griffinchicken53 Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 I'm in my early 30s but I guess i'm starting to feel like I need to settle. Here is some back story. I've never had luck because I've made ill-advised choices. I got wrapped up in Hollywood's ideal relationship. Recently I've taken interest in someone, and there is this feeling of excitement of thinking they might say yes if i ask them out. she declined, which is ok. It did have me bummed out. But when someone is telling me, you should ask out __________. There is no excitement, just a "blah" feeling. I'll do it just to get the person off my case about it. It's not like I feel it should be. I'm all into that true love emotional stuff, soulmates and whatnot. I see people's good relationships and that is what I want. I don't get that. I was told I needed to ask out my friend's girlfriend's friend. And I did. Only thing we had in common was we were both single. My friend and his girlfriend were always out having a good time, going on trips, kinky sex. This was in college, she was senior in high school. She had strict parents, we could talk only a few times a week, i could go to here house once a month and we could go on a date once a month. I complained to the friend that i wasn't happy. His response "just be glad someone said they would go out with you" i guess that hurt my feelings. We weren't that compatible and I realized I was changing things about myself because I didn't want to be alone" Fast forward more than a decade, all my friends are married, some with kids. I feel like i'm going to have to settle. I won't get the excitement, the passion, just mediocrity, and i'm always going to feel like i'm missing out. who knows, there's a woman out there who's saying she's going to have to settle, and we can grow old together, but with underlying resentment. Yea, I'm just not sure what to do, this is always in the back of my mind, thinking it is going to turn out horrible.
Author griffinchicken53 Posted November 16, 2012 Author Posted November 16, 2012 Also just to add something. I don't want to have to lie to someone, tell them they are beautiful if i feel no attraction to them whatsoever. That did happen, I was hanging out with this girl i know from a mutual aquaintance. Had a couple of drinks and made out a little. I felt nothing, i'm there trying to think of something else to keep kissing because I don't want to hurt her feelings. I almost felt grossed out. So just another aspect of the not wanting to "settle"
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