 

5. Be rich.

[olivec]

I'd merge height and body. Women want a guy who is average height with an above average body.

 

Then that leaves an opening for money.

 

So my list is

 

1. Good looks

 

2. Nice body, tall and fit.

 

3. Confident: Not caring what anybody else thinks, do and get what you want.

 

4. Reputation: Be known. This includes popularity, be connected knowing what's going, being famous, having power etc.

 

5. Be rich.

 

I agree with everything except height. i'm 5/7 and i've dated girls 5/9 all the way up to 5/11 and had no problems. being confident is very important and having style dressing nice big factors because you want a woman to think your sexy right off the bat.

[SteveC80]

1. Handsome face.

 

2. Attractive body.

 

3. Charming/charismatic personality.

 

4. Interesting lifestyle.

 

5. Intelligence.

 

I wouldn't put popularity in the top five, although it may go with having a charismatic personality. I think handsome guys usuallly get more than their share of options in women if they put themselves out there at all.

 

I agree looks are first and foremost.When i was in my prime i was kind of aloof and a jerk quite honestly but since i was good looking it didnt matter much

 

The myth that looks arent high on a womens list is bs,they value it as much if not more then Men

 

A womens life revolves around VANITY and judging her own looks and others you honestly think looks alone on a man dont have a strong effect on women? lol

[MrCastle]

I'm in college, have an average body, and I'm short. And I'm pretty successful with the ladies. So I guess this doesn't apply to me.

[Hawakai]

I'm in college, have an average body, and I'm short. And I'm pretty successful with the ladies. So I guess this doesn't apply to me.

 

You probably have an handsome face.

[KathyM]

I agree looks are first and foremost.When i was in my prime i was kind of aloof and a jerk quite honestly but since i was good looking it didnt matter much

 

The myth that looks arent high on a womens list is bs,they value it as much if not more then Men

 

A womens life revolves around VANITY and judging her own looks and others you honestly think looks alone on a man dont have a strong effect on women? lol

Looks are probably the #1 draw for both men and women. And that doesn't really change with age. I'd venture to say most middle aged people who are attractive still would have plenty of offers from other people. Even older people are attracted to others who have kept up an attractive appearance (for their age). So people who are blessed in that department are going to have success with people of the opposite sex, although as people get older, I think they're more inclined to take other attributes into consideration as well.

[somedude81]

I'm in college, have an average body, and I'm short. And I'm pretty successful with the ladies. So I guess this doesn't apply to me.

Do you have any ideas why you are successful?

[MrCastle]

Do you have any ideas why you are successful?

 

I don't know. Pics are in my profile. I don't think I'm gonna be modeling anytime soon but I think my looks are servicable enough. I credit my success to being bold, confident, funny and charming. My personality is what carries me.

[Hawakai]

I don't know. Pics are in my profile. I don't think I'm gonna be modeling anytime soon but I think my looks are servicable enough. I credit my success to being bold, confident, funny and charming. My personality is what carries me.

 

This might be like saying water sates your thirst, but you get laid that much because you look like a bad boy.

[MrCastle]

This might be like saying water sates your thirst, but you get laid that much because you look like a bad boy.

 

Ha. Well that's interesting. I certainly carry myself as such. Meaning I make my own rules and do my own thing, but not bad in the sense I disrespect or belittle people or break the law or anything. I like the term "rebel" over bad boy. James Dean is my idol and I'd be lying if I said I didn't learn a thing or two from him and applied it to real life.

[Hawakai]

Ha. Well that's interesting. I certainly carry myself as such. Meaning I make my own rules and do my own thing, but not bad in the sense I disrespect or belittle people or break the law or anything. I like the term "rebel" over bad boy. James Dean is my idol and I'd be lying if I said I didn't learn a thing or two from him and applied it to real life.

 

 

I know what you mean. I'm nothing to look at and I'm skinny but I tend to notice that when I'm pissed off and it shows, and when I go cave-man by not shaving my face for weeks the hot chicks in my college begin to check me out a lot and become nervous. I am very off-put to them because I reason I have no chance, so I am friendlly to women who are in my league looks wise - and guess what?

 

Its like I'm their little brother, LOL.

 

And yeah. James Dean is also my model of what a man should be like(not conformist to the society that hates him) and I also consider him to be one of hollywood's finest-looking actors of ever.

Edited November 16, 2012 by Hawakai

[Sith Apprentice]

1. Wealth and Social Status - There have been numerous sociological studies done on this and time and time again it has been proven that there's nothing more attractive than a man with money.

 

All the sudden that 4 becomes a 10 when she find out he's got a million dollars in the bank. Having a cute face and a great body isn't gonna do you a damn bit of good if you're working at Burger King or taking the city bus.

 

2. Height- There's a genetic lottery in play and if you're under 5'10 you got the **** end of the stick. Your face and body won't do you a bit of good if you don't meet her minimum height requirement.

 

3. Face- Chiseled jawline, high cheekbones, pronounced chin. Irrelevant if you're wealthy

 

4. Body

 

5. Game

 

In conclusion, it's all about money, looks, and game. Have 2 out of 3.

[KraftDinner]

Men put a lot more stock into a guy being ripped than women do.

 

Looks matter, big time. But often it's hard to pin down what makes a guy look good. The formula nice face-height-body isn't all there is to it. Most of what is attractive to women is impossible to define, so putting it down to a formula is silly and a waste of time.

 

And often, the very same things that make men popular with other men are what make men attractive to women.

 

When men moan about girls only finding super-hot guys attractive, I can't help but wonder if they're only talking about super-hot girls. Like they don't even notice the plain chicks, just see what the hotties are doing...and then complain that women don't like the plain men. HELLO.

[Imajerk17]

MY list:

 

1) Energy/Confidence--fun to be around and socially at ease with other people.

 

2) Social skills--saying the right thing at the right time in the right way. If you really insist that is the same as social skills, I don't think I can argue against that.

 

3) Ambition.

 

4) Physical dominance. Many women just need to be with a guy with a bigger body.

 

5) Looks.

 

Note my ORDER. I put looks LAST in the above list.

Edited November 17, 2012 by Imajerk17

[GirlontheLam]

MY list:

 

1) Energy/Confidence--fun to be around and socially at ease with other people.

 

2) Social skills--saying the right thing at the right time in the right way. If you really insist that is the same as social skills, I don't think I can argue against that.

 

3) Ambition.

 

4) Physical dominance. Many women just need to be with a guy with a bigger body.

 

5) Looks.

 

Note my ORDER. I put looks LAST in the above list.

 

This sounds a lot closer to reality.....

[IT Geek]

1. Wealth and Social Status - There have been numerous sociological studies done on this and time and time again it has been proven that there's nothing more attractive than a man with money.

 

This is absolutely incorrect. I have a six figure salary, a home and vacation condo, and a 7 figure portfolio but because of my looks (overweight and a face only a mother can love) I can't get a date.

[USMCHokie]

Keep in mind the age group that OP focused on...

[GravityMan]

This is absolutely incorrect. I have a six figure salary, a home and vacation condo, and a 7 figure portfolio but because of my looks (overweight and a face only a mother can love) I can't get a date.

 

You have wealth, but that doesn't indicate that you have social status (friends, being well-connected, power, respect, etc.).

 

On topic, I think Imajerk's list is pretty good. Maybe I'd flip #3 and #4 but that's about it. Also, guys don't necessarily have to be super-outgoing, boisterous and extroverted in order to satisfy #1. There is this thing called "quiet, modest confidence". Guys who don't feel the need to prove anything to anyone tend to be like that.

[2.50 a gallon]

The one factor not mentioned on the list that trumps them all is simply just learning about women. Much like a history class, one has to study the subject, and those that study and learn make the grade.

 

Then it doesn't matter what you look like, whether you have a 6-pack or not or how large of a wallet you have.

 

It is learning what they like, how they like to have fun, how to talk to them and more important how to get them to talk to you. Then once you have gained their confidence and if you listen they will tell you how to seduce them

[Mrlonelyone]

1.) Demonstrated intelligence through high achievement, humor, art, music, and activities.

 

2.)Popularity and Charisma follows naturally from demonstrating intelligence to people of similar taste and intelligence. A male or female who is leader of a research group in microbiology is as much alpha as the captain of the lacrosse team. Leadership is always an aphrodisiac (In college this boils down to a womans friends opinions of you much of the time.)

 

3.)Looks. I have seen people who look every which way get laid and have relationships if they had the first two things. However looks can compensate for a time for a lack of intelligence and charisma. In college since most young men don't really have #1 and #2 #3 becomes more important. That said, mature intelligent people realize that #3 is not the basis for a relationship.

 

0.) In college most people seem to want to just hang out and hook up without any long term promises being made. In college it's really more about getting ones short to medium term needs met. Some people do find a real relationship there, not many.

 

A word on height, masculinity and selection, what does the data say?:

 

When it comes to looks I question weather traditional 20th/21st century"masculinity" is all it's cracked up to be. Plenty of young women want to do Justin Beiber. Plenty wanted to do David Bowie, or Prince, etc.

 

Over time Y chromosomal lines in which the men don't have what many here call the "Alpha" look do just fine. Overtime, as the course of our evolution for the last six million years shows, the most attractive quality in a mate is intelligence. I think that is true even in college. Otherwise we would all look like cavemen by now and there would be more sexual dimorphism not less, as compared to other great apes.

 

Female gorilla's for example weigh 61% as much as males. While among humans males and females generally weigh about the same. Such that the BMI scale can be scientifically meaningful to the health of both sexes. Perhaps that need for a man to outweigh her yet be healthy drives women to want height.

 

The average US white woman is 5'4. While the average US white man is about 5'10". Enough for the average woman to stand on 3" heels and still be towered over and all that by an average man.

 

TLDR: Intelligence begets charisma confidence and leadership of intelligent people. Looks matter but not too much. In college people mainly just hook up and hang out (Looking back those relationships were generally about that). As for height that doesn't really matter if your at least 5'8"...set your sights on a woman who is 6" shorter than you there are plenty of them.

Edited November 17, 2012 by Mrlonelyone
Edited to be more on topic.