Ruby Slippers Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 See i'm a guy who actually wants a relationship and eventually marriage. I know the op said women to express their points of view but i have to say dating in my 30's has been the most frustrating experience. i've had two long term relationships in my 30's. one was almost 2 years and the last being almost a year. I dont know why its soo difficult to meet a quality person but for me it is and its soo much more dissappointing when things don't work out. My 20's i always felt like i had tons of time to meet someone and was convince by my 30's i be married and have kids. I find to that nobody wants to trust anymore men and women and the explosion of online dating has alot to do with it because if you dont like one person you just click on another "profile". Hopefully well all meet that "right" person and our frustrations will turn into happiness. I recommend having open conversations with the women you date about these topics. My fella and I covered a lot of this ground early on. We talked in depth about how the modern world, with OLD, social media, porn, etc., has many ways of giving this illusion of endless choice, and how sad it is to fall prey to that. We discussed how we weren't interested in trying out different "flavors", but were looking for that one special person. We both want something lasting, so we were comfortable talking about our intentions for marriage and kids early. Only a person who's not looking for something serious - in general or with you - will dodge these topics. 1
LittlePrince Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 So I'm curious how dating is like for women in their thirties. The friends of mine who are in their early thirties and attractive seem to be doing great but not so much the average looking ones but they didn't do that good in their twenties either. So yeah, I appreciate some honest detailed responses from women above thirty. Ps: If you're one of the known woman haters on this forum, do not post in my thread. I don't really care what you have to say and I don't really want to have to chase You off again.You really need details on how attractive women have it made and others not so much. Are you going to be living vicariously through the tales of a beautiful woman so you can feel some measure of romance? There is always Twilight and many romance novels at the bookstore for that.
Mint Sauce Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 Here in continental western europe, there seems to be a bit of a 2nd wave around early thirties. People who got married too son (<25) are divorced by 30, putting them back on the market. Of course this does imply that sometimes kids enter the equation.
olivec Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 I recommend having open conversations with the women you date about these topics. My fella and I covered a lot of this ground early on. We talked in depth about how the modern world, with OLD, social media, porn, etc., has many ways of giving this illusion of endless choice, and how sad it is to fall prey to that. We discussed how we weren't interested in trying out different "flavors", but were looking for that one special person. We both want something lasting, so we were comfortable talking about our intentions for marriage and kids early. Only a person who's not looking for something serious - in general or with you - will dodge these topics. Thats what made the last two girls i dated very frustrating. I wanted something serious however it seemed they wanted flings even after me telling them what i wanted. i'm not sure what the problem is bad luck i dont know. What you said was very true and i will continue to stay positive and keep myself out there. 1
NoMoreJerks Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 i have to say, i am very anxious about what my 30s are gonna look like, in terms of relationships. i am not in one at the moment, and i am turning 30 in a few months. i hven't really had much of a dating experience in my 20s either. Well, the only experience I have all happened in the past 2 years. the problem is that i have a very small circle of friends, and the school where i do my phd is an undergraduate school for the most part, so, very few people my age / at my level of education, not to mention, very few opportunities to meet phd students from other departments (since my phd program is tiny and all the men are taken/married). not only that, but my friends are, for the most part, from one ethnicity (which is predominant in the city i live in), and i have to admit , guys of that ethnicity, come last on my list of men i am attracted to (if they do make it to that list...). so , no interest in meeting friends of friends with the hopes that something might come out of it...... sigh.
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