Benjii Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 I don't really know how to start this as I've never posted anything online but I figured I'd tell this story and see what people think about it, anyway here goes. I'm 19 I'm a soldier in the British army, I'm a paratrooper, dial it back a few months and I was a nothing, me and my fiancée had a baby together who we found out was blind, which shook our world but we stuck fast and stayed together, In order to provide for my family I decided to join the army, take myself out of my comfort zone and prove myself, I went through the process of joining and got myself a place to train, my fiancée was very supportive but times got so bad during depot, I'd get beaten, thrashed, victimised etc, I'd literally come home a broken man, but my fiancée was there for me the whole time, I gave her my love, support and we got through it all. However, one week I came home she was different and I didn't understand why so we spoke about it and it ended up in an arguement, I left to go back to depot and it played on my mind, week after week carried on the same way until we decided we should have a break for a bit, it was during this break my mother discovered on her phone explicit texts and pictures, as well as evidence she had been meeting three different blokes for months while I was away training, needless to say this has devastated me, then she stopped me from having access to my baby, so I haven't been able to see her for weeks. I really don't know what to do, I'm in bits, I can't eat, can't sleep, I'm useless and im supposed to be a soldier. It's got me to the point where I don't even know what to do anymore, I tried to hang myself In the drying room and the belt snapped, I couldn't even do that properly. It's funny how life turns out. Anyway, thank you, just thought I'd share this story.
Later82012 Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Go to your superiors for help and report everything including your victimization. How do you decide to take your life over a worthless woman? I hope you think of your baby next time if you ever think of doing something like this again. How did you decide to abandon your kid like this and you tell us she is blind? Doesn't she need you? Your fiancee cannot block you from having access to your kid. She is your baby too. You can go to court over this. If you do not have the money for this I hope the army will help you or you can always ask your family and friends for help and there always will be people to help for any good cause. 2
Chi townD Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Go see a lawyer. You have rights as a father and you need someone to help you fight for those rights. Number two, NO girl is worth ending your life over. NOT ONE! Go see the doc and get put on some anti-depressants. Nothing wrong with a little medication to help you through a rough patch. Right now, you and the Finacee are done. Over. Your job is to be the best Dad to that kid that you can be. She needs her Dad in her life, do take that away from her. 2
dasein Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 So sorry you have had to go through this. Please seek professional health and guidance. Your fiance' is a filthy pig, get shed and get out. In time, if you do this, you will feel better. You are so young and with just a little effort can be free of this person to have a full, rich life, don't let this ruin you. Demand a paternity test on the existing child and seek legal advice with respect to that also. No idea what the law is there, but there may be a chance for you to void support if the child is someone else's. Don't let her awful actions ruin your valuable life. 1
Later82012 Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 OP, I hope you are alright. Every army has medical, mental healthcare and legal wings. You should already know this. I was telling you just in case. I do not know what rules and regulations they have for helping you but if you go to your superiors they will help you get all the help you need.
Author Benjii Posted November 18, 2012 Author Posted November 18, 2012 No your right, that was the most selfish and stupid thing I could do, and it didn't work for a reason, that reason was so I could have a good hard look at myself and appreciate what I have left, but thank you everyone for the reply. I haven't done anything like that since. 1
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