SPOON Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 I've recently been dumped by my boyfriend of 6 years for one of his coworkers. We had a son when we were in high school and we have managed to keep our relationship going well into college. He left me out of nowhere. I'm beginning to get over him, though I'm still pretty devastated. I'm still a full time student and I live with my parents. I'm new to LS and from what I've been reading, the fastest way to get over a break up is through NC. I just wanted to know if there are any exceptions to the NC rule when you have kids. It seems a bit impossible to have absolutely no contact with him. The holidays are coming up and my son is really looking forward to spending time with his father's side of the family. I would like to fully implement NC, but he's still family. Any suggestions?
KathyM Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 I would suggest that, for your children's sake, make sure they have plenty of contact with their father, and you should facilitate that. So you're going to need to maintain contact with your ex in order to arrange visitation. But keep the contact related to the children. Try to keep the drama to a minimum, for your children's sake.
amaysngrace Posted November 16, 2012 Posted November 16, 2012 Compromise on when you each will have the children. Don't be overly greedy and don't be overly generous. Just be fair. But you are definitely going to need to talk to him regularly if you have children. There's no getting past that. One thought that helps me out is to remember that I love my children more than I hate him. No matter how much I'm hating him at a particular moment. It's my mantra to keep me focused.
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