StupidAmI Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Hi everyone... Thanks for reading this. A friend told me about this site and since I'm too embarrassed to talk to anyone I know... My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me. He's very attentive, very affectionate with me, always holding my hand/touching me but. Well. Never wants to have sex. It's killing me. I don't know what to do, but I feel like crap. It's really starting to make me feel ugly and totally unappealing. I don't understand what's wrong with me. The other morning I was on MY laptop and saw a bunch of porn tabs open. Now here's the thing. I watch porn all the time because he sure isn't putting out BUT, I delete the history right away so, yeah... It was his. I have no problems with him watching porn as long as he's still interested in having sex with ME. Frig. There is just NO passion from him at all. None. The last time we had sex I, of course, initiated it and it really felt like he was doing a chore. It could be that I'm terrible in bed but, I don't even think that's it. I didn't confront him on the porn because who the heck am I to say anything about that? It just hurts to know that he'd rather whack off than screw me. I don't want to have a fight. I love him, and if I say ANYTHING it will more than likely just lead to a row. It's gotten to the point now though that if a man even looks at me for more than a few seconds I get really excited and happy. Then incredibly depressed because the guy I go home with is about as excited about me as a sandwich.
amaysngrace Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Did you talk to him about it? Not the porn but the lack of sex? I'd start there.
FitChick Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 How has your appearance changed since you first met? Why don't you suggest watching porn together?
dreamingoftigers Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Sigh..... Usual BS guy hooked on his porn won't go near his gf/wife type. Just dump him, it won't get better, you are going to scrap about it non-stop. When guys are refusing the real thing and turning to the palm sisters for comfort, they don't deserve to be your boyfriend. And yes, he's going to have every stupid excuse in the book. Ten bucks says he's not even a great kisser. We already know he isn't passionate. Despite what a portion of men think, you can't **** everything...... you only have a certain amount of energy and time in a day, and if it all goes towards porn, there is no sense in holding a girlfriend hostage. Set the bar higher and try again.
pteromom Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 "Hey. I need to talk to you. I don't know what is going on, but I need sex and love and affection in our relationship. I can't help but notice that you don't seem to need any of that stuff, but I do. Tell me what is going on with you, so we can either solve this problem, or I can move on."
TigerCub Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Sigh..... Usual BS guy hooked on his porn won't go near his gf/wife type. Just dump him, it won't get better, you are going to scrap about it non-stop. When guys are refusing the real thing and turning to the palm sisters for comfort, they don't deserve to be your boyfriend. And yes, he's going to have every stupid excuse in the book. Ten bucks says he's not even a great kisser. We already know he isn't passionate. Despite what a portion of men think, you can't **** everything...... you only have a certain amount of energy and time in a day, and if it all goes towards porn, there is no sense in holding a girlfriend hostage. Set the bar higher and try again. Agreed!!! Op, if you stay with him and keep fighting this battle, he will completely destroy whatever self esteem you have left. I would say "If you're not going to **** me, I'll find someone who will - so have fun wackin off - we're done!!" Honestly!! Don't go down that road with him, this will eat away at you until you feel like you're worthless and ugly and have absolutely no self esteem left. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Whatever you do, don't marry the guy!
venusianx13 Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 What was your sex life before the change in his behavior?
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